What is Your Spiritual Goal?

What is Your Spiritual Goal?

Tourmalayne trough A. S.

Posted on February 19, 2025

My dearest Earth friends,

It is wonderful to be able to connect to you again.

Today I would like to ask you: what is your spiritual goal? What are you hoping to accomplish with your spirituality?

There is no right or wrong answer here, but it is good to be conscious and to be honest.

People might say that their goal is spiritual growth, but spiritual growth can be quite painful and uncomfortable and perhaps isolating. It won’t necessarily make your life easier or feel good, at least in the short term.

Is spiritual growth what you’re after, even if it doesn’t feel good in the short term?

From what I’ve observed, many spiritual people just want to feel good. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. That’s not a wrong goal to have. It is understandable that people on Earth, who often have suffered much, would have that as their goal.

People’s desire to just feel good is illustrated by the spiritual ego that many spiritual people indulge in — which often feels good to the person who is being spiritually egoic, but it’s obviously detrimental to their spiritual growth.

The desired state of being that many spiritual people strive for is feeling good most of the time, and being unaffected by external negativity.

If you read spiritual sites, it might seem like pretty much everyone is doing amazing and is feeling amazing all the time, and you’re the only one who isn’t.

That really isn’t true. This is just the facebook effect, where people only post their happy moments and are quiet about the things that aren’t happy. In reality, most spiritual people have dysfunction in their lives and they still quite often experience suffering. They just don’t talk about it.

Of the minority of people who genuinely feel good for the vast majority of the time, most of them are in a bubble, for either survival or narcissistic reasons. In this bubble they basically just ignore everything and everyone that isn’t immediately feel-good. They kick everything that isn’t immediately feel-good out of their lives, and they don’t do even nearly as much as they could to help others or to heal their old wounds. And possibly they also suppress their own pain or unhealed parts. So it’s more than them no longer consuming excessive amounts of intel and news and no longer meeting toxic people, which by itself is a fine thing to do.

It may be the case that this person is in survival mode and he or she simply needs a bubble to get through life. So making a bubble for yourself is not necessarily the wrong choice to make. It’s certainly better than just being depressed. People should put their own air mask on first, after all.

On the other hand, some people in a bubble are mostly just interested in having a pleasant life for themselves, and they could do much more to help others but they choose not to. In this case, their bubble is more like a narcissistic kind of bubble, even if they dress up their lives in spiritual statements such as “my service is that I keep my own vibration high.” We’ll address that argument later in this message.

If the person is in a bubble for narcissistic reasons, then that is in fact separation consciousness, because the person in such a bubble is ignoring all the other people who are suffering.

Being in a bubble for narcissistic reasons is a bit like a hand deciding that it wants to keep its vibration high, and therefore it is refusing to extinguish the fire that is currently burning its foot. Because from a unity consciousness perspective, if you are a hand, then that homeless person is like your foot, and it is metaphorically on fire.

From a unity consciousness perspective, spending a substantial amount of time on helping others is the only thing that makes sense.

Now, if the hand is deeply struggling itself, then the hand is ALSO metaphorically on fire, and it’s entirely justified that the hand focuses on putting out its own fire first. In other words, if a person needs a bubble for survival reasons, then that is an entirely valid and possibly necessary choice.

Now, let’s meet Jack. Jack is in a bubble and he is able to bliss out during meditation. He usually feels happy and loving and connected to the universe. He can quote beautiful-sounding spiritual principles. He has some spiritual abilities and can manifest pretty well. He has a nice life. Yet, despite feeling good and having the energy and resources necessary to help others, he is not in fact helping others.

Or picture Teacher Tom. Everything we said about Jack applies to Teacher Tom too, except Teacher Tom sells spiritual courses online for thousands of dollars. Teacher Tom really doesn’t need to charge so much, he just does because he can. Teacher Tom also isn’t isn’t using that money to help others. Instead he’s just hoarding it, or spending it to maintain a fancy, expensive lifestyle.

Now to be clear, it’s absolutely fine if Teacher Tom charges a reasonable sum of money for his services. There’s no problem with that. All I’m saying is that if Teacher Tom charges far more than he needs, and then is just hoarding the money or maintaining an expensive lifestyle, then is Teacher Tom serving others or is he serving himself?

