Showing posts with label needs. Show all posts
Showing posts with label needs. Show all posts

Monday, October 5, 2026

Discharging the Past to Welcome the New



Discharging the Past to Welcome the New

Inspiration

By Kate Spreckley

October 5, 2026


October is a month of profound introspection and inner work where you will be called to confront the unconscious patterns that shape how you relate to both yourself and others. Initially, the energies will challenge you to deepen your self-awareness by uncovering the fears, desires, and needs that drive your reactions and behaviour.  The energy is fast and volatile, which can feel overwhelming and exhausting. You may feel like you are on an emotional and mental pendulum today as you discharge old energetic programming that no longer aligns with who you are becoming. Because these energies are highlighting your relational patterns, the unconscious fears and desires you carry will most likely be mirrored back to you through your interactions with others. You may find that old wounds around boundaries, validation, or the fear of rejection are being actively triggered.

A common coping mechanism right now is dissociation or checking out, as the sheer intensity triggers the body’s natural defence mechanism of pulling inward and demanding sleep or isolation. Remember that what is being illuminated is showing you where you have compromised your own authenticity to maintain a false sense of peace. Do not attempt to force, fix, or power through the fatigue. Yield to it by ruthlessly cutting away unnecessary demands, step onto the earth to dump the excess electrical tension from your nervous system, and allow yourself to simply be. Trust that the holding pattern you feel is actually a womb of transformation, preparing you for the brand new chapter that is already seeking you.

Much love, 

Kate

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Sunday, May 31, 2026

5 Ways to Make Anger Your Ally


5 Ways to Make Anger Your Ally

By Julie Peters

Post on May 31, 2026



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Anger isn’t something to suppress or fear—it’s a powerful ally that protects your boundaries, needs, and authenticity. Discover five practical ways to slow down, listen to what your anger is really saying, and turn it into a wise guide for healthier relationships and greater personal power.

Manage your anger, the books tell us. Tame your inner tiger. Quiet the angry beast inside. Anger is an ugly, scary aspect of each one of us, so we’d better overcome it fast, right?

Actually, no. Anger is a core emotion, an inborn part of who we are. Getting rid of it would be like getting rid of a vital organ: It would leave us at a huge disadvantage.

All our core emotions have a purpose. Some of them keep us physically safe (fear, disgust), while others help us navigate our relationships with others. As social animals, human beings need each other in order to survive and thrive. We don’t tend to do very well on our own, and our core emotions are there to help us figure out how to be together.

A therapy client once told me something that has stuck with me ever since: Anger is the emotion that loves you the most. It’s true. Fear loves safety. Sadness loves something or someone that is missing. Joy loves the experience that’s happening right now. Attraction loves connection. Anger loves you: your true self, your needs and boundaries, your authenticity. Anger will show up when something threatens the you of it all, flaring at your physical and emotional edges.

Anger has a particular quality, though, that makes many of us uncomfortable. It is a certain I don’t care what you think of me quality. Anger will leave. It will break up with someone. It will flip the table over and burn the house down. This is necessary. Anger can show us who is safe to be around and who is unsafe; which tribe members share our values and which are enemies. Humans tend to want to connect overall, but anger knows that sometimes connection can get in the way of more important things.

What Is Your Anger Trying to Say?

Of course, with such a powerful tool at our disposal, we must be careful how we use it. Anger can push away people we really do want to be close to. It can get confused when it’s trying to protect us from feeling vulnerable. If we consistently ignore and suppress it, it can explode, and then we fail in its mission: to get our relational needs met.

The most powerful move we can make with anger is to start listening to it. Rather than reacting immediately, it needs us to slow down and take a moment to hear what it’s telling us. Once we figure that out, we have choices about how and whether to communicate that anger to others.

Here are some ways to work with, rather than against, your anger.

1. Slow down. 

When you feel the body sensations associated with anger—jaw tension, throat tightness, heat in the hands and face, and so on—slow down. Take a moment to notice that your anger is with you.

2. Breathe.

Notice if you are trying to make the anger go away. If you are—stop. Just sit with your anger. Breathe with it. Let it move through your body. Don’t take any action yet. Simply listen to the anger.

3. Ask questions.

Anger usually appears only under specific circumstances:

  • It sees an injustice.
  • A boundary is being crossed.
  • A need is not being met.

Imagine your anger as its own entity. (Many people imagine a fire-breathing dragon!) Ask it which of the above things it is reacting to. Sometimes I like to journal from the perspective of my anger, as if it could speak for itself. What is it trying to tell me?

