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Saturday, September 28, 2024

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on September 28, 2024
 
 

 
 
My dear Earth friends,

This is R’Kok speaking. I am grateful for this opportunity, and feel humbled that out of the countless beings who would love to be channeled, I am the one who is chosen for today.

Seriously, you have no idea how many beings would love to send a message to Earth — to give advice, to share stories, to tell you how much they love and appreciate and respect you.

Today I would like to discuss: to what extent is your personality false?

And I’m asking the question in this way because almost certainly your personality is false to a greater extent than zero.

I’m calling those parts of your personality false that were created as a coping or a defensive mechanism, to deal with fear or pain or pressure or indoctrination. Beliefs or life choices that don’t fit you are also part of your false personality.

For example, imagine a woman who was raised to be a good, kind Christian who never gets angry or offends anyone.

Which parts of this woman’s personality are false? Well, it depends on the woman. It’s possible that incidentally, being a good, kind Christian woman is almost exactly what she resonates with in this life. In this case, very little of her personality may be false. Now sure, everyone gets angry occasionally, so never getting angry and never offending anyone is probably part of a false personality, but still.

On the other hand, it’s also possible that this woman had the pre-birth intention to be a piercing, rationally-minded, atheistic, investigative journalist who asks tough, possibly unkind or offensive questions to people. In this case, if the woman actually adopts the kind, Christian woman personality who never offends anyone (and she might), then pretty much all of her personality could be false, and that might lead to psychological problems, anxiety, substance abuse, a gnawing unhappiness or emptiness, etc. Or she might rebel very hard during her teenage years, or she might experience a severe midlife crisis.

This is why it’s best to give your children room to express themselves and be themselves and explore and find themselves, and not push them too hard in any particular direction. If you allow that, and if your children are loved and taken care of, then probably a relatively small amount of their personality will be false — although it might still be the case that your child came in to be a reformer or shaker-up of the system, and so they’re not ever going to fit in and be satisfied in a world like Earth. Some people have the choice between adopting a false personality and just not fitting in with society at all, and that can be a tough choice.

Now in most cases, a child gets damaged to a relatively large degree — more than you’re perhaps aware of, because parents have to push their children into a mold so that they’ll fit into society, which is seen as normal and necessary but can actually be quite damaging for the child. As a result, a child may grow up with a relatively large false personality.

Let’s investigate to what extent you have, and / or grew up with a false personality. I would like to invite you to answer the following questions for yourself. Feel free to pause this message, answer a question and then unpause the message.

Does it feel like a burden to occasionally more or less have to keep quiet about your true beliefs, because normal people are aggressively close-minded? So for example, if you’re adopting a false, polite, normal persona at work because the people there wouldn’t accept the real you, then that might be causing you inner pain — even though that’s probably also necessary, and I wouldn’t recommend being excessively open at work. To be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong if you hide your true self at work, that may be necessary. But if you’re hiding your true self at work, and if that causes you emotional pain, then that’s good to be aware of. Awareness is the first step towards decreasing your suffering, after all.

Does it feel reasonable to you that you have to make money to survive, and that you therefore might be pushed into doing a job that’s more or less pointless? If that feels unreasonable to you, then even having a job might not be a part of the real you — even though it might be necessary regardless. This is the paradox of living on Earth: you might have to do things that go against your nature just to be able to afford food, because Earth’s society is so twisted. So I’m not saying to quit your job today, I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong, but if needing to have a job is causing you inner turmoil then, at least it’s good to be conscious of that.

Next up: were you allowed to be angry as a child and teenager? Were you allowed to cry? Were you allowed to rest and more or less do nothing for a while? Were you allowed to fail?

Are there any other emotions that you weren’t allowed to have as a child?

Did those emotions or desires become subconscious or repressed? Do you have inner parts of yourselves who still have those desires?

Were you allowed to pick your own religious and spiritual beliefs as a child, or were you more or less pushed into a specific belief such as Christianity or atheism?

Were you allowed to pick your own left vs right political preference, or were you more or less told that this side is noble and right and that the other side is evil and stupid?

To what extent were you allowed to say or express things that your parents disapproved of? To what extent were you pushed to be a model child, or a child that your parents could be proud of?

Did your parents push you in certain directions to mitigate their own fears?

Did you receive sufficient unconditional love and freedom as a child?

Now let’s ask a few more questions about your current adult self:

To what extent do you dare be authentic, even if it upsets others or make you look a bit crazy in the eyes of others?