Teacher Tom might present a false binary here, pretending that the only two choices are charging zero dollars and starving, or charging thousands of dollars. But there is a middle ground there where you charge a reasonable amount of money.

Teacher Tom might also argue that it’s fine to charge thousands of dollars, because people should just manifest that money. Perhaps Teacher Tom points to a free manifestation video he made. But there’s an inherent contradiction here. Anyone who can already manifest thousands of dollars at will, perhaps via that free video, may not need Teacher Tom’s course. And people who do really need help may not be able to just spend thousands of dollars on a spiritual course.

At best, Teacher Tom is refusing to help the people who most need his help in favor of people who are already doing pretty well. He’s in the desert and he is selling expensive water to those who already have something to drink, and he is ignoring the people who are dying from thirst.

Jack — the one in the bubble who wasn’t doing anything to help others — and Teacher Tom — the one in the bubble who sells super expensive courses — may very well think they are in unity consciousness. After all, they can bliss out during meditation, they have some spiritual abilities and they have a great life. They feel good most of the time and aren’t bothered by external negativity. Teacher Tom’s very expensive courses may even genuinely be helping out some people.

But in fact, both Jack and Teacher Tom are in separation consciousness.

Why? Because if you’re a hand and you’re doing well and your foot is on fire, and you’re not putting out the fire on your foot, then really you’re proving that you don’t see that foot — that homeless person — as being part of yourself. Therefore, it’s separation consciousness.

If you ignore the foot that is on fire so that you can sell super expensive courses to your shoulder when that shoulder is already doing pretty okay… that is still separation consciousness. Because if your actual foot was on fire — if people really were struggling in awful ways and you saw those people as part of you — then you wouldn’t put up such high pay barriers that most people can’t benefit from your work.

People might at this point argue that the best kind of service they can offer is to keep their own vibrations high. But if your own foot was on fire, would you extinguish the fire or would you let your foot burn while trying to keep your vibration high? If you were struggling, would you want someone else to keep their own vibration high and carefully avoid you, or would you want that person to help you?

There are plenty of ways in which you can profoundly help others — and thereby raise their vibration — at not too much effort to yourself. So if you think that high vibrations of the people of Earth are important — and they are — then helping out others and thereby substantially raising their vibrations is probably more efficient than you just being in a bubble. Except if you’re struggling very much yourself and you need that bubble as a survival strategy.

Someone who is actually in unity consciousness will probably feel that their unity consciousness makes their life harder — because every time they feel reasonably good and rested enough, their unity consciousness will nudge them to take on yet another project to help others. And while it will be very satisfying on one level, it won’t always be fun or comfortable. But then again, it also doesn’t feel good anymore to the unity conscious person to just excessively indulge in fun while their foot is on fire (while other Earth humans are suffering).

A person who is genuinely in unity consciousness may wish on some level they weren’t in unity consciousness, because it’s much nicer to just bliss out and have fun in a bubble than it is to help those who need it the most.

Now, the exception here is a fully enlightened person. Such a person is in unity consciousness, and they’re happy to be in unity consciousness, because they’re not suffering or stressed when taking on projects and doing lots of work and helping large amounts of people. In fact, they love doing that. So fully enlightened people are probably the only ones who enjoy being in unity consciousness.

But unless someone is regularly told by the people around them that their very presence feels amazing, they probably are not fully enlightened.

Hence if anyone claims they are in unity consciousness and they feel amazing and they have a great life… well they’re probably in a bubble, which ultimately isn’t a super advanced state of being. And they might also be doing the facebook thing where they tell you how they feel in their best moments and they don’t tell you about the other half of the time.

The irony is that to a spiritual novice, a well-rested and well-off person in a bubble for narcissistic reasons looks more spiritually advanced than a person who is actually in unity consciousness and who has some amount of stress and fatigue and pain because they’re talking to and empathizing with and working to help others who are suffering.

So, to come back to the earlier question: what is your goal with spirituality? What do you want to reach?

Do you just want a more pleasant and happier and less painful life? Nothing wrong with that — if currently you are struggling, that is quite possibly the best thing to focus on.

Or do you want to help others or be of service?

Or do you want spiritual growth?

