My dearest brothers and sisters,
This is Hakann speaking. I greet you in peace and love.
To start out, I would like to invite you to consider how absurdly discriminatory many modern statements about men would be, if you swapped out the word “men” for the word “Jew.”
For example, it’s normal to say that men are bad in a certain way, or that men rig society to unfairly benefit men (old boys network), or to talk about “man up”, or to say “real man”, or to say “he’s one of the good men”, or to say “he has small dick energy” or “he is compensating for something.” It’s also normal to celebrate a women’s-only initiative.
Now imagine a person saying that Jews are bad in a certain way, or that Jews rig society to unfairly benefit Jews (old Jews network), or to talk about “Jew up”, or to say “real Jew”, or to say “he’s one of the good Jews”, or to say “he has circumcised dick energy.” Or imagine a “white people only” initiative or a “no Jews allowed” initiative.
Women would likely speak up against those anti-Jew statements (or against similar anti-black or anti-female statements). But then why isn’t she speaking up against anti-male statements?
Because men are the privileged ones? They’re not, if we’re talking about the West in 2025. And obviously, collective punishment isn’t justice.
The theory that men rig society to benefit men also clearly isn’t true, because there are female-only scholarships while already more women attend university. Also, far more money is spent on breast cancer research than on prostate cancer research. This wouldn’t be the case if men were actually rigging society to benefit men.
Furthermore: “Wales gives 77 times as much money to women’s groups than men’s groups”:
Let’s imagine that you lived in a world where four out of five people who killed themselves were women, yet 77 times as much money was given to men’s groups. That would be completely outrageous, and people would insist that that be changed immediately.
Women would shout this unfairness from the rooftops, justifiably so, and they would expect men to speak out on their behalf, or even literally march in the streets in protest to help them out. They wouldn’t accept “can’t help, because I’m busy” type of arguments from men. And indeed, many men would speak up, even without women asking them to.
Well, the world you actually live in is one where four out of five people who kill themselves are men, yet 77 times as much money is given to women’s groups (in Wales, but it’s similar elsewhere). And this situation should be seen as equally outrageous.
If women want equality, then the same expectation should be placed on women that in this case they speak out to support men, and that they speak out to demand an end to structural unfairness against men.
Indeed, men who speak out for men’s rights don’t get listened to, and they may get fired from their job for it. Even the term “men’s rights activist” is a dirty word that’s thought of as more or less a synonym for “woman hater.” So men can’t fix this issue by themselves — they need women to help them. Because while people won’t listen to men saying it, they will actually listen if a woman says we should treat men better.
Now yes, there also exist individual, isolated men who discriminate against women. And that is bad. But it’s not nearly of the same caliber as the structural, governmentally-supported anti-male discrimination that exists.
Plus, everyone already agrees that anti-female discrimination is bad, and judges will convict people for provably engaging in it. However, many people don’t see anti-male discrimination as bad, and judges actually join in on the discrimination against men, for example by structurally giving women lighter sentences than men for the same crimes.
A counter argument might be “I’m a woman and I’m not speaking up against anti-male or anti-female discrimination, so I’m being even-handed.” That’s not actually being even-handed, because if you live in the West in 2025, you live in a society that doesn’t structurally discriminate against women but does structurally discriminate against men. If your group is privileged because the other group is being discriminated against, then it’s not even-handed to just keep quiet.
Maybe it was fair that 100 years ago women only pushed for women’s rights. But it’s not fair today.
Now, I do get that society is harsh on women, and that it is in some way uniquely harsh on women, and that women are scared. But on the whole, society is even harsher against men than it is against women.
Again, see for example the fact that four out of five people who kill themselves are men. And blaming that on men’s poor choices would be a milder version of pointing to black people’s poor choices back when courts and governments were structurally and openly discriminating against them. It’s victim-blaming.
And yes, governments giving 77 times as much money to female groups, and courts giving harsher sentences for the same crimes to men, is open and structural discrimination by governments and courts against men.
See as well: “[The UK] government no longer places girls in Young Offender Institutions” (but of course boys are still placed there):
Also see this study, which finds that mental health professionals are more willing to treat and refer suicidal female patients than suicidal male patients:
Even purely for women, this is bad in the medium term. First of all, those suffering men are your husbands and sons and nephews and fathers, and are the future husbands of your daughters.