Are you comfortable with your inner masculinity and femininity? And are you sure about that? Are there some parts of it that you’re in resistance to?

To what extent are you suffering from learned helplessness — the idea that you’re unable to create positive change? Do you feel comfortable with giving up the familiar and with making drastic, perhaps scary changes at the appropriate time. Do you feel comfortable in your ability to create a good life for yourself? Do you feel comfortable in your ability to contribute positively to Earth society?

What parts of your life are things you want to do, and what parts of your life are things you feel you have to do? And is it actually true that you have to do those things?

If as your current adult self you’re nice to someone — do you do that because that’s the real you, or do you do that because you want something from the other person (approval, sex, love), or do you do that so that you can prove to yourself or others that you are a good person?

When women express a dislike of so-called “nice guys”, often they’re sensing that being nice is a false personality of that man. He’s not being nice because that’s his nature, instead he’s being nice to get something (sex, approval), or to manipulate people in some way (look at me being a great guy). The niceness is part of the “nice guy’s” false personality.

People often prefer those who have a mostly-genuine personality, even if they’re kind of dicks, over those who pretend to be nice but aren’t.

Now, due to the previous questions, you might have discovered that your childhood was lacking in some ways that you weren’t aware of. I empathize — life on Earth is indeed really tough and unfair, and I’m sorry.

As with previous messages: observing yourself without judging or bulldozing or suppressing immediately trying to change yourself is a valuable step towards healing. And also, give yourself some time — you can’t change your entire personality overnight.

If you still think that none of your personality is false, well, it’s entirely possible that less of your personality might be fake than most people. But if you were entirely unblocked and fully aligned with your soul and Source, you could and probably would single-handedly liberate Earth. And you could do things such as teleport, et cetera. So likely you still have some blocks and some false parts of your personality.

If you’re unaware which parts of your personality are fake, it might help to just keep asking yourself “why” whenever you make a notable choice, or whenever you do something that perhaps doesn’t make a lot of sense. Then keep asking yourself “why” as a follow-up question when you answer the first “why.”

Finally, it’s completely fine, and indeed quite wise, to just say that you don’t know something. And of course, you can still have an opinion even though you’re not entirely sure, and act based on that opinion.

I hope this was insightful. You have all my love and respect and empathy for living on such a tough world, and I give my greatest well-wishes to you. May we meet in the not too distant future.

And finally, there have been some other channelers on your world citing 2026 or 2027 as the time of first contact, while galactics associated with this channeler have been saying that it’s likely but not guaranteed that we’ll meet before the end of 2025, and that your lives will improve substantially before the end of 2025. Why the difference? Well, the future isn’t actually set in stone, because you have free will. The time of first contact depends on the choices that Earth humans make, therefore no galactics are completely sure when first contact will occur.

On your world you often have multiple models making different predictions; well, so do we. We may be advanced, but it’s simply impossible to predict the free-will choices that people are going to make. After all, if we could predict what you were going to do, then effectively you wouldn’t have free will at all. And you do have free will.

That said, our “likely but not guaranteed” 2024 or 2025 prediction might look like public and open first contact, or it might look like galactics contacting those Earth humans who are awake enough, which includes lots of people who are currently tuning in to this message (hence Hakann’s earlier suggestion to form small groups interested in meeting up). So both predictions could come to pass if we end up contacting Earth humans who are ready in 2024 or 2025, and then land publicly in 2026 or 2027.

That said, Hakann and the others are still looking at landing openly in 2024 or 2025, so that absolutely could still happen (although admittedly 2025 is looking more likely than 2024 for that).

Or the other galactic source might be right and it might be 2026 or 2027. Or we might all be wrong — no one is entirely sure, because it depends on your choices, Earth humans. The only thing that I am sure of is that you will be free, in the not too distant future.

I understand that may not be a very satisfying answer. I can only say: thank you so very much for your service and for your presence on Earth at this time. I imagine it must be very hard and painful at times, but most likely you are doing an amazing job and a great service indeed to mankind, and I salute you.

With love,
R’Kok

A. S. 

For Era of Light

Video

These channelings are exclusively submitted to Eraoflight.com by the channeler. If you wish to share them elsewhere, please include a link back to the original post.

If you are interested in local meetings with other people also seeking first contact with benevolent ETs, then please see https://eraoflight.com/2024/06/19/hakann-local-meetings-for-those-seeking-first-contact-with-benevolent-ets/ . If you search with control-F for @, then you can quickly find email addresses of those who are organizing local groups. It’s also not too late to post a new (secondary) email address yourself to start a new local group, because we plan to keep linking to that post for the foreseeable future.


