11 Signs an Arrogant Person Is Actually Deeply Insecure 

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on May 5, 2024

 

 

Have you ever met an arrogant person and thought they didn’t live up to their own hype? We typically associate arrogance with an inflated ego and a sense of superiority, but arrogance can also be a shield for insecurity.

We know there’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance, but some people use arrogance as a shield to hide their feelings of inadequacy, as a defense mechanism to cover up low self-esteem and a front to disguise a lack of confidence.

Here are 11 signs an arrogant person is insecure.

1. Their default setting is attack

“Arrogance is the manifestation of weakness, the secret fear towards rivals.” ~ Fulton John Sheen

An insecure person will attack first and ask questions later because they need the element of surprise to disarm and confuse people. This deflects attention from themselves.

2. They are always bragging about themselves

“Arrogance needs advertising, confidence speaks for itself.” ~ Vitor Belfort

Confident people don’t need to bang on about their achievements; they know their actions speak for themselves. Insecure people who come across as arrogant use every opportunity to brag and boast. It’s a cover for their failings. Appearing more successful than they are draws scrutiny from their weaknesses.

3. They always put others down

“Arrogance is a self-defense tactic to disguise insecurities.” ~ Caroll Michels

As well as boasting about their achievements, arrogant people humiliate and insult others as a way of boosting their self-esteem. They like to gossip and create a situation of ‘them and us’. They believe that if someone else is being targeted, they won’t be.

4. They overcompensate for their shortcomings

“Arrogance really comes from insecurity, and in the end our feeling that we are bigger than others is really the flip side of our feeling that we are smaller than others.” ~ Desmond Tutu

Whether it’s the flash suit, the latest designer trainers, or a personalized number plate, an insecure, arrogant person will use anything they can to hide their lack of confidence.

5. They are a ‘know-it-all’

“You never really learn much from hearing yourself speak.” ~ George Clooney

No matter what you’re talking about, this person will always tell you what they would do. They’re the types that offer an opinion or advice to you without asking, but not because they’re confident, because they have to be seen to be on the ball.

6. They lash out at criticism

“Often those that criticize others reveal what he himself lacks.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

You can’t give an arrogant person who is insecure any kind of criticism (even though they are highly critical of others). They have fragile egos and if under attack, they’ll get personal, insulting your looks, your intelligence, your family and so on.

7. They force their opinions on others

“Knowledge and reason speak, arrogance and ignorance scream.” ~ Arturo Graf.

It’s true that he who shouts loudest gets the most attention, but it’s also a sign of insecurity cloaked in arrogance. These people are imposing, they speak loudly and don’t want to hear other opinions.

8. They always act busy (but they’re not)

“Problem with an old friend who is too busy: he always perceives you as if never changed.” ~ Toba Beta

Busy people are productive people. They have responsibilities and are in demand. They contribute to society. There’s nothing worse than a lazy person – that’s why insecure, arrogant people pretend they are busy.

9. They are intolerant of people’s differences

“None are more unjust in their judgments of others than those who have a high opinion of themselves.” ~ Charles Spurgeon

One sign an arrogant person is insecure is intolerance; particularly towards minorities. Arrogant people point out differences to raise their profile and standing. They boost their self-esteem by devaluing other people. Because they have low confidence, bashing others is one of the few ways they can feel superior.

10. They use backhanded compliments

“Arrogant people are insecure and often repel others. Truly confident people feel good about themselves and attract others to them." ~ Christie Hartman

Arrogant people like to think they’re smarter than the rest of us, so they use techniques like backhanded compliments to appear warm and friendly, but in fact, they’re getting one over on us. This passive-aggressive approach typifies insecure behavior.

11. Everything is a competition

“Insecure people only eclipse your sun because they’re jealous of your daylight and tired of their dark, starless nights.” ~ Shannon L. Alder

One-upmanship is a favorite tactic of the insecure, arrogant person. They must win at everything, whether it’s who has the better car or job or trivial things like who can eat the hottest curry or who has the best garden. Insecure types are always looking to prove they are the winners. It’s tiresome.

• So why are some insecure people arrogant?
• It’s a defense mechanism to fool others

Insecure people use arrogance as a defense. It’s like the mask narcissists put on to hide their true personality. Arrogance acts as protection. Arrogance is often mistaken for confidence, and it can fool others into thinking someone is superior.

It convinces themselves of their superiority

People with low self-esteem sometimes act arrogantly to convince themselves they are better than others. The louder they shout, the more they believe in the hype they’ve created.

It’s a coping strategy for life’s setbacks

An insecure person uses arrogance as a shield to hide their shortcomings, and so they use it to cope with life’s difficulties. Arrogance protects them from situations or feelings they’d rather not face. It’s a barrier against the world that lets them retreat behind, firing missiles in safety.

It’s protection against their fragile ego

People with robust egos can stand a little criticism now and then. People with fragile egos are defensive and prone to overreacting. They take any criticism as a personal attack and will lash out over the smallest perceived slight.