Or do you want some kind of mix of improving your own life, helping others and spiritual growth?

If you want spiritual growth, is that for you a means towards a happier life? Or is spiritual growth a goal in and of itself?

If at some point you have to choose between more happiness in the upcoming years and less spiritual growth, or less happiness in the upcoming years and more spiritual growth, then which would you choose?

Or is your goal something that I haven’t mentioned?

There are no right or wrong answers. But it is good to be honest and to be conscious. And I am curious — feel free to share in the comment section, if you wish.

With all my love,

Your star sister,

Tourmalayne

Channel: A.S.

 

For Era of Light

 

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Be conscious about self-labels

 Be conscious about self-labels

Tunia via channel A. S.

Posted on December 28, 2024

 

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Tunia speaking. I love you so very much.

I hope you had a great Christmas and happy holidays.

And I hope that you will have a very good new year. I expect that in 2025 things will finally turn around for the better, including on the physical and practical levels. New Earth may not yet fully unfold in 2025, but things will likely significantly improve during 2025.

For today, I want to share something that I hope may be able to help you let go of blocks and barriers, so you can embody love to a deeper degree.

In past messages, we have noted that people often don’t see reality. Instead they see labels. So for example, a person may see someone who is on the other political side not as another person, but instead they may see them as A Democrat or as A Republican.

In that way, they no longer see an individual. Instead, they see someone who is lazy, or someone who is dumb, or someone who is racist, even though they don’t actually know the other person. After all, the other person is a Democrat or Republican, and Democrats or Republicans are lazy, or dumb, or racist.

Now, I don’t want to say that you should never label anyone. After all, your mind is a labeling machine, and if I tell you that you should never label anyone and you accept that statement, then what will likely happen is that you will continue labeling people subconsciously, while telling yourself that you’re objective and that you never label people. And then your shadow and your amount of unconsciousness will grow.

So instead, I will say that you should be conscious about labeling people. Observe yourself, and if you find yourself labeling people and reacting to those labels, then just observe that you’re doing so. And try to be as fair as possible in your words and actions.

And today, I will also note that you should also be conscious about your self-labels. Namely, about the labels that you have put on yourself. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t apply self-labels, but I am saying that you should be conscious about self-labels.

To an extent self-labels are useful. If you earn a living as a programmer, then it’s not that bad to label yourself as a programmer. Or, preferably, to label yourself as a person who makes a living via programming. You are more than your job, after all.

If you care very much about spirituality, then it may be fine to label yourself as a person interested in spirituality.

That said, I would be slightly careful with labeling yourself as a spiritual person, because that can make it sound like everything you do is automatically the spiritually optimal thing to do, because you are a spiritual person.

That is the same pattern that you see when people label themselves as democratic, and then they want to ban for example a political party or political candidate, and they see nothing wrong with that because they have labeled themselves as democratic. So they’re protecting Democracy by banning a political party or politician, and in their mind that makes sense because they have self-labeled as a democratic person, or as a defender of democracy.

Or a person might label themselves as a scientific person, and they might want to ban an expert or a scientist from speaking, and they see nothing wrong with that because they have labeled themselves as a scientist. So they’re defending science by violating the scientific method.

So in that way, positive self-labels can be a bit dangerous, because they can be used to justify behavior that otherwise clearly seems bad.

On the other hand, negative self-labels can make you depressed or can really hold you back from trying things and taking risks and pursuing what you want.

A quality of many Americans, for example, is that they often don’t have “I can’t” as a self-label.

You can really hold yourself back if you label yourself as some kind of victim. Even if you genuinely are a victim in some way, it’s useful to be able to see multiple perspectives. Perhaps one perspective is that you are a victim. And perhaps another perspective is that you still have some genuine qualities or skills. You may still be able to build at least an okay life for yourself. Even if you were dealt a bad hand, that doesn’t automatically mean that your life is destined to be miserable.

Plus, perhaps you genuinely are a victim in one way, but perhaps you also have some amazing talent. Or perhaps you have great parents. Or perhaps you were born with a high IQ. Or perhaps you have good friends. Not everyone has that.