 

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To What Extent is Your Personality False?

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on September 28, 2024
 
 

 
 
My dear Earth friends,

This is R’Kok speaking. I am grateful for this opportunity, and feel humbled that out of the countless beings who would love to be channeled, I am the one who is chosen for today.

Seriously, you have no idea how many beings would love to send a message to Earth — to give advice, to share stories, to tell you how much they love and appreciate and respect you.

Today I would like to discuss: to what extent is your personality false?

And I’m asking the question in this way because almost certainly your personality is false to a greater extent than zero.

I’m calling those parts of your personality false that were created as a coping or a defensive mechanism, to deal with fear or pain or pressure or indoctrination. Beliefs or life choices that don’t fit you are also part of your false personality.

For example, imagine a woman who was raised to be a good, kind Christian who never gets angry or offends anyone.

Which parts of this woman’s personality are false? Well, it depends on the woman. It’s possible that incidentally, being a good, kind Christian woman is almost exactly what she resonates with in this life. In this case, very little of her personality may be false. Now sure, everyone gets angry occasionally, so never getting angry and never offending anyone is probably part of a false personality, but still.

On the other hand, it’s also possible that this woman had the pre-birth intention to be a piercing, rationally-minded, atheistic, investigative journalist who asks tough, possibly unkind or offensive questions to people. In this case, if the woman actually adopts the kind, Christian woman personality who never offends anyone (and she might), then pretty much all of her personality could be false, and that might lead to psychological problems, anxiety, substance abuse, a gnawing unhappiness or emptiness, etc. Or she might rebel very hard during her teenage years, or she might experience a severe midlife crisis.

This is why it’s best to give your children room to express themselves and be themselves and explore and find themselves, and not push them too hard in any particular direction. If you allow that, and if your children are loved and taken care of, then probably a relatively small amount of their personality will be false — although it might still be the case that your child came in to be a reformer or shaker-up of the system, and so they’re not ever going to fit in and be satisfied in a world like Earth. Some people have the choice between adopting a false personality and just not fitting in with society at all, and that can be a tough choice.

Now in most cases, a child gets damaged to a relatively large degree — more than you’re perhaps aware of, because parents have to push their children into a mold so that they’ll fit into society, which is seen as normal and necessary but can actually be quite damaging for the child. As a result, a child may grow up with a relatively large false personality.

Let’s investigate to what extent you have, and / or grew up with a false personality. I would like to invite you to answer the following questions for yourself. Feel free to pause this message, answer a question and then unpause the message.

Does it feel like a burden to occasionally more or less have to keep quiet about your true beliefs, because normal people are aggressively close-minded? So for example, if you’re adopting a false, polite, normal persona at work because the people there wouldn’t accept the real you, then that might be causing you inner pain — even though that’s probably also necessary, and I wouldn’t recommend being excessively open at work. To be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong if you hide your true self at work, that may be necessary. But if you’re hiding your true self at work, and if that causes you emotional pain, then that’s good to be aware of. Awareness is the first step towards decreasing your suffering, after all.

Does it feel reasonable to you that you have to make money to survive, and that you therefore might be pushed into doing a job that’s more or less pointless? If that feels unreasonable to you, then even having a job might not be a part of the real you — even though it might be necessary regardless. This is the paradox of living on Earth: you might have to do things that go against your nature just to be able to afford food, because Earth’s society is so twisted. So I’m not saying to quit your job today, I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong, but if needing to have a job is causing you inner turmoil then, at least it’s good to be conscious of that.

Next up: were you allowed to be angry as a child and teenager? Were you allowed to cry? Were you allowed to rest and more or less do nothing for a while? Were you allowed to fail?

Are there any other emotions that you weren’t allowed to have as a child?

Did those emotions or desires become subconscious or repressed? Do you have inner parts of yourselves who still have those desires?

Were you allowed to pick your own religious and spiritual beliefs as a child, or were you more or less pushed into a specific belief such as Christianity or atheism?

Were you allowed to pick your own left vs right political preference, or were you more or less told that this side is noble and right and that the other side is evil and stupid?

To what extent were you allowed to say or express things that your parents disapproved of? To what extent were you pushed to be a model child, or a child that your parents could be proud of?

Did your parents push you in certain directions to mitigate their own fears?

