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Saturday, September 28, 2024

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on September 28, 2024
 
 

 
 
My dear Earth friends,

This is R’Kok speaking. I am grateful for this opportunity, and feel humbled that out of the countless beings who would love to be channeled, I am the one who is chosen for today.

Seriously, you have no idea how many beings would love to send a message to Earth — to give advice, to share stories, to tell you how much they love and appreciate and respect you.

Today I would like to discuss: to what extent is your personality false?

And I’m asking the question in this way because almost certainly your personality is false to a greater extent than zero.

I’m calling those parts of your personality false that were created as a coping or a defensive mechanism, to deal with fear or pain or pressure or indoctrination. Beliefs or life choices that don’t fit you are also part of your false personality.

For example, imagine a woman who was raised to be a good, kind Christian who never gets angry or offends anyone.

Which parts of this woman’s personality are false? Well, it depends on the woman. It’s possible that incidentally, being a good, kind Christian woman is almost exactly what she resonates with in this life. In this case, very little of her personality may be false. Now sure, everyone gets angry occasionally, so never getting angry and never offending anyone is probably part of a false personality, but still.

On the other hand, it’s also possible that this woman had the pre-birth intention to be a piercing, rationally-minded, atheistic, investigative journalist who asks tough, possibly unkind or offensive questions to people. In this case, if the woman actually adopts the kind, Christian woman personality who never offends anyone (and she might), then pretty much all of her personality could be false, and that might lead to psychological problems, anxiety, substance abuse, a gnawing unhappiness or emptiness, etc. Or she might rebel very hard during her teenage years, or she might experience a severe midlife crisis.

This is why it’s best to give your children room to express themselves and be themselves and explore and find themselves, and not push them too hard in any particular direction. If you allow that, and if your children are loved and taken care of, then probably a relatively small amount of their personality will be false — although it might still be the case that your child came in to be a reformer or shaker-up of the system, and so they’re not ever going to fit in and be satisfied in a world like Earth. Some people have the choice between adopting a false personality and just not fitting in with society at all, and that can be a tough choice.

Now in most cases, a child gets damaged to a relatively large degree — more than you’re perhaps aware of, because parents have to push their children into a mold so that they’ll fit into society, which is seen as normal and necessary but can actually be quite damaging for the child. As a result, a child may grow up with a relatively large false personality.

Let’s investigate to what extent you have, and / or grew up with a false personality. I would like to invite you to answer the following questions for yourself. Feel free to pause this message, answer a question and then unpause the message.

Does it feel like a burden to occasionally more or less have to keep quiet about your true beliefs, because normal people are aggressively close-minded? So for example, if you’re adopting a false, polite, normal persona at work because the people there wouldn’t accept the real you, then that might be causing you inner pain — even though that’s probably also necessary, and I wouldn’t recommend being excessively open at work. To be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong if you hide your true self at work, that may be necessary. But if you’re hiding your true self at work, and if that causes you emotional pain, then that’s good to be aware of. Awareness is the first step towards decreasing your suffering, after all.

Does it feel reasonable to you that you have to make money to survive, and that you therefore might be pushed into doing a job that’s more or less pointless? If that feels unreasonable to you, then even having a job might not be a part of the real you — even though it might be necessary regardless. This is the paradox of living on Earth: you might have to do things that go against your nature just to be able to afford food, because Earth’s society is so twisted. So I’m not saying to quit your job today, I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong, but if needing to have a job is causing you inner turmoil then, at least it’s good to be conscious of that.

Next up: were you allowed to be angry as a child and teenager? Were you allowed to cry? Were you allowed to rest and more or less do nothing for a while? Were you allowed to fail?

Are there any other emotions that you weren’t allowed to have as a child?

Did those emotions or desires become subconscious or repressed? Do you have inner parts of yourselves who still have those desires?

Were you allowed to pick your own religious and spiritual beliefs as a child, or were you more or less pushed into a specific belief such as Christianity or atheism?

Were you allowed to pick your own left vs right political preference, or were you more or less told that this side is noble and right and that the other side is evil and stupid?

To what extent were you allowed to say or express things that your parents disapproved of? To what extent were you pushed to be a model child, or a child that your parents could be proud of?

Did your parents push you in certain directions to mitigate their own fears?

Did you receive sufficient unconditional love and freedom as a child?

Now let’s ask a few more questions about your current adult self:

To what extent do you dare be authentic, even if it upsets others or make you look a bit crazy in the eyes of others?