And sometimes people even think they’re being held back by something that they aren’t in fact being held back by. For example, there are women who think their life is harder overall because they’re a woman. And there are men who think their life is harder overall because they’re a man. So, probably at least some people are excessively focusing on the negatives of their situation and are insufficiently looking at the positives.

The grass isn’t actually greener on the other side. It only seems that way if you don’t appreciate your own grass.

Also, different people may go through the same thing and stick wildly different labels on themselves as a result. This means that the labels that you have stuck on yourself may not be the objectively correct ones, and in fact your self-labels might be quite subjective.

For example, imagine that five people have the exact same, very painful childhood. One sees themselves as a victim. One sees themselves as irreparably broken. One sees themselves as a survivor, as a strong person. One sees themselves as having gained important perspective and lessons from their suffering. And one sees themselves as a wounded healer, as someone who can help others because of the suffering they themselves endured.

One experience, five different labels that people can put on themselves. Which means that certain self-labels that people have may be a lot more subjective than they realize.

The words “I am” are powerful, so be conscious about how you use those words.

So, what labels have you stuck on yourself?

I invite you to take a minute to reflect on that.

What kind of person are you?

Again, start out by just observing. Observe first, don’t immediately judge or tear down your labels.

Next up, how do you view your time here on Earth? Is Earth a prison? Is being there pretty okay, despite all the painful and hard things? Is being on Earth just genuinely fun and rewarding? Or do you not enjoy it but you are willing to be of service? Or do you not enjoy it at present but are convinced that if you keep working at it, one day your life will become enjoyable?

If you want to share in the comment section, perhaps anonymously, please feel free to do so. I love hearing what people think.

Regardless of how you label yourself, I think you are amazing, and I love you so very much. You are fully worthy of being embraced as you are right now. And I wish you an amazing Christmas, and indeed a great 2025.

I love you so very much.

Your star sister,

Tunia

For Era of Light

 

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If you are interested in local meetings with other people also seeking first contact with benevolent ETs, then please see https://eraoflight.com/2024/06/19/hakann-local-meetings-for-those-seeking-first-contact-with-benevolent-ets/ . If you search with control-F for @, then you can quickly find email addresses of those who are organizing local groups. It’s also not too late to post a new (secondary) email address yourself to start a new local group, because we plan to keep linking to that post for the foreseeable future.

 

Be Conscious of Your Shadow

Be Conscious of Your Shadow

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on October 28, 2023

 

 

 

 

 

My dear Earth friends,

This is R’Kok speaking. It is an honor and a pleasure to speak with you.

People on Earth often think of themselves as rational actors. If they have certain rational beliefs, they think that these are indeed the principles that will determine their actions.

But that is not the whole story.

Usually when push comes to shove, people’s rational minds only have a small impact on their actions, while their actions are primarily determined by their emotions and their subconscious. Often people’s emotions and subconscious don’t primarily care about truth or justice or spiritual growth or being a good human being or helping others. Often, people’s emotions and their subconscious just want comfort and pleasure and security and an ego-boost. People’s subconscious also likes labeling other people as bad and yourself as good, because that gives you an additional ego boost and gives you an excuse to not help or care about other suffering people.

What you might think of as spiritually more evolved people are people whose decisions are largely conscious and only a little bit motivated by fears and desires and their ego and their emotions and their subconscious. Whereas unevolved people make decisions that are only a little bit conscious and are primarily motivated by their emotions and their subconscious. So you can think of it as a spectrum.

Why have people not woken up as to what’s going on? Why do people still believe that the government cares about them and is trying to help them? Because most people are ruled by their emotions and subconscious, and the belief that is most comfortable is the belief that the government indeed is working for the people’s benefit. Even when it’s clearly not.

People being ruled by their subconscious also means: don’t be too quick to judge others who are in difficult situations that you have never been in. After all, you likely too are ruled at least partly by your subconscious and emotions, even if only to a small extent, and so you too may very well behave less than optimally if you were in that difficult situation. It’s easy to think you would do great if you were in a certain situation, but you can’t really know that unless you have been in that situation or a similar situation.

Also, if you take a certain action, don’t be too quick to believe the narrative that your rational mind creates to justify your action. Often that is just a false but pleasing and self-justifying story. Often the real reason why people act is some kind of self-serving emotional or subconscious or lizard-brain reason.