Did you receive sufficient unconditional love and freedom as a child?

Now let’s ask a few more questions about your current adult self:

To what extent do you dare be authentic, even if it upsets others or make you look a bit crazy in the eyes of others?

Are you comfortable with your inner masculinity and femininity? And are you sure about that? Are there some parts of it that you’re in resistance to?

To what extent are you suffering from learned helplessness — the idea that you’re unable to create positive change? Do you feel comfortable with giving up the familiar and with making drastic, perhaps scary changes at the appropriate time. Do you feel comfortable in your ability to create a good life for yourself? Do you feel comfortable in your ability to contribute positively to Earth society?

What parts of your life are things you want to do, and what parts of your life are things you feel you have to do? And is it actually true that you have to do those things?

If as your current adult self you’re nice to someone — do you do that because that’s the real you, or do you do that because you want something from the other person (approval, sex, love), or do you do that so that you can prove to yourself or others that you are a good person?

When women express a dislike of so-called “nice guys”, often they’re sensing that being nice is a false personality of that man. He’s not being nice because that’s his nature, instead he’s being nice to get something (sex, approval), or to manipulate people in some way (look at me being a great guy). The niceness is part of the “nice guy’s” false personality.

People often prefer those who have a mostly-genuine personality, even if they’re kind of dicks, over those who pretend to be nice but aren’t.

Now, due to the previous questions, you might have discovered that your childhood was lacking in some ways that you weren’t aware of. I empathize — life on Earth is indeed really tough and unfair, and I’m sorry.

As with previous messages: observing yourself without judging or bulldozing or suppressing immediately trying to change yourself is a valuable step towards healing. And also, give yourself some time — you can’t change your entire personality overnight.

If you still think that none of your personality is false, well, it’s entirely possible that less of your personality might be fake than most people. But if you were entirely unblocked and fully aligned with your soul and Source, you could and probably would single-handedly liberate Earth. And you could do things such as teleport, et cetera. So likely you still have some blocks and some false parts of your personality.

If you’re unaware which parts of your personality are fake, it might help to just keep asking yourself “why” whenever you make a notable choice, or whenever you do something that perhaps doesn’t make a lot of sense. Then keep asking yourself “why” as a follow-up question when you answer the first “why.”

Finally, it’s completely fine, and indeed quite wise, to just say that you don’t know something. And of course, you can still have an opinion even though you’re not entirely sure, and act based on that opinion.

I hope this was insightful. You have all my love and respect and empathy for living on such a tough world, and I give my greatest well-wishes to you. May we meet in the not too distant future.

And finally, there have been some other channelers on your world citing 2026 or 2027 as the time of first contact, while galactics associated with this channeler have been saying that it’s likely but not guaranteed that we’ll meet before the end of 2025, and that your lives will improve substantially before the end of 2025. Why the difference? Well, the future isn’t actually set in stone, because you have free will. The time of first contact depends on the choices that Earth humans make, therefore no galactics are completely sure when first contact will occur.

On your world you often have multiple models making different predictions; well, so do we. We may be advanced, but it’s simply impossible to predict the free-will choices that people are going to make. After all, if we could predict what you were going to do, then effectively you wouldn’t have free will at all. And you do have free will.

That said, our “likely but not guaranteed” 2024 or 2025 prediction might look like public and open first contact, or it might look like galactics contacting those Earth humans who are awake enough, which includes lots of people who are currently tuning in to this message (hence Hakann’s earlier suggestion to form small groups interested in meeting up). So both predictions could come to pass if we end up contacting Earth humans who are ready in 2024 or 2025, and then land publicly in 2026 or 2027.

That said, Hakann and the others are still looking at landing openly in 2024 or 2025, so that absolutely could still happen (although admittedly 2025 is looking more likely than 2024 for that).

Or the other galactic source might be right and it might be 2026 or 2027. Or we might all be wrong — no one is entirely sure, because it depends on your choices, Earth humans. The only thing that I am sure of is that you will be free, in the not too distant future.

I understand that may not be a very satisfying answer. I can only say: thank you so very much for your service and for your presence on Earth at this time. I imagine it must be very hard and painful at times, but most likely you are doing an amazing job and a great service indeed to mankind, and I salute you.

With love,
R’Kok

A. S. 

For Era of Light

Video

These channelings are exclusively submitted to Eraoflight.com by the channeler. If you wish to share them elsewhere, please include a link back to the original post.

