Showing posts with label strengths. Show all posts
Showing posts with label strengths. Show all posts

Friday, April 4, 2025

Strengths

Strengths

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley

Posted on April 4, 2025





Right now, it may feel as if everything in your existence is turbulence and tribulations. 

Everything you thought and felt was right and safe is suddenly being called into question. 

Remember, dearest one, that change is inevitable and necessary for further growth. 

Strengths will be revealed to you… ones you never knew you had will come to the forefront to be used for the greater good. 

Do not ignore the signs, embrace them. 


The Creator
 

Tuesday, September 19, 2023

8 Tricks Emotionally Intelligent People Use to Handle Arguments

8 Tricks Emotionally Intelligent People Use to Handle Arguments

By Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

learning-mind.com

Posted on September 19, 2023




Emotionally intelligent people have an unseen arsenal. Well, they have the ability to logically charm and reason their way through almost any issue.

I think the major trick used by emotionally intelligent people is self-control. They have so much self-control that negative situations don’t automatically shake their deepest feelings. Arguments become an equation they must solve, and not a nerve-wracking situation that leaves scars.

Their objective is winning the argument, but, of course, in the nicest way possible.

Secrets Emotionally Intelligent People Use to Handle Arguments

I admire an emotionally intelligent person, as I can lose my cool easily sometimes. I am hotheaded. There, I said it. So, what sort of tricks are these guys playing, you might ask? Let’s take a look.

1. Use small talk

Most arguments rarely include small talk. Let’s face it, if one of your friends is mad at you, then they probably don’t care about the weather or current events. Hey, but emotionally intelligent people are going to make small talk, anyway.

If you want to be more emotionally intelligent, instead of jumping right into the argument, take some time to say “Hello, it’s nice to see you”. It’s so much harder for someone to be insulting when you say something nice, you know. And yes, confusion may be their first response to this too.

2. Tap into positivity

When you’re in a disagreement with another person, attempt to tap into their positivity. Yeah, they may be angry or frustrated about something, but deep down, there is still a positive seed.

Smile at them. A smile can change the atmosphere and even make the other party reconsider their own standpoints. Smiling can even make people forget why they are angry for a moment. This moment may just give them the time they need to cool down and think straight.

3. Manage thoughts

An emotionally intelligent person can manage their thoughts. While most of us get into arguments and our thoughts become cluttered, this individual already has the end goal of the confrontation in mind. They also consider all possibilities and questions, with choices and answers for those situations.

With all these things cataloged and ready to go, emotionally intelligent people can stop an argument before it even starts. This is a win right from the start.

4. Control reactions



Every action has a reaction, right? Yes, it does. However, reactions do not have to be inflated and dramatized. This is how a person loses an argument really fast. How you react to accusations or insults shows your inner strength.

Emotionally intelligent people have a firm foundation of feelings, primed for proper reaction. They are not easily angered or get their feelings hurt by what someone else says. They understand that their reactions are powerful if used in the correct way — these individuals are stable, logical, and calm.

5. Try on perspectives

An emotionally intelligent person isn’t always right, and they know that. So, another trick they utilize to handle arguments is they strive to see other’s perspectives. They know that everyone is an individual with personal ideas, morals, and beliefs.

With that being said, people with stable emotions believe that a person’s perspectives should be respected and considered. This also means that it’s profitable to have an open mind without judgment.
During an argument, they can listen to the other person and understand where they’re coming from, possibly coming to an agreement.

6. Leverage emotions (both yours and theirs)

One of the tricks of an emotionally intelligent person is the ability to leverage emotions. When you leverage emotions, you essentially try to bring out the feelings that are most useful for each situation in an argument.

If you need the other person to laugh, then you bring that out by telling a joke to lighten the mood. You can call it a step up from just offering a smile. You can also leverage your own emotions when needed, tapping into happiness or contentedness at will.

7. They do not pretend

Emotionally intelligent people are also rather honest people when it comes to revealing how much they know. In an argument, you’ll not see them proclaiming things without proof.

So many of us, when in heated arguments, will say untrue things to other people, and this just enrages them more. Being honest during a confrontation can make the other person pause and consider how they should react to the truth.