Some Earth people would now say that they’re simply rational actors who act based on facts and evidence and science. In today’s world, that doesn’t help nearly as much as you might hope, because you can nearly always find a few experts who will have the opinion that emotionally appeals to you. Therefore in practice, people who say they follow the science often just disregard scientists who say things that they emotionally don’t like, and hold up science that say things that they emotionally do like. Or they follow the mainstream media, which has done the process for them. So that doesn’t help a lot.

There are even several instances where there seems to be a scientific consensus, but the believed consensus is actually false. Or there actually is no consensus at all: the heretical scientists simply get deplatformed and censored and defunded.

Even when it doesn’t come to governments pressuring scientists to support the desired narrative, you have cases where selective industry funding and lobbying creates a lot of scientific research that supports whatever the industry wants supported

A lot of people are fundamentally unhappy and bored, and instead of looking for happiness inside themselves or finding some good ways to spend their time, some people try to find a partner to provide their happiness and entertainment for them. This usually doesn’t lead to a happy relationship, because few people can consistently make a person feel good who is fundamentally unhappy and bored. Not to mention that this effectively puts pressure on the other person to make two people happy and not just one. But of course, people will rarely admit that they’re unhappy and that they expect their partner to provide their happiness and entertainment for them, even when that’s often the case.

Or suppose you ask a man what kind of woman he wants to be in a relationship with. Make it anonymous, so that he knows that he doesn’t have to give a socially acceptable answer. He will probably still say something like: I want a kind, reasonably attractive woman with compatible values and a good character.

But suppose you then have the guy meet the woman who is exactly what he says he wants, and also a physically very attractive woman who clearly demonstrates that she is not a kind person. Likely the man will be more interested in dating the physically very attractive woman, despite what he just said. Most men say that they value good character and kindness and compatibility in their partner and things like that, but when push comes to shove, most men (not all) will instead choose a young, physically attractive woman with a slim waist and nice breasts or a nice ass. When push comes to shove, it’s usually a person’s emotions and subconscious that makes the decisions, not their rational mind.

Similarly, a woman will often say that it’s fine if her partner earns less than she does. And that is indeed her consciously held belief. But a lot of women — not all, but a lot — will actually lose attraction to and possibly dump their partner if indeed she starts earning more than he does. And then their mind produces a rationalization, a self-justifying story, that the reason for the breakup was something else than it actually was. But despite rationalizations, people usually act based on their emotions and their subconscious, not on their rational mind — and often the narratives that rational minds create are merely self-justifying stories.

With these examples, we see that most people don’t make actions based on their principles or based on their consciously held beliefs. Most people make decisions based on their emotions and their subconscious. Most people’s rational mind mostly just works to rationalize the decision that their emotions and their subconscious makes.

It’s useful to be aware of this, and to watch and evaluate your own behavior. Sure, you have a set of consciously held beliefs, but when push comes to shove, are those things what you actually act on? Remember, there’s always an excuse to be made. Rationalizations can always be formulated. But how do you actually act when push comes to shove? And don’t immediately create a nice-sounding and self-excusing narrative why you acted the way you acted. Just observe how you act, and if possible, observe what is going on inside you. Genuine observation is the first step.

And look, it’s okay. Everyone has their lizard brain, their emotions, their shallow preferences, their actions that are based on fear and insecurities and anxieties. Everyone gets jealous or greedy or superficial at some point in their lives. If you recognize these things in yourself, then that doesn’t make you lesser than other people. Other people have and do these things too. If you recognize this in yourself, that merely means that you are conscious of these things, while other people are not. And conscious people typically do a lot less damage and are a lot more capable of doing good and making conscious decisions than unconscious people are.

In fact, a big spiritual milestone is becoming aware enough of your own inner processes that you are able to consciously choose your actions, instead of just being led around by your emotions and your subconscious, as most people are. This may sound silly, but once you become aware enough, you will notice that most people on Earth are almost a bit like robots who are just controlled by and led around by their emotions and their subconscious, while not being aware of that at all. This is actually pretty disturbing once you first become aware of that. Though once the shock wears off, you can become a highly effective change-maker and influential thinker, because you’ll learn to look past the self-justifying narrative that people tell you and instead look at the emotional and often self-serving and irrational reasons why people actually act the way they do.