If you are interested in local meetings with other people also seeking first contact with benevolent ETs, then please see https://eraoflight.com/2024/06/19/hakann-local-meetings-for-those-seeking-first-contact-with-benevolent-ets/ . If you search with control-F for @, then you can quickly find email addresses of those who are organizing local groups. It’s also not too late to post a new (secondary) email address yourself to start a new local group, because we plan to keep linking to that post for the foreseeable future.


 

Compiled by http://violetflame.biz.ly from: 

Friday, May 3, 2024

Teaching the Principle of Brotherhood

Cultivating Wellbeing

Part 2

Teaching the Principle of Brotherhood

Prometheus is the Teacher

Received by Renée

Posted on May 2, 2024





Alberta, Canada, June 22, 2014

Teacher Prometheus: “While humans need to be aware of their very basic survival needs, it is of critical importance for them to begin to educate children from a very young age – as soon as the child shows awareness of others, even from the age of eighteen months, and in some cases earlier – to the needs of others. These others include family members, and friends who visit and interact with the family, also including neighbors and professional care-givers.

“All morality is based on the awareness of the need to respect, uphold and honor the fundamental needs of others, because of the truth of the fact: All are children of the First Source Creator. This means the concept of a Divine Parent is essential for morality, social health, and the progression of both the individual, as well as individual societies, nations and associations. This recognition leads to the full realization of responsibility as a child of our Creator. The embracing of membership in the spiritual Family of God brings an awareness of the need for intelligent, loving cooperation with each other to co-create with the help of real Spiritual forces and personalities – a planetary culture of Light and Life.

“Wayshower is a word which deserves to be carefully considered, and repeatedly emphasized in a society to underscore and remind all members, no matter their personal stage of personality development, status, or station, that they have a moral priority and obligation to lead by example and demonstration, behavior of Brotherly Love and consideration. This moral obligation applies to parents, siblings, teachers, mentors, friends, neighbors, and service providers, leaders in education, government, business and spiritual communities.

“The individual members of a society must be taught by example that each person who is given any opportunity to interact in a relationship with a child, is expected to exhibit the most noble bearing of excellence in ethical and moral, spiritually responsible behavior. The highest codes of conduct and loving service values of a sustainable society must be actively practiced by all members. Exceptional care must be taken in teaching each member that they play a role in the raising of viable, healthy fully functional, emotionally balanced and morally capable children.

“This ideal of behavior may sound challenging to achieve, practically impossible to attain, and daunting to deliver. The importance of investing all the very best behavior of selfless, loving service, respect for equality and responsible conduct to children can not be underestimated. Each person can acknowledge the potential impact and real influence they are endowed with, because of their free-will personality status. They can accept how their personal choices: either honor the Divine Guidance to serve as a loving wayshower, neglect an opportunity to teach a child the Christ-like way, or cause confusion and promote conflict in a child’s mind through examples of selfish, dishonorable, unloving, unjust or morally corrupt behavior.

“Brotherhood is not only to be seen as a lofty concept based on intellectually-derived ethics, but a living and vital, breathing way of relating to all of one’s fellows. This certainly extends to all other human beings born on neighboring time-space spheres, but also extends to all orders of created and personalizing, perfecting and ministering individualized beings as well as the application of this principal of brotherhood to all evolutionary races, and Spirit-indwelt species.

“We are Prometheus and Friends.”


© The 11:11 Progress Group.
All the elemental qualities of Love are inherent in the Light
we receive – Prometheus, 2013.



Friday, February 23, 2024

222 Cosmic Activations

222 Cosmic Activations

By Meg  Benedicte

Posted on February 22, 2024

 

 

Greetings,

This Thursday, February 22nd is a turbo-charged cosmic event, as Mars unites with Venus at 6°30′ Aquarius – igniting inner passion, desires, forging new unions and an explosion of creativity. I was born with my Venus conjunct Mars, always feeling their interaction and balancing woven within. Venus and Mars joining in Aquarius, enhances the sign of Lovers and the interaction of feminine and masculine energies within our being and with others.

While Pluto at 00°00 Aquarius joins this transit, expect a shakeup with interpersonal relationship patterns that are outdated, unhealthy or destructive. The new circular system is visible in the galaxy, as completely formed stars orbiting each other. As we adjust to the new system, we realize where we are out of alignment with others, where we are not fully formed or whole, where we lean too much on others in codependency.

