37 Subtle Signs a Relationship Is Over

37 Subtle Signs a Relationship Is Over (That Most People Fail to Recognize)

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on May 19, 2024

 

 

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It’s easy to spot the obvious signs a relationship is over, but what about subtle signs?

Unless something drastic happens like an affair or abuse, people don’t just walk away suddenly, there’s usually a gradual decline in both physical and emotional intimacy.

In this article, I want to examine the subtle signs that show a relationship has finished.

37 Subtle Signs a Relationship Is Over

1. Something important happens and they’re not the first person you think of telling.
2. They’ve become a neutral person to you. They are present in your life but add nothing to it.
3. Spending time with them feels like a chore.
4. You don’t look forward to seeing them.
5. You stay late at work because it’s better than going home.
6. You’ve stopped arguing or disagreeing on stuff; not because there’s no problem, but because you don’t care anymore.
7. Their car pulls into the driveway, and instead of feeling happy, your reaction is, “Great, they’re home.”
8. You used to reply to their texts or calls immediately. Now, you take your time, or ignore them.
9. You’re more in love with memories of the relationship, rather than the person you’re in the relationship with.
10. You can never seem to agree on plans for the future.
11. You feel like you have ‘settled’ for this relationship.
12. You can’t imagine spending the rest of your life with this person.
13. Everything has become a habit.
14. You feel lonely when you are with them.
15. You find excuses not to spend time with them.
16. You don’t like how they smell anymore.
17. You don’t touch each other like you used to.
18. Seeing them triggers an awful feeling in the pit of your stomach.
19. You fantasize about being single or dating other people.
20. Your dreams and aspirations are poles apart.
21. You’re just waiting for something better.
22. You don’t feel you are a couple anymore. You’re more like roommates.
23. Being with them is exhausting.
24. You don’t share the same values anymore.
25. You smile and laugh at things on your phone, but not with them.
26. You don’t even bother asking them how their day was.
27. You suspect they might be cheating, but you don’t care.
28. Your partner keeps trying to change you.
29. You look forward to when you’re not with them.
30. Leaving is challenging after such a long time together.
31. Your mood drops when you’re with them, but not with everyone else.
32. The little quirks that you once found cute are now intensely irritating.
33. You don’t introduce them as your significant other anymore.
34. You no longer talk to them about your goals.
35. You haven’t laughed together for ages.
36. You don’t respect their opinion anymore.
37. You don’t miss them when they’re not there.

If you recognize any of the signs a relationship is over, what you do next depends on whether you want to salvage it.

Do You Want to Save the Relationship?

1. Ask yourself why you want to stay in this relationship

Do you want to stay with this person, or are you afraid of being alone? Is this person truly your soulmate or someone you have got into the habit of staying with? Starting out on your own is traumatizing.

I left my ex-partner after 10 years with nothing but a food blender. I know how easy it is to get into the habit of being in a relationship. But we weren’t compatible by that time. The best thing I ever did was to leave that controlling-coercive SOB.

2. How would you feel if they died?

If you’ve spotted any of the signs a relationship is over and want to know the ultimate test of whether you should stay, imagine how you’d feel if they suddenly died. I find it puts everything into perspective. It may seem drastic, or silly, but I’ll tell you why I do it.

My best friend of 40 years died suddenly a few years ago. He was a little OCD, and I could be impatient with him. Then he died unexpectedly in a motorbike hit-and-run accident. Sometimes it takes something drastic for us to realize how much someone means to us.

3. If it’s worth staying, what went wrong?

Relationships can lose their spark after a while. But if you feel there’s something worth saving, think about why you both fell out of love. If it’s something drastic like cheating, then trust has to be rebuilt. However, if it was a gradual growing apart, then there are things you can do.

Perhaps you are taking your partner for granted. Listing their strengths or what attracted you to them in the first place might be enough to rekindle that initial attraction.

4. Rediscover your partner

Boredom can erode the strongest relationship bonds. Humans like repetition, but that means it’s easy to fall into a rut.

Try doing new things with your partner. Put down your smartphones and go out. Reestablish that connection you once had. Engage with your partner.

It could be a regular date night or starting a new exercise regime. Where have you always wanted to visit but never had the time? Work out a schedule for city breaks or day trips.

5. Look out for repeated negative behaviors

Sometimes we repeat the same patterns of behavior without knowing it. It could be body language; for example, the way you fold your arms across your chest when you are arguing, the language you use, rolling your eyes or sighing when your partner asks for something.

Watch out for this behavior and stop it before it spirals.