4. Communicate.

So much of the time, all anger needs is a gentle, loving communication of needs and boundaries. In a healthy relationship, everyone would love to help the other get their needs met. We just don’t often know what they are.

A useful (if difficult) side effect of communicating your needs clearly is that you may discover others can’t or won’t meet your needs. That could change or end the relationship altogether. Sometimes that’s exactly what’s needed.

5. Take action.

Often anger is trying to get your power back when you feel it’s been taken away. We can’t always control what’s happening to us, of course, but it can help to think about the choices we do have. If you’re feeling powerless over a particular issue, what’s something you could do to remind yourself that you do have power somewhere else?

Take this practice with you every time your anger comes up. Your life may begin to change for the better, or you may simply feel more at peace, more empowered. Experiment with what it could mean to work with your anger as an ally.

Julie Peters

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Saturday, September 28, 2024

Staying In The Calm As Emotional Storms Arise

Staying In The Calm As Emotional Storms Arise

By Dr Schavi M Ali

Posted on September 28, 2024





The “Eclipse Season” is reaching its crescendo as October 2nd approaches on next Wednesday, and as the “Solar Eclipse” in the balancing sign of Libra arrives which is in conjunction with the “South Lunar Node” that represents what must be released before moving forward on plans, projects, needs, and desires, can occur which is the work of the “North Node” in Aries.

The “Nodes” are always opposite each other. The “Nodes” are points in the cosmos where our Moon’s orbital path intersects the ecliptic.

The “North Node” is where our Moon moves into the northern ecliptic hemisphere, and the “South Node” is where our Moon enters the south ecliptic hemisphere.

In the Vedic/Sidereal system, the “North Node” is called “Rahu”, and the “South Node” is called “Ketu”. In Chinese Astrology, these are known as the “Head” (North Node) and “Tail” (South Node) of “The Dragon”.

Symbolically, Rahu’s symbol is a royal scepter, and its animal is a Black Lion. Ketu’s symbol is a spear, and its animal is a vulture.

At birth, everyone has a particular “North Node” and “South Node” placement; however, all people are influenced by what I refer to as the “Universal North and South Nodes” regardless of their individual birth times.

Yet, there are some signs which at certain times are more prone to various potentially challenging happenings occurring due to the “Universal” nodal axis, and for the particular “Nodes” at this time, these signs are Aries, Cancer, Libra, and Capricorn—the “Cardinal” points.

Aries conjuncts the “Universal North Node” but opposes the “Universal South Node”. Cancer squares both “Nodes”. Libra conjuncts the “South Node” but opposes the “North Node”. Capricorn squares both “Nodes”.

For those who have their natal charts, they should refer to where (which astrological house) the “Nodes” are transiting, and this will give insight as to what needs releasing and where new starts are possible.

Wherever the “South Node” is, as mentioned above, is where letting go is a requirement so that the “North Node” can manifest. It is necessary, of course, to know what each “house” characterizes. For those who have yet to have their natal charts erected, I recommend that they consult an expert “Astrologer” or “Cosmic Scientist” NOW! Conditions on our planet Earth require knowledge of the COSMIC HOLY BOOK.

Realize that a natal chart analysis is not something that can be done in a few minutes. It takes at least two hours or more to make the novice in “Astrology” or “Cosmic Science” understand even just a few vital points in a general sense as well as in their personal charts. It takes many decades of study for people to be considered as qualified “Astrologers” or “Cosmic Scientists”.

The Tropical/Western system must be studied as well as the Vedic/Sidereal system and the “Hapetseba” (“The Story of the Soul in the Heavens”) of ancient Kemet.

Most people are most familiar with the Tropical/Western system, and it is indeed quite accurate—especially for those persons who were born and raised in the Western world because vibrational levels of consciousness are attuned to it.

The Cardinal signs mentioned above may need to pay more careful attention to events going on around them at work, at home, and in their community. Everyone will need to pay attention to world events.

Considering all of the foregoing, looking at Pluto being at its critical 29th degree in Capricorn which is in square to both the “North Node” and the “South Node”, and considering that the USA has its natal Pluto in Capricorn and is thus experiencing its “Pluto Return”, major drama can be expected (and has already occurred) in all that Capricorn represents and which has been previously mentioned but shall be done so again: corporate structures, businesses, social agencies, politics, educational institutions, the military, and the police.