Truth is powerful, and emotionally intelligent people are aware of this.

8. Strengths and weaknesses

One other vital thing to remember is that emotionally intelligent people know their strengths and weaknesses, including triggers. They understand when to speak and when to listen, according to their vulnerabilities.

During confrontations, they already know how to respond to threats against certain parts of their character. They are also aware of just how resilient those strong places are.

Let’s Try to Be More Emotionally Intelligent!

I think that if we all try to be more emotionally intelligent, we can stop so many confrontations before they start. It just makes sense.
I remember my father telling me about the fist fights he got into as a young man, and how he lost them most of the time. I asked him why. He said,

“I don’t know, I was just furious at the moment.”

You see, losing your temper with a head full of conflicting emotions and ideas, yeah, that’s not the winning recipe. It’s so much better to be, you guessed it, cool, calm, and collected.

I think we all can learn so much from emotionally intelligent people and how they handle arguments. But I also think, if anyone is a hothead, there’s hope of getting better. I know I’m still working on it.

Sherrie Hurd


About the author:
 

Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

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Wednesday, March 1, 2023

How to Become a Spiritual Master

How to Become a Spiritual Master

The 9D Arcturian Council
Channel: Daniel Scranton

Posted on March 1, 2023


how to be a spiritual master - the 9d arcturian council - channeled by daniel scranton - channeler of aliens

Greetings. We are the Arcturian Council. We are pleased to connect with all of you.

We are completely satisfied with your progress there on Earth, and we are not the only ones who hold this perspective. Those of us who are seeing humanity in the most positive of lights come together and discuss your strengths, the ways you have overcome your challenges, your obstacles, and we also discuss all the various ways there still are that we can be of service to you. We experience you as having led many successful campaigns there that have led you to very specific experiences, and we witness you growing spiritually every single time, whether you do or not. We hold that space for you, and we know that you can do this for each other as well.

We know that you can see each other’s lives as unfolding perfectly, because you are spiritually awake, and you know that you are witnessing more than just a person. You are putting your attention on a soul, a consciousness that decided to have a particular type of experience, one that does not always match what you wanted for that person. Perhaps you witnessed a person growing up, and you had all of these hopes and dreams for them, and then they went out and lived their own life, did their own thing, and it did not match at all what you had hoped that person’s life to be. You have to let go of that, and not only make peace with the person where they are in their lives, but also see all of the potentials, all of the possibilities that are now in front of them. 

And those potentials include enormous amounts of spiritual growth and evolution. You have the capacity to do this because we have the capacity to do it, and because you are linking up with us from time to time, some of you more than others, we know that you can find that same vibration within yourselves. It is a vibration that is of a higher frequency than just hoping for the best, and certainly it is of a higher frequency than trying to figure out how the person is going to get back on the track that you had envisioned for them. And of course this envisioning that you do also includes your own life experience. You tell yourself what you want to be when you grow up at a young age, and then when you get older, you have certain goals for yourself as a person who has a career, or as a parent, or as a person who simply helps others.

And when your life does not go in the same direction that you had envisioned it going, that’s the time to get more curious about your creation. That’s the time when you want to see it as perfect just as it is, even if no one else in your immediate circle is seeing it that way. You must understand that you are powerful creators and that you create on many different levels of your being-ness. When something is not going according to plan, then you must recognize that there is a better plan, and you must resist the urge to get down on yourself for not making happen what you thought was the best case scenario for yourself. Trust that it is always a best case scenario that you are living. Make the most out of what you do have and what opportunities do come your way, and relax about all the rest. 

Relax and let go, surrender and go with the flow. These are concepts that you hear about all the time, but when it comes to your own life, you often think that you need to work harder, or try harder, or visualize harder. But you do need to let go and trust, and know that the better is always coming because you are creating it as an aspect of Source Energy, and you would never deny yourself one of your creations. Sometimes these creations don’t come in the timing you would prefer, and that just means you need to relax even more, open up, accept, and focus on being the version of yourself you most want to be in those life circumstances, and that is the way to live a life of spiritual mastery.

We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.

Daniel Scranton