Of course, those other, unaware people are still you. If they suffer, you suffer, because they are you.

And don’t be too quick to say that it’s other people who are led around by their emotions and their subconscious, but never you. If you feel you feel that you are never being led around by your emotions and subconscious, then you probably are in fact being controlled by your emotions and your subconscious, and are currently believing “you are so rational” or “you are so spiritually evolved” story that your rational mind is feeding you.

Meanwhile, you probably are mostly making conscious choices if your view of yourself is that you have these shallow dating preferences, you have these copings mechanisms, you have these anxieties or emotional wounds that occasionally lead to those kinds of behaviors, but you know all these things and try to act as conscious as possible aside from this. If this is your view of yourself, you are likely more conscious and are less often being led around by your emotions and subconscious than most people are.

In other words, if you think you are always making conscious choices that are for the highest good of yourself and others, then you are probably not actually doing that. If instead you recognize which emotional wounds and sub-optimal patterns and coping mechanisms and anxieties and shallow preferences and so-called base desires you have, then you probably are largely making conscious choices.

Some people are cynics and they believe that everyone else is ruled by emotions and irrationality and unconscious patterns. Well, yes, that is mostly true for most people. But these cynics often also believe that they themselves are fully rational and fully aware, which is likely not true. It’s useful to be able to look at things through a cynical lens, to keep yourself grounded in reality, but cynicism isn’t the only useful lens to have. It’s not helpful or particularly evolved if a person only has access to the cynical worldview. It’s also much easier to criticize than it is to create something.

Cynics often have the attitude that they don’t care when other people suffer, because other people are stupid — but this is separation consciousness. Yes, some people are stupid, but they are still part of you. Not caring about their suffering is like not caring about the wound in your own leg. Thinking that other people are separate from you is believing in an illusion.

YOUR SHADOW

Next, let’s talk about your shadow. It is often defined as the unseen or unacknowledged part of you. Often people unconsciously choose to be unaware of certain things, because it is often a part of people that is considered ugly or unwelcome or bad. Or it is more advantageous for a person to not be aware of something. Therefore a person’s shadow is often their shadow because certain parts of themselves aren’t accepted by them.

While a person’s shadow often contains painful or awkward or unflattering things, it’s ultimately just the collection of unseen or unacknowledged things. A person with a bad self image might have in their shadow that they actually are more capable or more loved or more appreciated by the people around them than they realize.

From my perspective, a lot of lightworkers have in their shadow that they’re actually pretty amazing, because they’re more or even far more conscious than most people are, and it’s impressive that they achieved that while on Earth. If the lightworker doesn’t fully acknowledge or see that, perhaps because they’ve been trained as a child or trained by society to always look at the negative and that it’s arrogant to give themselves a compliment, then a person may have in their shadow that they’re actually pretty awesome.

Let’s look at some other examples of shadows. In the previous examples, one part of a person’s shadow might be their actual dating preferences (a man prioritizing physical attractiveness in his partners), as opposed to what the person thinks their dating preferences are.

Your shadow is also frequently things that aren’t socially acceptable, and so you’ve pushed those parts of you away so much that you’re no longer aware of them. For example, a gay man who grows up in a society that doesn’t tolerate homosexuality might genuinely repress his sexuality so much that he stops being aware that he is homosexual, and it may become part of his shadow.

Or a person might feel angry towards their parents, but that’s not very socially acceptable and that wasn’t welcome when the person was young, and so the person might repress those emotions to such an extent that they’re not even aware of their anger towards their parents. It is actually quite common for people to be either angry at their parents, or to have unresolved pain or grief about their youth, and for those things to be so repressed that they’re not even consciously aware of it anymore. This too can become part of the shadow.

Or a spiritual person might tell themselves that they’re so advanced that they no longer want or need sex. If however their actual yet suppressed truth is that they still desire sex, then that can become part of the shadow.

And this can lead to a situation where a spiritual teacher sexually mistreats his pupils, sometimes even convincing himself that what he’s doing is for some kind of noble spiritual purpose. Now, yes, sex can lead to spiritual progression, but of course both people have to freely consent to sex at a bare minimum, which doesn’t always happen if the guru says to the student that they will now sleep together, for her spiritual benefit of course.