Final Thoughts

Whether you are ending it or your partner, it’s distressing to see signs your relationship is beyond repair. Spotting the subtle signs a relationship is over can help salvage it before it’s too late, or confirm what you already know.

References:

1. journals.sagepub.com
2. onlinelibrary.wiley.com
3. wikihow.com

Janey Davies

 

 

Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind

Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.

 

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From Incidents to Evolutionary Thrust

By Steve Beckow

Posted on November 24, 2023

 

We’re part of a very large game of life, from God to God, and everything I wrote about recently is happening as incidents against the backdrop of that one journey that all of us are on.

As lightworker leaders, we’re faced with the need to see behind the incidents to the game.  All of what is transpiring are episodes that serve to awaken us eventually to our true identity. (That’s the game.)

I have the distinct hunch that the Company of Heaven want us to not be fooled by the incidents as incidents, but to see the evolutionary thrust behind them. That may be what Archangel Michael meant when he said, pointing me back to the truth:

Archangel Michael: Do not get caught in the drama of white hats or black hats, or good guys or bad guys. All beings are birthed directly from the Heart of One…. (1)

The elite move us from one manufactured crisis to another.  We haven’t finished with the pandemic and there’s the Ukraine. We haven’t finished with the Ukraine and there’s Israel/Gaza. We haven’t finished with Israel/Gaza and there’s Spain.

Yes, we get it.

We’re kept responding to crises, moved from issue to issue, all to keep us diverted from the real problems like treasonous governments, toxic vaccines, human trafficking, adrenochrome production, child sacrifice, etc.

But don’t overlook the Executive Order sequestering the property of anyone determined to be guilty of serious human-rights abuses. The elites’ wealth has shrunk rapidly from being sequestered. No money, no wars. … Just false-flag mass shootings?

Need another example of progress? Remember the Ever Given? The Evergreen ship that got stuck in the Suez Canal?

By satellite, the white hats drove it into the bank and retrieved nuclear weapons, weather-warfare weapons, hundreds of live children and more than a thousand dead children, refrigerated adrenochrome, and so much else that I didn’t make note of.

These are two examples of progress being made.

Apparently it’s our job as the citizenry of Earth to fight the battles wherever we can. But our star family is here to assist if requested and permitted by natural law.

Overall, everything is moving towards Ascension. That’s the Divine Mother’s Plan and it cannot but succeed. (2)

***

It’s a time of recession of the darkness (Kali Yuga) and the dawning of the Light (Sat Yuga).

I look upon it as our job as lightworkers to keep our sanity and balance and help others in distress wherever we can. If all of us just looked around us and took care of those we see, we’d have the situation handled. For instance, I remember a day when bystanders did get involved.

We know what’s happening. That knowledge should make the difference between distress and calmness, panic and orderly response.

Footnotes

(1) “Archangel Michael: Do not Get Caught in the Drama of White Hats or Black Hats,” Nov. 12, 2019, at https://goldenageofgaia.com/2019/11/12/archangel-michael-do-not-get-caught-in-the-drama-of-white-hats-or-black-hats/.

(2) Divine Mother: [I am speaking about] those in … positions where control and abuse of power have been rampant. That will not be the platform [from] which integration of the various galaxies[into the new region of space] takes place. That is not the Plan.

I know very clearly, sweet one, as do you, if it is not [in] my Plan, then it will not occur. (The Divine Mother in “Enter the Delegations – Part 2/3,” May 5, 2019, at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2019/05/05/enter-the-delegations-part-2-3/. Reading, April 30, 2019.)

DM: When I dream, it is done. Yes, sweet angels, my action steps fall into place simultaneously because the dream, the desire, the intention is, what you would think of, that strong that there is no distraction. (“Universal Mother Mary’s New Year’s Message ~ You Are The Champions,” January 6, 2020, at https://goldenageofgaia.com/2020/01/06/universal-mother-marys-new-years-message-you-are-the-champions/.)

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The Impact of Climate Change on the Animal Kingdom

The Impact of Climate Change on the Animal Kingdom

By Steve Beckow

Posted on April 18, 2023

SaLuSa of Sirius

A reader asked about the destiny of the animal kingdom. It would be worth listen ingto the Company of Heaven on the subject.

What will the new climate be like on Nova Earth?

Matthew Ward: Melting glaciers and icebergs and weather anomalies are paving the way to a favorable climate globally, to the restoration of barren lands so they can become arable again and the end of both the hottest and the polar regions.  (1)

Archangel Uriel: Temperate climates [will] enfold and embrace not only humanity but each of you personally, as well as every flower, every blade of grass, every pebble, every grain of sand. (2)

SaLuSa: If ever you needed proof of the weather changes that are taking place, you only have to look back at the difference now to what it was just some 50 years ago.