Are you comfortable with your inner masculinity and femininity? And are you sure about that? Are there some parts of it that you’re in resistance to?

To what extent are you suffering from learned helplessness — the idea that you’re unable to create positive change? Do you feel comfortable with giving up the familiar and with making drastic, perhaps scary changes at the appropriate time. Do you feel comfortable in your ability to create a good life for yourself? Do you feel comfortable in your ability to contribute positively to Earth society?

What parts of your life are things you want to do, and what parts of your life are things you feel you have to do? And is it actually true that you have to do those things?

If as your current adult self you’re nice to someone — do you do that because that’s the real you, or do you do that because you want something from the other person (approval, sex, love), or do you do that so that you can prove to yourself or others that you are a good person?

When women express a dislike of so-called “nice guys”, often they’re sensing that being nice is a false personality of that man. He’s not being nice because that’s his nature, instead he’s being nice to get something (sex, approval), or to manipulate people in some way (look at me being a great guy). The niceness is part of the “nice guy’s” false personality.

People often prefer those who have a mostly-genuine personality, even if they’re kind of dicks, over those who pretend to be nice but aren’t.

Now, due to the previous questions, you might have discovered that your childhood was lacking in some ways that you weren’t aware of. I empathize — life on Earth is indeed really tough and unfair, and I’m sorry.

As with previous messages: observing yourself without judging or bulldozing or suppressing immediately trying to change yourself is a valuable step towards healing. And also, give yourself some time — you can’t change your entire personality overnight.

If you still think that none of your personality is false, well, it’s entirely possible that less of your personality might be fake than most people. But if you were entirely unblocked and fully aligned with your soul and Source, you could and probably would single-handedly liberate Earth. And you could do things such as teleport, et cetera. So likely you still have some blocks and some false parts of your personality.

If you’re unaware which parts of your personality are fake, it might help to just keep asking yourself “why” whenever you make a notable choice, or whenever you do something that perhaps doesn’t make a lot of sense. Then keep asking yourself “why” as a follow-up question when you answer the first “why.”

Finally, it’s completely fine, and indeed quite wise, to just say that you don’t know something. And of course, you can still have an opinion even though you’re not entirely sure, and act based on that opinion.

I hope this was insightful. You have all my love and respect and empathy for living on such a tough world, and I give my greatest well-wishes to you. May we meet in the not too distant future.

And finally, there have been some other channelers on your world citing 2026 or 2027 as the time of first contact, while galactics associated with this channeler have been saying that it’s likely but not guaranteed that we’ll meet before the end of 2025, and that your lives will improve substantially before the end of 2025. Why the difference? Well, the future isn’t actually set in stone, because you have free will. The time of first contact depends on the choices that Earth humans make, therefore no galactics are completely sure when first contact will occur.

On your world you often have multiple models making different predictions; well, so do we. We may be advanced, but it’s simply impossible to predict the free-will choices that people are going to make. After all, if we could predict what you were going to do, then effectively you wouldn’t have free will at all. And you do have free will.

That said, our “likely but not guaranteed” 2024 or 2025 prediction might look like public and open first contact, or it might look like galactics contacting those Earth humans who are awake enough, which includes lots of people who are currently tuning in to this message (hence Hakann’s earlier suggestion to form small groups interested in meeting up). So both predictions could come to pass if we end up contacting Earth humans who are ready in 2024 or 2025, and then land publicly in 2026 or 2027.

That said, Hakann and the others are still looking at landing openly in 2024 or 2025, so that absolutely could still happen (although admittedly 2025 is looking more likely than 2024 for that).

Or the other galactic source might be right and it might be 2026 or 2027. Or we might all be wrong — no one is entirely sure, because it depends on your choices, Earth humans. The only thing that I am sure of is that you will be free, in the not too distant future.

I understand that may not be a very satisfying answer. I can only say: thank you so very much for your service and for your presence on Earth at this time. I imagine it must be very hard and painful at times, but most likely you are doing an amazing job and a great service indeed to mankind, and I salute you.

With love,
R’Kok

A. S. 

For Era of Light

Video

These channelings are exclusively submitted to Eraoflight.com by the channeler. If you wish to share them elsewhere, please include a link back to the original post.