By the time that Pluto moves into Aquarius on November 20th this year for a 20-year stay, there will already have been chaos, protests, and social upheaval which will affect the entire globe.

Aquarius is the sign that is oriented towards group ideology, rebellion, revolution, and demands for justice. This will be the shout around the world. To obtain an idea of what has yet to occur in the USA, study what was happening in the USA between the years 1776 to 1778. Very similar drama will unfold.

Pluto began its most recent visit in Capricorn in 2008, and then earlier this year, it jumped up into Aquarius to give us an “introduction” before it moved back into Capricorn at its final 26, 27, 28, and now 29th critical degree. It will be 2044 before Pluto packs up and moves on to Pisces.

Along the way, there will be changes on this planet that will be both wonderfully amazing but also horrifically concerning. Powerful solar flares, CMEs, and other cosmic surges will occur as human collective consciousness will seem to activate their needed intensified cleansings and illuminations of the bio-photonic network of planetary and human cellular records. For the various paths that are most known today, Friday sunset to Saturday sunset will be the most important SHABATT in Kaballah and in Judaism.

Today will also be the most important JUMMAH in Islam. Sunday will be the most important CONGREGATIONAL SERVICE or MASS in Christianity.

In Sanatana Dharma, this entire weekend will be the most important prior to next Wednesday’s “Solar Eclipse”. The theme of each spiritual gathering should be RELEASING PAST DISHARMONIES AND MOVING INTO A VITAL COLLECTIVE HUMAN FUTURE.

At home, people can spend time writing down what the truly know they need to release and what has been needing letting go of for a long while on a sheet of paper.

Then they should tear the paper and burn it to symbolically release what has been dealt with for far too long into the annals of history.

Then they should write down what their future needs and desires are and symbolically “mail” it into the DIVINE REALMS by placing it between the covers of the preferred holy book so that it can be periodically taken out and read so as to hold onto the faith that SOURCE is working everything out for our good because SOURCE is UNALTERABLE GOODNESS.

They should also meditate to receive guidance on how to move forward using the free will that has been gifted by SOURCE.

As another reminder, this particular time period has two overlapping portals: the “Lunar Eclipse” and the “Solar Eclipse” represent one portal, but the “Autumnal and Vernal Equinoxes” coming between the eclipses is another portal, and each portal—which has also been pointed out in previous discourses—has an approximate six-month play-out.

Together, the eclipses and the equinoxes are extremely potent messages—both for individuals and for the collective.

We have been advised more than once to store-up on food, water, wellness supplements, and spiritual tools so that if there is a need to “shelter-in-place” we will be comfortable and safe.

However, we must also store-up on SOURCE LIGHT that flows to us as we pray and meditate. So, we must all increase our LIGHT QUOTIENT.

Try to remain calm, and thus, out of states of fear and anxiety. Pronounce the “Pranava” (“Cosmic Sound”) mantra of “AUM” whenever necessary.

Mantras are universal. Yes, they have been revealed by SOURCE to ancient “Rishis” (“Sages”) in the Sanskrit language.

However, they are SACRED DIVINE SOUNDS for everyone. Wearing a prayer mala onto which “AUM” has been recited on each bead is also very calming, healing, and protective.

Share this article with those whom you feel will appreciate it. There will be those who are critical and scoffing.

However, remember this proverb: “THOSE WHO CAN TEACH, DO SO.
THOSE WHO CANNOT TEACH, ARE CRTICAL OF WHAT IS TAUGHT”.

In other words, those who are the most ignorant are critical of those who are intelligent.

A truly righteous person will follow the scriptural advice which states: “STUDY TO SHOW THYSELF APPROVED” (HOLY BIBLE) as well as the advice of: “THE INK OF THE SCHOLAR IS MORE PRECIOUS THAN THE BLOOD OF THE MARTYR” (HOLY QU’RAN). All truly Divinely-revealed information speaks about the importance of obtaining knowledge.

Dr Schavi M Ali

 
 

Saturday, July 20, 2024

What are your needs?

What are your needs?

Hakann trough A. S.

Posted on July 20 , 2024

 


My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Hakann speaking. I greet you in peace and love.

What us galactics want to achieve is to help you get to this love-based society that so many of you are hoping for.

What we see as the primary, but also temporary obstacle to that is a lack of consciousness in the Earth collective. And you are all connected, and almost no one on Earth has reached full enlightenment yet, so anyone can contribute to Earth's liberation process by raising their consciousness some more.