How to cope with an arrogant personUnderstand that arrogance comes from a place of insecurity. This person is unhappy with their life, which is why they’re bragging or lashing out.

• Speak directly to the person if you feel they’re overstepped the mark or are being untruthful.
• Know that you can’t change someone’s insecurity, but you can set boundaries and limit the time you spend with them.
• Keep calm and act reasonably. An arrogant person will often use personal insults to attack others, causing them to lose their temper.

Final thoughts

Of course, not every arrogant person has low self-esteem or a fragile ego, but it’s interesting to think that arrogance comes from a place of insecurity. So, can you spot the arrogant, insecure person?

References:

• psychnews.psychiatryonline.org
• psychologytoday.com

Janey Davies

 

 

Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind

Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.

 

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Citizenries’ perceptions of their leaders as corrupt, deceptive and unjust are spurring rebellions against governments

Citizenries’ perceptions of their leaders as corrupt, deceptive and unjust are spurring rebellions against governments

By Matthew Ward (Matthew)

Channel: Suzanne Ward

Attack on Israel: Illuminati, Netanyahu, retaliation, response; universal councils; awakened populace; power of intention; hope; intelligence, belief

Posted on November 1, 2023 

 

With loving greetings from all souls at this station, this is Matthew. 

The Illuminati cause death and devastation wherever it fits their agenda. This time it is Israel and the objective is to destroy Palestine and secure Jerusalem as the Illuminati headquarters in the Middle East. This isn’t an isolated event in their minds, it is another step toward world domination.

Benjamin Netanyahu, who was in the Illuminati ranks before becoming Israel’s prime minister in 1996, was one of the masterminds of the unconscionable attack. He never intended to serve the best interests of Israelis or Jews living anywhere in your world. Always his aims and actions have been aligned with Illuminati agendas, chronological events which they plan decades prior to initiation, and they formed Hamas and all other terrorist groups to assist them.

Aided by a strong campaign against antisemitism and the premise that Israel needs a powerful military force to ensure its survival, the country has had dependable emotional, military and financial backing ever since its inception, in 1947. However, withdrawing the formidable defense at the border with Gaza just prior to the assault was so suspicious that Netanyahu is not getting the widespread support he expected.

The Biden administration and a few other Illuminati-operated governments are raising the battle cry with him, but other influential voices are condemning the killing of Palestinian civilians, cutting off access to their life necessities, and reducing their homes to rubble as justification for atrocities, destruction and hostage-taking by Hamas.

Every person who is affected by this tragedy—or any of the many other heart-wrenching Illuminati-caused traumas our Earth family are enduring—is a child of God, and He feels every sensation that every soul does. We sorrow at what some of our Earth family are doing to others. The profoundness of God’s agony and unending tears is unimaginable.

Dear ones, please do not take sides in this sad situation, but rather send love-light to all in your world—a tsunami of that energy’s high vibrations is the means whereby violence will be ended. Retaliation won’t bring peace to the region or heal shattered lives. These neighboring citizenries want to live peacefully and cooperatively with safety for their families. They aren’t enemies, they did not take up arms against each other.

The fighting forces that shed blood in both countries are puppets of the darkness, beings devoid of light. They are this generation’s perpetrators of the diabolical ideology and activities that have been part and parcel of life in your world for millennia.

We are not judging them. We are saying the peoples need to know the Illuminati, Deep State, One World Order, Shadow Government, the cabal is real—it is not mainstream media’s “conspiracy theory.” They are desperate and tenacious, and because they need the low vibrations of fear and suffering to survive, during this last stage of the battle between the light forces and the dark, they will cause chaos and devastation.  Maybe technologically cause destructive “natural” disasters, produce a holographic invasion of monstrous aliens, or send mind-controlled individuals on mass killing sprees.

Some of you think space family members will bring the Illuminati to justice. Extraterrestrials have assisted Earth in a multitude of ways throughout her history, so that thought is understandable. But it is not part of the divine master plan, which does permit members to step in and manage situations beyond the capabilities of Earth’s civilization.

For instance, they established a powerful light grid that prevents low vibratory civilizations from entering your solar system. Powerful distant civilizations beamed the massive light that saved the life of the planet and ET special forces have prevented the detonation of nuclear warheads on missiles. Crews in mammoth spacecraft near the edge of your solar system banished malevolent fabricated forms with intelligence and they dismantled technology intended to capture minds on Earth by interacting with 5G installations.

Universal councils that set standards for civilizations’ interactions would not sanction killing 90 percent of Earth’s population, an Illuminati goal of longstanding. They cannot have a third world war—they started WWI and II and made vast fortunes by selling war machinery to both sides in both wars—and they cannot fabricate and release more lethal viruses. The councils hold that the reign of darkness on the planet is over for once and for all, and the wealth of assistance does not include action that is within Earth residents’ capabilities. Taking legal action to prosecute proven evildoers is the peoples’ responsibility.

