Posted on May 17, 2025
-“Love cannot abide where it is not welcomed.” Enneagram mentor Rev. Nhien Vuong teaches each Enneagram type how to practice self-forgiveness.
Forgiving ourselves for things we’ve done wrong is not about refusing to take responsibility for our actions. In fact, it is vital to take whatever steps we can to make amends and rectify past harms towards others.
Self-forgiveness as an inner act, too, is an essential part of the spiritual journey. No matter how hard we might wish or pray for it, we cannot access Divine Love if we are the very ones punishing ourselves. Love cannot abide where it is not welcomed.
Indeed, taking personal responsibility does not mean we need to lock up our souls in a self-made purgatory or exile our hearts from Divine Grace and human belonging. The following practices are about embracing the irrevocable truth that your essence is whole and good; that every fiber of your being is worthy of love and forgiveness. Resolve in this moment to set yourself free to live and love openheartedly so you can more fully experience and express Divine Love throughout the remainder of your precious and sacred lifetime.
Don’t know your Enneagram type? Try this quiz here.
No one gets everything right. No one does everything perfectly. Do not punish yourself for being human. Send more love and compassion to yourself when you discover that you’ve erred, not less! Be a place of peace for yourself, not an enabler of inner violence.
It is not your job to make everyone happy. It is not reasonable to expect everyone to like you. Yet when important relationships aren’t as strong or as positive as you would like them to be, you take on more than your share of blame and responsibility. Do your best to let this go.
Until you forgive yourself, you’ll spend the rest of your days—and nights—overcompensating where you feel you have failed. As you push yourself harder and harder, you may end up further and further away from your true path. Forgive yourself so you can welcome the full worthiness of who you are today and don’t have to keep looking for it in the future.
What you most need to forgive in yourself isn’t one thing or another that you did; rather, it’s who you are (or think you are). Let go of condemnation and shame and give yourself a new start. Forgive yourself for who you thought you should be or might have been. Find your voice and power in fully embracing all your traits, as well as the essence of who you are in this moment today.
You tend to harbor resentment toward anyone you believe has rejected you. By rejecting them in response, you spare yourself from having to accept how you were critiqued. If you make them smaller or more inferior by condemning them, then they have no authority to judge you. Notice, though, what you have not yet forgiven in yourself. Likely it has to do with an area in which you feel fearful or incompetent. If someone else has triggered you, chances are that before you can forgive them, you need to release this high expectation of your own capabilities.
No amount of vigilance can possibly keep everyone you love, including you, safe. Yet when harm occurs, you often judge yourself harshly. Letting the Ghost of Mistakes Past haunt and torment you is inhumane. Moreover, it only fuels more anxiety and second-guessing, which prevents you from making wise and compassionate decisions both in the present and the future. Set yourself free from the shackles of the past.
If you are on a path of self-awareness, you may be starting to realize all the dreams you’ve sabotaged, the bridges you’ve burned, and the love you’ve been too afraid to lean into. The belief that it is darkest before dawn feels especially relevant. Your willingness to stay with the darkness—to feel your own fears, anger, resentment, or grief deep in your heart and bones—and not hastily move on allows you to experience the dawning of a truly new and transformed life.
Do not confuse moving on with letting go. Forgive yourself the big dreams that never fully materialized, the people you couldn’t help, and the important situations you couldn’t control. Your vision and appetite for bigness is a gift, but it is also a heavy burden. There is power you can claim in the present when you get real about what happened in the past. Bring compassionate strength to all that you have not yet grieved so you can finally let go.
When you finally wake up to parts of yourself that went to sleep—whether for weeks, months, or years—it’s easy to be hard on yourself. Do not judge yourself for what you weren’t ready to see or know or act on until now. Weep if you need to for your old self and life, but don’t condemn yourself. This will only make you want to go back into hiding. Resist your tendency toward inertia. Coax yourself out further with self-forgiveness and loving-kindness.
After trying the practice aligned with your Enneagram type, did you find that you could forgive yourself? If not, then consider what is truly in the way of your self-forgiveness. Ask yourself: How does my unforgiveness serve me? What does it help me to do? What does it protect me from? What do I fear will happen if I forgive myself? Self-forgiveness becomes easier once we realize that compassion can help us respond more effectively to life than unforgiveness can.
Posted on February 17, 2025
I am Saint Germain, keeper of the violet flame.
I am St. Germain, keeper of the violet flame.
Posted on February 16, 2025
Posted on January 20, 2025
© The 11:11 Progress Group.
No matter what the question is, the answer is always Love.
Credit: Novakid Channel. We teach like/don’t like to kids at the earliest ages.
The chief feature of duality is the creation of a mental spectrum upon which is ranged things we like and don’t like, things which are good and bad, right and wrong, beautiful and ugly, etc.