If you are interested in local meetings with other people also seeking first contact with benevolent ETs, then please see https://eraoflight.com/2024/06/19/hakann-local-meetings-for-those-seeking-first-contact-with-benevolent-ets/ . If you search with control-F for @, then you can quickly find email addresses of those who are organizing local groups. It’s also not too late to post a new (secondary) email address yourself to start a new local group, because we plan to keep linking to that post for the foreseeable future.


 

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To What Extent is Your Personality False?

To What Extent is Your Personality False?

By R’Kok

Channel: A. S. 

Posted on September 28, 2024
 
 

 
 
My dear Earth friends,

This is R’Kok speaking. I am grateful for this opportunity, and feel humbled that out of the countless beings who would love to be channeled, I am the one who is chosen for today.

Seriously, you have no idea how many beings would love to send a message to Earth — to give advice, to share stories, to tell you how much they love and appreciate and respect you.

Today I would like to discuss: to what extent is your personality false?

And I’m asking the question in this way because almost certainly your personality is false to a greater extent than zero.

I’m calling those parts of your personality false that were created as a coping or a defensive mechanism, to deal with fear or pain or pressure or indoctrination. Beliefs or life choices that don’t fit you are also part of your false personality.

For example, imagine a woman who was raised to be a good, kind Christian who never gets angry or offends anyone.

Which parts of this woman’s personality are false? Well, it depends on the woman. It’s possible that incidentally, being a good, kind Christian woman is almost exactly what she resonates with in this life. In this case, very little of her personality may be false. Now sure, everyone gets angry occasionally, so never getting angry and never offending anyone is probably part of a false personality, but still.

On the other hand, it’s also possible that this woman had the pre-birth intention to be a piercing, rationally-minded, atheistic, investigative journalist who asks tough, possibly unkind or offensive questions to people. In this case, if the woman actually adopts the kind, Christian woman personality who never offends anyone (and she might), then pretty much all of her personality could be false, and that might lead to psychological problems, anxiety, substance abuse, a gnawing unhappiness or emptiness, etc. Or she might rebel very hard during her teenage years, or she might experience a severe midlife crisis.

This is why it’s best to give your children room to express themselves and be themselves and explore and find themselves, and not push them too hard in any particular direction. If you allow that, and if your children are loved and taken care of, then probably a relatively small amount of their personality will be false — although it might still be the case that your child came in to be a reformer or shaker-up of the system, and so they’re not ever going to fit in and be satisfied in a world like Earth. Some people have the choice between adopting a false personality and just not fitting in with society at all, and that can be a tough choice.

Now in most cases, a child gets damaged to a relatively large degree — more than you’re perhaps aware of, because parents have to push their children into a mold so that they’ll fit into society, which is seen as normal and necessary but can actually be quite damaging for the child. As a result, a child may grow up with a relatively large false personality.

Let’s investigate to what extent you have, and / or grew up with a false personality. I would like to invite you to answer the following questions for yourself. Feel free to pause this message, answer a question and then unpause the message.

Does it feel like a burden to occasionally more or less have to keep quiet about your true beliefs, because normal people are aggressively close-minded? So for example, if you’re adopting a false, polite, normal persona at work because the people there wouldn’t accept the real you, then that might be causing you inner pain — even though that’s probably also necessary, and I wouldn’t recommend being excessively open at work. To be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong if you hide your true self at work, that may be necessary. But if you’re hiding your true self at work, and if that causes you emotional pain, then that’s good to be aware of. Awareness is the first step towards decreasing your suffering, after all.

Does it feel reasonable to you that you have to make money to survive, and that you therefore might be pushed into doing a job that’s more or less pointless? If that feels unreasonable to you, then even having a job might not be a part of the real you — even though it might be necessary regardless. This is the paradox of living on Earth: you might have to do things that go against your nature just to be able to afford food, because Earth’s society is so twisted. So I’m not saying to quit your job today, I’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong, but if needing to have a job is causing you inner turmoil then, at least it’s good to be conscious of that.

Next up: were you allowed to be angry as a child and teenager? Were you allowed to cry? Were you allowed to rest and more or less do nothing for a while? Were you allowed to fail?

Are there any other emotions that you weren’t allowed to have as a child?

Did those emotions or desires become subconscious or repressed? Do you have inner parts of yourselves who still have those desires?

Were you allowed to pick your own religious and spiritual beliefs as a child, or were you more or less pushed into a specific belief such as Christianity or atheism?

Were you allowed to pick your own left vs right political preference, or were you more or less told that this side is noble and right and that the other side is evil and stupid?