The changes are dramatic and do not appear to follow any particular pattern and at times seem chaotic. Yet the changes are not random happenings, but leading to a more acceptable pattern and one that ensures that the extremes you usually experience no longer occur. (3)

How will it impact the animal kingdom?

Matthew Ward

Matthew: Some animal species will become extinct, those that cannot adapt to the serious changes in their habitats; but others will be able to adjust to the changes and flourish.

Gradually all animals will become herbivores and the outcry to kill numbers of “predators” will cease. In the meantime, please continue your efforts to protect all animal life, to stop the terrible abuse and end the slaughtering on land and in the seas. Humans’ inhumane treatment of animals has caused a staggering amount of negativity for Earth to deal with. (4)

Matthew: Sadly, some marine populations and animal species living in frigid temperatures will not survive, but most can adapt far more readily to rising ocean and land temperatures than they can live in polluted waters or in sonar testing areas or in cages, much less evade slaughter for pelts or tusks, “scientific experiments,” or delicacies such as caviar and fins. Some low-lying coastal areas and islands will be affected, as I mentioned before along with stating that residents will have time to move to higher areas and be compensated for relocation. (5)

Matthew: Melting glaciers and icebergs and weather anomalies are paving the way to a favorable climate globally, to the restoration of barren lands so they can become arable again and the end of both the hottest and the polar regions.

Yes, this means that some animal species will become extinct, those that cannot adapt to the serious changes in their habitats; but others will be able to adjust to the changes and flourish. Gradually all animals will become herbivores and the outcry to kill numbers of “predators” will cease. In the meantime, please continue your efforts to protect all animal life, to stop the terrible abuse and end the slaughtering on land and in the seas. Humans’ inhumane treatment of animals has caused a staggering amount of negativity for Earth to deal with. (6)

SaLuSa: As with the Human Race, the animal kingdom will also change and a number of species will completely disappear. They will be mainly those who normally live in the more extreme conditions, and are unable to adapt to the new Earth. They are not lost for all time but will find another planet where they can continue their evolution. All life is immortal and there are no exceptions, and changes take place all of the time as indeed you are now beginning to experience. (7)

SaLuSa: Species of animals will move to conditions that are more suited to their needs.  (8)

Divine Mother, I heard that some extinct species will return.

Divine Mother: I have said long ago that when the time of restoration came, not only would there be the return of beings… animals, dolphins, winged ones… but that many of what people have thought of as ‘extinct species’ would return – and they are. (9)

DM: In the new world, many species that have been extinct will return. Your cities become places of fresh air and play and gardens. And so some of you will wish to take care of that and be part of that creation. So go where your heart pulls you. (10)

Archangel Michael: You have seen here and there sightings of species that have been spotted of late that were believed to be extinct. (11)

Footnotes

(1) Matthew’s Messages, Oct. 22, 2008, at https://www.matthewbooks.com.

(2) Archangel Uriel in “Attention All Rainmakers: Calling for a Meditation This Saturday at 15:15,” at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2014/11/23/attention-all-rainmakers-calling-for-a-meditation-this-saturday-at-1515/

(3) SaLuSa, Oct. 17, 2014, at http://www.treeofthegoldenlight.com/Mike%20Quinsey/NEW-Channeled_Messages_by_Mike_Quinsey.htm.

(4) Matthew’s Messages, Oct. 22, 2008.

(5) Ibid., April 3, 2007.

(6) Ibid., Oct. 22, 2008.

(7) SaLuSa, Nov. 4, 2009.

(8) Ibid., February 6, 2015.

(9) “Universal Mother: Birthing the New – It is Time for the Joy to Return!” May 9, 2020, at https://goldenageofgaia.com/2020/05/09/universal-mother-birthing-the-new-it-is-time-for-the-joy-to-return/.

(10) “The Divine Mother: The Table is Set; You are Ready for the Dance,” channeled by Linda Dillon, Sep. 18, 2014, at http://http://goldenageofgaia.com/2014/09/20/the-divine-mother-the-table-is-set-you-are-ready-for-the-dance/.

(11) Archangel Michael in a personal reading with Steve Beckow through Linda Dillon, Nov. 26, 2019.