Life becomes about avoiding the latter and enjoying as much of the former as possible before dropping dead.
But seriously, if we want real change in a world on fire, we need to address probably the worst pitfall of living in a dualistic, 3/4D world.
That is the mental habit of making some people bad and wrong and others good and right. Given our self-serving bias, we end up being good and right, along with our friends, and whomever we don’t like ends up being bad and wrong. (1)
This mental habit is only a characteristic of 3/4D. It doesn’t exist on the higher planes, pre-empted by the ubiquitous love that lives there. (2)
The alternative is to stop doing it and substitute factual, common-sense observation and analysis instead. “Just the facts, ma’am,” a style of communication our star family calls Perro. (3)
But looking at the mental habit for a moment, in my understanding, almost every person’s way is right in their own eyes. Haven’t we seen this again and again? “They deserved it. They got what was coming to them. I taught them a lesson.” Etc. No matter how awful and reprehensible the action is to us, to the actor it’s justifiable.
Even Hitler wrote his last will and blamed his defeat on his people. They weren’t courageous enough or willing to suffer enough. No, it had nothing to do with him.
It’s a knee-jerk reaction to defend ourselves, instead of saying, “Hmmm… I may have played a role in that. Let me have a look.” (4)
Ascension will handle the matter. Infused with the love that lives on the higher realms, everything connected with right/wrong, good/bad will instantly evaporate and disappear from memory as well.
I remember asking Archangel Michael if forgiveness would disappear on the higher planes because we wouldn’t be doing anything offensive or even thinking of it. There’d be nothing to forgive. He agreed.
If we experienced that love on this plane of existence, all “problems” would instantly disappear. But, until the kundalini reaches the fourth chakra and releases this love, we stumble around in the darkness of our minds.
In higher planes, there are only “situations,” which we’d regard as opportunities to help, so as to experience the love flowing through us to another. (Love must flow.) (5)
Even if we’re not in the experience of that love, we invite it to us by declining to follow the mind into appraisals of good/bad and right/wrong. There are ways and means that work and ways and means that don’t. Never mind “might makes right,” what does common sense and a loving heart say?
What catastrophe will the cabal try next and attribute to climate change?
Always keep in mind that our star family will not permit a nuclear or a world war. No nuclear weapons can be exploded in space (and almost all nukes are delivered through space). (6) All the nuclear threats you hear are purely theatrical.
Footnotes
(1) See On the Self-Serving Bias at https://goldenageofgaia.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/08/On-the-Self-Serving-Bias-2.pdf
(2) I’ve been given numerous sometimes toned-down experiences of the love, bliss, and ecstasy that exist on the higher dimensions. Michael explains:
Archangel Michael: What you have seen is that you have been given bite-sized pieces of energy, of energy bumps, of input of what you can digest and handle and truly bring to fruition. If you are in the process of expansion, you don’t go from Grade 3 to a PhD in a week. (“AAM on Truncated Experiences,” March 21, 2017, at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2017/03/21/aam-on-truncated-experiences/.)
Archangel Michael: You have experienced, progressively, periods of unity, of transformative love, of ecstasy, of bliss that you feel (and I emphasize feel) come and go.
But every time, you have had this experience it has edged you up a level. So that now you say to me, “Michael, I feel like I have a new baseline. I have a new foundation of happiness.”
But you also have a new foundation of knowingness, of understanding, of wisdom, of humility, of tolerance, of kindness. This has all been bringing you to an expanded sense of self and an expanded sense of not only how we operate but how the collective operates. (“Archangel Michael on Snaps, Expansion, and Ascension,” June 6, 2017, at https://goldenageofgaia.com/2017/06/06/archangel-michael-on-snaps-expansion-and-ascension/.)
(3) See “Do You Speak Perro?”
(4) In a three-month encounter group I attended in 1975-76, I recall that the first time someone gave us feedback that seemed to criticize us, we were greatly offended. By the end, we acknowledged whatever was true with great delight at knowing more about ourselves.
(5) Archangel Michael: Love is the energy of the universe. It is the energy of the Mother. And it moves constantly, continually, eternally, infinitely. So, to have an experience of love, it [must move] through you. (Archangel Michael in a personal reading with Steve Beckow through Linda Dillon, Dec. 5, 2018.) (Hereafter AAM.)
AAM: Love is a fluid energy. It has need to flow and so when it does not flow it becomes… Well, as you put it, it be can become dry and brittle. It has need to be given and received above, below, within, without and in every which way. (AAM, April 30, 2019.)
(6) See There will be No Nuclear War for the World at https://goldenageofgaia.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/03/No-Nuclear-War-R5.pdf