This powerful mashup may bring up deep core emotions from past relationship wounds, as well as stuck trauma from shadow feminine or shadow masculine abuse. All needs to be released into the Refiner’s Fire of Purification. Set aside some time this week for quiet self-reflection on your deeper desires, passions and past relationships. What requires healing? Where can you improve? What needs shifting? Are you being true to yourself?

Exalted Venus and Mars represent the highest ideals of divine feminine and masculine expression. Conjunct in Aquarius, we attune to the higher dimensional aspects of star-kissed Lovers, the exquisite interplay of yin and yang essence. We are learning a new way to relate with each other beyond the corrupt hierarchy system. It is a dance of mutual receptive ‘give and take’, a balanced exchange of love, compassion and respect.

We are being cleansed and purified of old stories, patterns, behaviors and beliefs so that we can transcend the lower realm of human pain and suffering. If you’ve ever questioned the world as ‘it is’…then you are on the right path. Once you venture beyond the limits of the left-brain ‘thinking mind’ that analyzes the physical world, a new, higher vantage point opens to you. It is the greater multi-dimensional world of energy, of ether, of holograms and quantum particles.

Some call it the world of imagination, but in truth, it is the realm of ‘all existence’…be it particles of matter or virtual particles of Light consciousness.

When your mind awakens to this vast vantage point or perspective, you realize that your physical human ‘stories’ are just that – STORIES! They can be shifted and rewritten at any time. The malleable nature of your human story is surprising, inspiring and enlightening. The ancients weren’t kidding – you really do live in a holo-field of shifting realities.

With focused intention, you can use your powerful multi-dimensional mind and point coherent photon laser light into your human story and dissolve the hologram into particles of sand. Where you focus is where your Light power is directed. The time has come for all Light Bearers to use their laser focus and rewrite the human story.

Since 2011 we have been gathering monthly in global meditations to influence the future of Gaia and all life on this beloved planet. As we travel around the galactic center, certain powerful gateways form in the cosmos. These gateways, doors, portals, nodal spin points create an opening between the realms. Joining the Venus-Mars conjunction on February 22 is the spectacular 222 Gateway illuminating the sky! While Venus, the planet of feminine essence, joins Mars, her counterpart, in Aquarius, we are blessed with the 222 Goddess Gateway.

222 emphasizes the Divine Mother essence of unconditional love, compassion, safety and security. The triple dose of 222 Goddess infusion provides the opportunity to activate the sacred union template, the cosmic Vesica Pisces (two interlocking rings) – to come alive in your heart center and light body. 222 ushers in positive vibrations for dreams, visions, intentions and life goals.

In tarot, the 2nd Arcana card represents the High Priestess of hidden talents, mystery and spiritual wisdom. This is a call to align with your divine purpose and soul mission. 22 is the symbol of the Master Alchemist. 22 inspires us to think BIG, on a global scale, innovative ideas that benefit the greater good.

On Thursday, 2:22 we are in for a rare treat of expansive Goddess infusion. Join our gathering in the 222 Gateway, receive the Goddess blessings and activate the sacred heart template of universal love, balance and harmony. Let’s fire up the grid with Love and Peace! Register at: https://newearthcentral.com/?p=369513

Meg Benedicte
 
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Wednesday, September 6, 2023

8 Things People Who Respect Themselves Never Do

8 Things People Who Respect Themselves Never Do

By Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

learning-mind.com

Posted on September 6, 2023




Did you know that people who respect themselves have pretty high standards? With this, there are things that respectable people just will not do.

Having respect for others is important. It’s also just as important to have respect for yourself. And maybe you’ve noticed that when you respect yourself, you put up with less insulting behavior from people in your life.

Setting higher standards for your life sometimes weeds out individuals who are holding you back. It also attracts others who have positive self-worth.

People who respect themselves will respect you

Now, there is a boundary between healthy high standards and just being cruel. You can be kind to others and still keep boundaries. There is no need to be unkind toward others and call that setting high standards.

However, there are things that people who respect themselves do not do. Sometimes this includes actions that may come across as “snooty”. But who cares, right? The most important aspect is not what people think, but what you know about yourself. Here are a few things that respectable people never do.

1. They never shirk responsibility

People who respect themselves will take responsibility for their actions, whether positive or negative. If they make a mistake, big deal, they will own up to it. They usually try to offer a solution for their mistake as well.

If they cannot fix what’s been done, they will ask if there is anything else that they can contribute to smooth things over. If you respect yourself properly, you and every other respectable person will understand that mistakes happen. It’s just a part of life and no one is perfect.