Awakened and awakening souls want to know what is true and what isn’t, and it is important that they know where to access factual information. If the opportunity arises—or better, fashion an opportunity—refer soul-searchers to Internet sites and books you know offer what they need and are seeking. This is part of the mentoring aspect of your mission, dear ones!

We have explained the directing of energy streamers via thoughts and intentions, and we need to give more emphasis to the power of intention, which emits vibrations separately from those produced by the action itself. A benevolent intention with a positive outcome produces vibrations at the top of the frequency spectrum and a disastrous outcome, which is the intention of the action taken, produces vibrations at the low end.

When an intention is benevolent but action goes awry, the high vibrations of the intention overcome the low ones of the action’s result. A simple example is, you take a beautiful bouquet to a sick neighbor to lift her spirits. You didn’t know she has allergies to the flowers’ pollen—now those are adding to her misery. The high vibes of your good intention overcome the low ones from the unfortunate effects of your thoughtful gesture.

The intention of the Illuminati’s counterattack in Gaza is to cause massive death, injury, fear and extreme hardships for survivors, and Israeli defense forces have been ordered to cripple Palestine to irremediable status.  The rock-bottom vibrations of that combination added to the vibrations of everyone who is suffering hang like ominous storm clouds on Earth’s horizon.

Dear family, the intensity of your light will help dispel those vibrations and end this dark night of the soul for Gaia. The same help is coming from the empathy, courage, compassion, sharing, kindness, hope, honesty, forgiveness—love’s glorious ingredients that are soaring throughout the world.

We want to stress the importance of hope. A strong sense of hope—not a feeble feeling that borders on doubt, but gut-level-strength hopefulness—is the motivator to try, try and try again until efforts are rewarded. Hope keeps the potential of success alive while perseverance is manifesting it.

“If the Oneness of All is soul-level knowledge, how can it be that lightworkers know that but other people don’t?” Universally, most people do know that. At this stage of Earth civilization’s evolution there still is little conscious awareness of information that is commonly known elsewhere. They are seeing third density situations more clearly by the day, but the connection to soul-level knowledge is just starting.

The stultifying of many souls’ intelligence capacity came when puppets of the dark forces put into dormancy 10 of the 12 DNA strands of weak, inexperienced civilizations. The intention was to make those people easy to control by inculcating in their minds the belief that they are inferior and need the care and guidance of “authorities.” Those beliefs followed the affected souls in cellular memory from one incarnation to the next.

Much later the self-serving, devious rulers of church and state devised “God’s laws” and other dogma. They told the peoples they are sinners and depending on how obedient they were, when they die they will go to either heaven or hell for eternity.

What one believes is his reality regardless of how far from the universal truth that belief is. Believing dire-sounding religious teachings created fear, resentment, anger, deception, guilt, stress, suspicions, vengefulness, obsequiousness, envy, jealousy, obsessiveness, self-righteousness and a sense of pure doom. Often those feelings led to dreadful behavior and perpetuated the darkness.

During those long, long ages before Terra was called Earth, the planet became known as an exceptional schoolhouse where souls could learn to properly deal with emotions and evolve from third density to fourth spiritually and consciously.

The planet became a karmic merry-go-round because most who flocked there came from civilizations with dormant DNA. That formed a veil between the people’s consciousness and their soul-level knowledge, and many needed multiple lifetimes to master their chosen lessons. Most of Earth’s residents after Atlantis and Lemuria were lost have come from those weakened civilizations.

That is why you volunteered to go there, dear ones!  You knew then that you have successfully helped other third density civilizations waken. You knew you are powerful multidimensional, immortal souls who have lived in various civilizations on Earth and many other planets. You knew you have had lifetimes in every role, relationship and life style on the planet today and you are inseparably connected energetically with all life forms in every world throughout this universe.

You still know all of that and much, much more that you don’t remember because you’re in a 3D body in a world just now emerging from the miasma of 3D mentality. But occasionally you revisit evolved lifetimes in flashes of cellular memory or you tap into your soul’s infinite storehouse of cosmic knowledge, and always you resonate with the high vibrations of a new kindred spirit.

And, beloved brothers and sisters, do you not now and then experience sweet sensations of gratitude and humility for being chosen to experience a noteworthy, fulfilling lifetime during the most dramatic, dynamic era on Earth?

All light beings in this universe honor you and support you with unconditional love.

LOVE and PEACE

Suzanne Ward

https://www.matthewbooks.com/

Note from Suzy: Family, friends and my “distribution team” have thanked you on my behalf for your good wishes, blessings and healing love.  Now I can tell you myself how much your notes mean to me. Hundreds, maybe thousands, of you have written heartfelt expressions of caring about my wellbeing and your appreciation for Matthew’s messages. I won’t be able to reply personally—one life change is no more computer marathons answering emails—so thank you, thank you, thank you, everyone!!!