Therefore, many of our messages lately have been focused on giving you tools that you can use to raise your level of consciousness. Today's article is in that same vein.

Specifically, today we are inviting you to ask: what are your needs?

Now, on one hand, we want to tell you that it's okay to have needs, including needs that society frowns upon, including needs that are supposedly unspiritual, so long as you're not hurting anyone. In fact, suppressing your needs doesn't work, because then your needs continue to fester in your subconscious.

On the other hand, it is possible that you genuinely don't have a need that many people have, or that society tells you you should have. For example: for many people living in a healthy and loving community is a psychological need, but certainly that's not a need for everybody.

As a third consideration: sometimes people's actual needs aren't at the forefront of their mind, because they unconsciously feel that they can't meet their actual needs directly. Instead at the forefront of their mind people have something through which they can sort of indirectly meet their actual need.

For example, someone's actual need might be to feel loved and to feel a sense of belonging, or to have a loving partner and healthy children. However, perhaps they unconsciously feel that they can't achieve that directly. And so what might be at the actual forefront of a person's mind is that they want to become richer or more successful, because then they unconsciously feel that they will receive love and approval from the outside world, and perhaps then they unconsciously feel that they can find a partner.

Or someone's actual need might be to be part of a healthy and loving community, but they're living alone in a city and they have no idea how they could achieve that. So instead, they're sort of satisfying that need by repeating political talking points among their group and getting a measure of approval and belonging for doing that. On Earth that's often called virtue signalling, but you could also think of it as "I-want-to-be-part-of-the-tribe, please-love-me" signalling.

They may have substituted their political party for their community. And they may feel that their community is relatively safe when their party has political power and their leader seems competent, and their community doesn't feel safe when their party might lose the upcoming election or when their leader seems incapable. Hence, for a long time, "Biden is senile" was just a right-wing conspiracy theory.

After all, the primary purpose of a person's mind is to ensure their own physical and psychological well-being. Understanding the world, or observing reality as it really is, or being logically consistent, are only secondary purposes of a person's mind. Hence, the importance of meeting your needs.

In general, if someone seems completely unwilling to face reality, it may be the case that their emotional well-being depends on them clinging on to a certain viewpoint, and their mind doesn't fulfil its secondary purpose (understanding the world, observing reality) so long as its primary purpose (the person's psychological well-being) isn't secured.

This is a hard problem to solve. Just telling them that they're wrong, even if that's true, may actually make them feel more unsafe and therefore dig in their heels even more. One solution is when reality finally becomes so glaringly obvious (such as Biden's senility during the debate with Trump) that denying it becomes more psychologically painful than facing reality. 

Another solution is if people eventually start feeling psychologically safe enough to be able to face reality -- and if you want, you can contribute to this by showing love and kindness to others. 

Or alternatively, you can just focus on taking care of yourself and improving your own life and doing your own inner work, because that indirectly helps them too.

So, when you are considering what your own needs are, we would like to invite you to try and look beyond secondary needs (such as "my political party must win the election") and look at what your actual, primary, underlying needs are (such as "I want to be part of a loving and safe community").

Keep in mind that you are a physical human. So there may not necessarily be any deeper and truer need lurking behind a desire to have sex or to eat tasty food, for example. And sure, technically sex isn't a need in the sense that you can survive without it, however for many people occasionally having good sex is a prerequisite for optimal mental health. If Tunia stopped having sex, yes she would survive, but she wouldn't have optimal mental health. I wish you could see Tunia's sad-looking face right now at the thought of her never having sex again, because it is so clearly illustrating that she wouldn't be living her best life without sex. Therefore, having good sex is one of Tunia's needs, and perhaps one of your needs too. Don't worry Tunia, it's only a thought experiment.

Also, part of being a physical human means that you may have hardwired social needs. Now, people are wired differently, but for many people, it is a fundamental need to have people around you who love you. For many of you, it would only hold you back if you were isolated and you tried telling yourself that you should just love yourself and that should be enough. Now, perhaps at a certain level of consciousness you genuinely don't need love from others anymore, but if you're not at that level yet, then it won't help you in the present to suppress your social needs. After all, if you suppress needs, they will continue to fester in your subconscious and they will hold you back.

So: I am inviting you to consider what your needs are, and to what extent each one of your needs is currently getting met.

If you want, you can share this in the comment section, or perhaps share the results with your partner.

I hope this was helpful.

I love you very much.

Your star brother,

Hakann

A. S.
 
For Era of Light
 
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