2. Never forget where they came from

You may notice many celebrities who seem on top of the world, perfected, and unreachable. But many of them were once humble youths born in small towns. There are some famous people, on the other hand, who still talk about their humble upbringing, and this shows how genuine they are.

If you respect yourself, you will never try to forget where you come from, unless it was abusive, of course. Your roots are part of the reason for who you are today. Respectable people know that.

3. They don’t pretend to know things




Respectable people have no reason to pretend to be smarter than they really are. They are quite all right with learning new things. Some people like this crave knowledge and education, as they’re always striving to better themselves.

It’s actually the people who have low self-esteem who profess to have all the answers. People who respect themselves never act like know-it-alls.

4. Victimhood is not something they play

There are so many individuals who play the victim on a daily basis. I’ve lived with them, known them, and even married them. And to be honest, I may have acted like this a bit as well, especially when my self-esteem was in question.

But people who truly care about themselves and protect their self-worth will not stay victims. They are more prone to grow from their experiences and find help.

These are usually the people who seek professional help in various areas of their lives recognized as toxic or unhealthy. They weed out these portions; they forgive others, and they simply move on with a bright new perspective.

5. Validation is not that important

Any self-respecting person can validate themselves. People who seek or chase after validation from others are not in touch with their inner being. What I mean is that they don’t appreciate their own intellect enough to make a single decision without a sounding board.

For example, they rely on others to validate what they wear, how they look, or where they do. Yes, support is excellent, and even asking for advice is healthy. But if you feel like everyone else must validate what you do all the time, then you’re in trouble. And it’s obvious that you do have enough self-respect to trust yourself.

6. They don’t put others down

Just like when they make mistakes, self-respecting people understand that others can make mistakes too. They do not belittle their friends or acquaintances for doing wrong things. Rather, they offer constructive criticism or help them solve a problem.

To people who respect themselves, making mistakes will happen, and as you read previously, no one is above making mistakes. They understand this, and they do not see others as being inferior.

7. Respectable people do not settle


Going back to the high standards information above, you can see how people who respect themselves would not settle for less than they deserve.

If they feel that something or someone is not right for them, they will accept the truth. They will be kind, but they will not entertain unhealthy company. Toxic behavior can be contagious. And hopefully, your standards will help pinpoint what’s best for you.
8. They don’t always reject the ideas of others



Someone with little respect for themselves will actually be more prone to reject the ideas of other people. This is because that lack of self-respect will manifest in conceited behavior. Since these types of individuals are insecure, they cannot accept that someone else has a good idea.

People who respect themselves can appreciate the ideas of others, understanding that there is room for everyone to contribute to society.
Do you respect yourself?



I can only speak for myself, saying that I’ve struggled with this for many years. I hope that I am better at respecting myself than I was in the past. What about you? Do you struggle with insecurity, or is it difficult to own up to your behavior? Well, if so, it’s okay. Life is a learning process.

If you have healthy self-respect, then it would be smart to surround yourself with like-minded people. Yes, it’s okay to help others who struggle in this area, but it’s also important to guard yourself. Because if you cannot take care of yourself, then you won’t be able to offer appropriate help to others.

Just be kind with boundaries.

Sherrie Hurd


About the author:
 

Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

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Thursday, August 17, 2023

A Vision for Possessions

A Vision for Possessions

The Vision Alignment Project



We see a world that has evolved to the point where we have risen above the illusion of ownership; where we see, ever-so-clearly. that we can never truly own or possess anything, and that to think otherwise only sets us up for a loss in the long run. 

We see a world where we respect the objects, tools, and toys of others; where we are all willing to share with one another; where we are so empowered that if something breaks or is lost we are able to manifest another like it right away; and where we have such abundance that we are all being given everything we need. 

In such a world, there is no purpose to possessing things because we already have it all.


(PS: We know there are those of you who can't imagine a world without ownership and possessions at this time - however we assure you that this is what is coming. This is the way of the world that awaits you.)

Tuesday, July 18, 2023

A Vision for the Highest Good in Business

A Vision for the Highest Good in Business

The Vision Alignment Project



We see a world where the competitiveness in business is gone and has been replaced by a caring for one another; where no one profits at the expense of another; and where all exchanges of energy and resources are WIN-WIN, equally beneficent to all parties involved.

We see selling as an archaic endeavor because there is no need for it in a world of abundance and easy access to goods and services. Accordingly, we see a trust formed among all peoples because conducting business is now a safe, honorable, and loving experience where everyone helps each other and wants only for all parties to be happy.