Second, if one gender is mistreated, that negatively affects the other gender too. This is true both on a subtle spiritual level, but also just on the practical level that men do the vast majority of the heavy, dirty, dangerous work that is needed to keep society running. I don’t foresee women being eager to start doing half of the sewer-related and garbage collection work.
Third, this female unfairness, and the silence from the majority of the good women on the matter, will turn people against women in general in the medium term.
One example of that is that more and more men have stopped looking for a girlfriend. Which is understandable to a degree — if women lived in a society that structurally discriminated against them, would they date a man who was unwilling to speak out against that? And if most men were like that, wouldn’t that make a woman just not want to date?
Now, men are less likely to publicly make those kinds of arguments and quite possibly get fired for them, than they are to just stay at home and play video games. But yes, women’s conduct is lessening some men’s desire to date. And it’s causing some men to only look for hookups and not committed relationships.
Women on Earth sometimes go on a sex strike if they’re displeased. Well, some men are on an informal marriage strike. It’s not uncommon for men to tell each other things like: “half of all marriages end in divorce, and the vast majority of divorces are initiated by women, and usually the man isn’t doing something horrible such as cheating or abusing her. So then, why sign a contract that the other party is rewarded for breaking? You shouldn’t. So, don’t marry. If you want sex, just find a hookup.”
If you don’t believe me: Helen Smith wrote a book titled “Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – and Why It Matters”
So women’s mistreatment of men is in the medium term hurting women too.
Or to give an extreme example of this rising anti-female sentiment: it’s getting more popular among some young men to express among themselves the opinion that women shouldn’t be able to vote. Sometimes this is formulated as “repeal the 19th”, referring to the US 19th amendment.
Now that is absolutely a minority position, but if men get painted as the societal evil anyway, and if they feel that women are unfair against them (which women currently are) and that women vote in left-wing ways that are detrimental to the country… then “women shouldn’t be able to vote” isn’t a justified position but it is an understandable one.
While I don’t think that the female vote will actually get taken away, I can see the gender war becoming even more extreme in the future, absent outside events or interventions. And if you don’t think there’s a gender war going on right now: the bitter left-right divide in politics is sort of a gender war in disguise.
The solution to this rising anti-female sentiment among young men isn’t to ban speech or to police young men, or to try and stop young men from talking to each other. The solution to this is to actually be fair.
Also, when our galactic decision-makers discuss among themselves whether Earth humans are ready for open galactic context, then usually some of them will argue: not yet, because Earth humans haven’t even learned to be fair to Earth humans of another race or sex, so clearly they’re not ready for galactic contact.
Certainly this isn’t the only consideration, and not all of our decision-makers think this way. But yes, the way that men are treated on Earth is one of the factors that is slowing down open galactic contact.
Suppose you were us. Would you think that a world was ready to be part of galactic civilization if their popular culture, popular discourse, governments and courts openly and structurally discriminated against women?
You might think “wait, we’re not discriminating like that against women, we’re discriminating like that against men.” Yes, but that’s equally bad in our eyes. We view discrimination against men as being just as bad and abnormal as discrimination against women.
A whole lot of especially young men are leading lives of quiet desperation. Things aren’t as bad on average for slightly older men (although things certainly are still not great for them). However things are really awful for young men especially.
Now yes, Earth women do carry around ancestral trauma and that is impacting their behavior. On one hand, I genuinely am terribly sorry about how Earth women have been treated historically. It is awful and completely unacceptable. And of course, some individual men even at present mistreat women in absolutely horrible ways.
Still, ultimately, being abused doesn’t justify you turning into an abuser yourself (or becoming callous about the suffering of people who were born into the same group as that abuser was from).
That is a very common pattern, but it’s not justified.
The idea that specifically women should be helped, is motivated by the argument that it’s mostly women who are the victims of violence or rape. But that argument is overblown:
Men are more often the victims of violence than women are.
Similarly,
reports 5.5% of men and 4.5% of women experiencing physical violence by an intimate partner. So more men than women are physically abused by their intimate partner.