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10 Signs of Ill-Wishers in Your Circle Who Set You Up for Failure

10 Signs of Ill-Wishers in Your Circle Who Set You Up for Failure

By Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

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Posted on March 31, 2023

Friendships are important to your overall health and wellbeing. But be careful, the friends in your social circle could be secretly wishing for your failure in life. Are there ill-wishers among your friends?

Whether you care for social aspects in life, it is healthy to socialize and make friends. To extroverts, this may be easy and come naturally. Even introverts have a carefully selected friend group.

However, there are those friends who pretend to like you, and meanwhile, they secretly hope that you fail.

Are there ill-wishers in your circle?

There are signs of ill-wishers within your social group. While it may be difficult to pick them out, if you look closely, you can see the telltale indicators.

So, what are some of the signs that your friends aren’t rooting for your success? Let’s look.

1. Highly competitive

There is nothing wrong with being a little competitive with friends. However, if you have someone in your social circle that constantly competes against you, they probably don’t want you to succeed in life.

Pay attention to that person or persons who always tries to “one-up” your achievements. They really don’t want you to win at anything.

2. Constantly breaking your boundaries

Friends in your social circle that have your best interests in mind will respect your boundaries. But ill-wishers will always find ways to break them.

For instance, you probably have boundaries revolving around your standards and morals, and people who secretly want you to fail will constantly push these boundaries.

3. They regularly insult you

Those friends who wish you ill may question your beliefs and insult you because of things you do not tolerate. These are usually individuals who generalize your dislike and call it hatred, which are two different things.

Maybe they figure if they accuse you of having hatred all the time, you will change your standards and accept things you feel are abusive. This can ruin your life, and they know this.

Insults can come in many ways from insulting your looks to your emotions, but it’s all designed to bring you down.

4. Encouraging your bad behavior

Let’s be honest, we all have certain bad behaviors. But ill-wishers encourage our darker side, and it’s usually for two reasons: Our negative actions are entertaining, and they love to watch us crash and burn.

Think about those friends who neg you into driving fast and breaking the law, do you really think they have your best interests in mind?

What about the friend who suggests you physically confront someone who has wronged you, what do you think that shows?

5. There’s no support

There’s also another sign of an ill-wisher that may not be as obvious as the others. Some friends may not be noticeably mean or toxic, but they just might not care about you.

It could be a subtle indicator that shows they don’t support you like having little to say when you announce a success story. Although you get excited when they fulfill a dream, they don’t seem to reciprocate this excitement.

In fact, their lack of care could be silent resentment. It could be that they do notice, they are jealous, and so they refuse to be happy for you. Deep down inside, they want you to fail so they can shine.

6. They love to use you

Friends who really don’t care about your success will use you for their own gain. While they may tell you that they support and love you, their actions will prove otherwise.

They may call you constantly for advice or knock on your door, but when you need help, they are nowhere to be found.

7. Highly judgmental

You may do something that isn’t all that positive, but an ill-wisher will blow this out of proportion. Then they will judge you for this slight.

Even after weeks or months, they will bring up this “failure” to remind you that you’re imperfect. Mentally healthy people don’t do this.

8. Lying and gossiping

If you find out that a friend in your social circle is spreading gossip about you, it’s probably because they’re trying to take you down. Why? Well, there could be a couple of reasons.

They may have just singled you out if they perceive weakness, or they have some grudge from who knows when.

Either way, they are ill-wishers in your life. They do not want you to succeed. If you succeed, it will be more difficult to talk negatively about you. And most of the time, the ones who gossip are the nicest ones when face to face.

9. They triangulate you

Fake friends will triangulate you from your friends and family. In case you don’t know what this means, triangulation is when a particular friend will lie or gossip about you in an attempt to get closer to your family or friends.

Their goal is to isolate you from your loved ones. It literally feels like people you love are being stolen from you. And most of the time, these people are your greatest support system. Pay close attention to this sort of behavior.

10. Covert abuse

Any type of toxic behavior is used to make you fail. There’s just no other reason for using this type of tactic. And the behavior can be covert abuse – not easily recognizable.

Things such as gaslighting, deflecting, and failure to take responsibility can go under the radar. Before you know it, life is all about them and your dreams are on the backburner.

Pay close attention to every little detail once you get a whiff of abusive behavior.

Good wishers are healthy friends

Obviously, we want friends who support us and help us succeed in life. So, to do that, we must know the difference between those who wish us well and those who wish us ill outcomes.

I hope with this list of signs you can recognize who is rooting for you and who is setting you up for failure. And when you do see the truth, I hope you have the strength to remove those ill-wishers from your life. I wish you the best!

Sherrie Hurd

About the author:

 

Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

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