We see employers, everywhere, treating their employees with courtesy, equality, and respect; and we see employees loving the work that they do. We see a four hour work day with lots of free time for leisure, recreation, and creativity.

And finally, we see a business climate that takes the Highest Good of everyone concerned into consideration; where the Highest Good is the standard for all transactions and business relationships; and where the Highest Good and welfare of the Earth and her people is the number one priority in every business decision made.



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Monday, June 26, 2023

Giving Ourselves the Respect and Love We Deserve

Giving Ourselves the Respect and Love We Deserve

The Angels

Channel: Ann Albers

Posted on June 26, 2023

 

 

 

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Your world is going through a lot of turbulence right now and will be for a while, but it is for a good reason. You are all finding your hearts! You are finding your voice. You are starting to understand that you have a unique place and perspective in this world and a right to it. No longer are you willing to pretend things are ok with you if they’re not. No longer are you willing to put your desires on the back burner. You are no longer trying to agree with everyone, please everyone, or be all things to everyone.

Dear ones, the spirit within you is awakening!

As with many awakenings, this one is causing some upset and a lot of turbulence in human hearts. As you surrender to who you are, what you want to do, and how you see life, you naturally desire to find others of like mind. There is also a very human desire to want others to agree, to “get you,” to “honor your boundaries,” and to “respect” you. These gifts of the soul are fantastic when given freely, but trying to make others get you, honor your boundaries, or respect you is exhausting.

What is important is that you “get you,” that you “honor your boundaries,” and that you “respect” yourself.

You “get yourself” by acknowledging that you are an embodiment of the creator’s love in human form. You are perfect as you are, even as you expand into more. You have a loving heart, a kind soul, and a desire to love and be loved that lies within and beneath all your thoughts, words, and deeds. Even when angry, you cry for the love you don’t think you can have.

What matters most is not what others think of you or how they treat you, but rather how you feel about yourself and how you treat yourself.

Do you “get” you? Do you get the powerful creator you are? Do you get that you seek to see love, be love, and experience love within all things you say and do? Dear ones, if you “get” your innocence as a human being and you get your magnificent creative nature, then the words, ideas, or opinions of others will not matter to you. No one can sway you from who you know yourself to be. When you get you, others can no longer trigger you into defensiveness or anger.

Strive to remind yourself daily. “In all things, I seek love. In all things, I want to be loving. I have an innocent heart. I’m always doing my best, and that is good enough!

Rather than waiting for others to treat you kindly, you can choose to define and honor your own boundaries. Take time to examine your own heart. What are your limits? How will you act, and what will you do if someone does not honor them? For example, you all want people to speak to you kindly. Not everyone will. You can’t make everyone keep this boundary, but you can decide how you will react. Perhaps after the first unkindness, you can say, “Ow, that hurt,” and walk away. After the second, you can say, “You know what? I care about your feelings, but I promised myself I would only engage in kind discussions. You are upset. Let’s speak later.” If the person persists in their unkindness, you may choose to walk away or withdraw your energy from the conversation.

Only you can decide how to honor your boundaries. You don’t even have to explain them to others, justify them, or get anyone to comply. You simply have to have a “game plan” to honor your bright spirit when others can’t or don’t.

Likewise, insisting that others respect you or your beliefs is exhausting. Some people don’t respect themselves enough to understand how to demonstrate respect to others. Of course, you want others to see you as worthy of love and acknowledgment. Nonetheless, as you already know, some will and some won’t. If you can make peace with this, you can avoid feeling anguish when you encounter individuals who can’t or won’t respect your beautifuliful soul.

Decide that you respect yourself. Respect your own thoughts so much that you have no need to argue or defend them. Respect your bodies so much that you treat them well and kindly. Respect your spirit so much that you decide to think the thoughts that elevate you no matter who or what is around you. Stop demanding respect of others and simple respect yourselves.

What you want, more deeply than anything, is to experience yourself the way the Divine within you does—precious, perfect, unique, expanding, growing, perfect…

By granting yourselves the things that most human beings crave, you give yourself permission to be who you truly are. You grant yourself the right to “be” you. You stop requiring the behavior of others to conform to your standards and set yourselves free.

Interestingly enough, the more you get yourself, the more you honor your boundaries, and the more you respect yourself, the more you will easily attract more and more others who will do the same.

God Bless You! We love you so very much. 

The Angels.

Ann Albers

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