People’s shadows can also simply hold them back from growing spiritually or leading a happier life or having better relationships (whether romantic or not). People with relatively large shadows manipulate more often, for example, and manipulating others isn’t a path that will ultimately make a person happy. Believe me.

So, what can you do about your shadow?

Well, almost everyone has a shadow, so it’s more about shrinking it or becoming conscious about it and observing it than it is about eliminating it completely. Even people like Tunia and Hakann have shadows. For example, Hakann’s shadow is that he secretly loves the color pink, but he doesn’t want to admit that because he feels he’s too manly and too commandery for that. True story.

Okay, I’m making that up.

To be honest, part of my shadow is that I sometimes feel inadequate when I’m around people like Hakann, whom I occasionally work with. I really don’t like admitting that, and Hakann is not doing anything to make me feel inferior or tear me down. But he just always seems to know what to do, and life just seems so effortless and easy for him, and life really isn’t like that for me. At all.

I feel like I work very hard to be a good person, to be worth something and to make my life have some meaning. And yet I feel that he’s at least twice the person that I am. And I feel like I won’t ever be able to catch up to him. I feel that he will always be a better person than I am, while I will always remain not quite good enough.

So. That was uncomfortable and embarrassing.

But what I just did is shrink my own shadow. I acknowledged and admitted something to myself, and now it’s no longer part of my shadow. The emotions are still there, but now it’s something I’m conscious about, hence it’s no longer part of my shadow.

You don’t even necessarily need to admit it publicly, even just admitting something to yourself shrinks your shadow. Admitting it publicly can help, but isn’t necessary.

If you feel the urge to deflect some remark that someone made, or to attack someone else personally, then you might want to check if there’s something in your own shadow that is nudging you to do that.

If you’re around toxic people, and a conversation doesn’t resolve that, it can help for your shadow to seek out better company. People often choose to be willfully blind towards a part of themselves if that part of them won’t be accepted by the people around them.

For my part, I would like to tell you that you are amazing, and that you are already and inherently good enough. Therefore even if you admit to yourself that you have certain thoughts or emotions or preferences that some might view as ugly, even then you are still fully worthy of love. You are good enough, all of you, including the parts of you that you might find harder to love. All of you is welcome from my perspective, and all of you is loved.

Therefore you are safe to admit that you may have parts or aspects of yourself that you previously didn’t want to admit to having.

All your thoughts and emotions and all parts of you are welcome, from my perspective. You are good enough, as you are — all of you is. I love you.

If you want, you can put a note somewhere in your house saying: “what is my actual reason for doing this?” That way you can remind yourself to ask yourself why you are doing what you are doing — because the actual reason might not be the reason that your rational mind tells you it is. Or you can agree with a friend to occasionally ask each other this question: “what is your actual reason for doing this?”

If you ask this to a friend, try to ask it in a curious way and not in a hostile or lecturing way or in an “I already understand you better than you understand yourself” kind of way. If they give you a reason that you think is nonsense (which may very well happen), then let them be — perhaps you’ve planted a seed. Or perhaps not, perhaps they’ve completely rejected the gift that you tried to give them, but then that’s their choice.

Finally, let’s do an exercise to shrink our shadow. I already gave an example of how I felt with regards to Hakann. You are invited to share your answers to the following questions in the comment section. You can use a fake name if you want anonymity:

1) how are you really doing? I’m not looking for the polite or for the socially acceptable answer, I’m curious how you are really doing.

2) if you get too stressed out, then what is your coping mechanism? Everyone has at least one, and it’s not even necessarily something unhealthy — it might also be reading a book or taking a walk. Then again, I’m not judging people for having an unhealthy coping mechanism such as alcohol, because I know life on Earth is really tough. So, what is your coping mechanism?

3) what do you currently want or desire? This can be internal or external. Again, feel free to give the real answer. There’s probably at least one part of you that wants something shallow, and it’s fine to acknowledge that too. The point is shrinking our shadow, after all.

4) what are your fears for the future?

5) what are your hopes for the future?

With all my love,

R’Kok

 

A. S. 

For Era of Light

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