Similarly, research paper
states: “Results showed that 2.9% of men and 1.7% of women reported experiencing physical and/or sexual IPV [intimate partner violence] in their current relationships in the last 5 years.”
And wikipedia page
states, with sources, that probably more American men than women are raped if you include prison rape in the statistics.
Perhaps you’re wondering how this can be true because stories you hear around you are from female victims and rarely from male victims. Well, it’s because female victims get sympathy and help when they speak out, while male victims are seen as pussies and weak men, or perhaps as guys who got lucky because a woman decided to rape them. So male victims often just don’t say anything — if they do, things only get worse for them.
Four out of five people who kill themselves are men. Is that starting to make more sense now?
Lives of quiet desperation, indeed.
So the image isn’t true that violence and rape is nearly always done by a man to a woman. But then why should nearly all the help and consideration and protection go towards women? How bad does it need to get before people start being willing to give equal help to men?
Now a counterargument might be: “overall it’s still mostly men who are raping and committing violence.” And that’s true, although it’s not nearly as true as people think it is. I just gave three sources indicating that domestic abusers were usually women. European queens also waged more wars than European kings. But yes, violent criminals are usually men.
However, black people also disproportionately commit more crimes. It’s not logical to say “men being violent criminals more often proves that men are bad, but black people being violent criminals more often only proves that they are victims of prejudice and oppression and we should help them.”
It’s also not logical to say “men being violent criminals more often proves that they are bad, but several pieces of research showing women being domestic abusers more often doesn’t say anything about women — it contradicts my current worldview therefore I don’t believe it.”
This whole “women are wonderful and are the victims, men are thrash and are the perpetrators” is just an irrational prejudice. That’s all it is.
Transgender people who transitioned from male to female sometimes say that they feel they “lost their right to be seen as human by transitioning.” So in other words, when people saw them as women they were treated as human, and that ended when people started seeing them as men.
Other female to male transgender people say that they were shocked when suddenly people started treating them as “monsters.”
Female journalist Norah Vincent did an experiment for 18 months where she convincingly disguised herself to look like a man. Later in life, she killed herself.
Next up: women demanded equality. And women have gotten equality.
But equality also means equal responsibilities.
And responsibilities aren’t things that you can just skip if you don’t feel like doing them.
Many women’s implicit position is that they want the benefits of traditional gender roles: getting a special amount of consideration and help and governmental support and women-only celebrations and initiatives, being able to tell men “you go fix it” and “you go fix your own problems”, letting men do the really dirty and dangerous work, being advantaged in divorce and criminal court, being protected, and putting the burden on men to be stoic breadwinners (men who are overly emotional, or who aren’t breadwinners, often aren’t respected by women).
But many women don’t want the responsibilities of traditional gender roles — letting men be the head of the household, letting men be the only ones who vote, and needing to give respect and support to non-criminal men.
Many women also want the benefits of equality (and fair enough): they don’t want to be discriminated against in any way, and they expect men to speak out if there is structural discrimination against them.
But many women refuse the responsibility of equality: they’re not willing to speak out when men are the ones being structurally discriminated against. Even though men can’t speak out: they’re ignored or fired if they say anything.
This isn’t reasonable. You can’t just say “I get to have the benefits of traditional gender roles, but not the responsibilities of traditional gender roles. And I get equality, but men don’t get equality. I want the benefits of equality but not the responsibility that comes with equality.”
Now, the good news here is that even if a woman doesn’t organize protests or starts a podcast or engages in political lobbying, but instead she just takes a little bit of time to privately speak out amongst her friends and family — even that can have a profound effect.
After all, women aren’t evil. Most women — and most men — are just largely unconscious and are simply doing what’s normal and expected.
And if a number of women say that how men are currently being treated isn’t normal, then light and awareness is brought to people, and people have the opportunity to start acting in a conscious way.
A few people speaking the truth can have an outsized effect, because it creates awareness and it stops people from just unconsciously doing the normal, discriminatory thing.
Even if you think of yourself as a normal person, you can have a large positive impact. And no one expects you to fix society all by yourself — all that people expect is that you do your best and that you contribute your piece to the whole. After all, many other good-hearted people are working alongside you.
Even if you don’t yet realize that you can move mountains by yourself — certainly you can move mountains together.
With all my love,
Your star brother,
Hakann