To what extent were you allowed to say or express things that your parents disapproved of? To what extent were you pushed to be a model child, or a child that your parents could be proud of?

Did your parents push you in certain directions to mitigate their own fears?

Did you receive sufficient unconditional love and freedom as a child?

Now let’s ask a few more questions about your current adult self:

To what extent do you dare be authentic, even if it upsets others or make you look a bit crazy in the eyes of others?

Are you comfortable with your inner masculinity and femininity? And are you sure about that? Are there some parts of it that you’re in resistance to?

To what extent are you suffering from learned helplessness — the idea that you’re unable to create positive change? Do you feel comfortable with giving up the familiar and with making drastic, perhaps scary changes at the appropriate time. Do you feel comfortable in your ability to create a good life for yourself? Do you feel comfortable in your ability to contribute positively to Earth society?

What parts of your life are things you want to do, and what parts of your life are things you feel you have to do? And is it actually true that you have to do those things?

If as your current adult self you’re nice to someone — do you do that because that’s the real you, or do you do that because you want something from the other person (approval, sex, love), or do you do that so that you can prove to yourself or others that you are a good person?

When women express a dislike of so-called “nice guys”, often they’re sensing that being nice is a false personality of that man. He’s not being nice because that’s his nature, instead he’s being nice to get something (sex, approval), or to manipulate people in some way (look at me being a great guy). The niceness is part of the “nice guy’s” false personality.

People often prefer those who have a mostly-genuine personality, even if they’re kind of dicks, over those who pretend to be nice but aren’t.

Now, due to the previous questions, you might have discovered that your childhood was lacking in some ways that you weren’t aware of. I empathize — life on Earth is indeed really tough and unfair, and I’m sorry.

As with previous messages: observing yourself without judging or bulldozing or suppressing immediately trying to change yourself is a valuable step towards healing. And also, give yourself some time — you can’t change your entire personality overnight.

If you still think that none of your personality is false, well, it’s entirely possible that less of your personality might be fake than most people. But if you were entirely unblocked and fully aligned with your soul and Source, you could and probably would single-handedly liberate Earth. And you could do things such as teleport, et cetera. So likely you still have some blocks and some false parts of your personality.

If you’re unaware which parts of your personality are fake, it might help to just keep asking yourself “why” whenever you make a notable choice, or whenever you do something that perhaps doesn’t make a lot of sense. Then keep asking yourself “why” as a follow-up question when you answer the first “why.”

Finally, it’s completely fine, and indeed quite wise, to just say that you don’t know something. And of course, you can still have an opinion even though you’re not entirely sure, and act based on that opinion.

I hope this was insightful. You have all my love and respect and empathy for living on such a tough world, and I give my greatest well-wishes to you. May we meet in the not too distant future.

And finally, there have been some other channelers on your world citing 2026 or 2027 as the time of first contact, while galactics associated with this channeler have been saying that it’s likely but not guaranteed that we’ll meet before the end of 2025, and that your lives will improve substantially before the end of 2025. Why the difference? Well, the future isn’t actually set in stone, because you have free will. The time of first contact depends on the choices that Earth humans make, therefore no galactics are completely sure when first contact will occur.

On your world you often have multiple models making different predictions; well, so do we. We may be advanced, but it’s simply impossible to predict the free-will choices that people are going to make. After all, if we could predict what you were going to do, then effectively you wouldn’t have free will at all. And you do have free will.

That said, our “likely but not guaranteed” 2024 or 2025 prediction might look like public and open first contact, or it might look like galactics contacting those Earth humans who are awake enough, which includes lots of people who are currently tuning in to this message (hence Hakann’s earlier suggestion to form small groups interested in meeting up). So both predictions could come to pass if we end up contacting Earth humans who are ready in 2024 or 2025, and then land publicly in 2026 or 2027.

That said, Hakann and the others are still looking at landing openly in 2024 or 2025, so that absolutely could still happen (although admittedly 2025 is looking more likely than 2024 for that).

Or the other galactic source might be right and it might be 2026 or 2027. Or we might all be wrong — no one is entirely sure, because it depends on your choices, Earth humans. The only thing that I am sure of is that you will be free, in the not too distant future.

I understand that may not be a very satisfying answer. I can only say: thank you so very much for your service and for your presence on Earth at this time. I imagine it must be very hard and painful at times, but most likely you are doing an amazing job and a great service indeed to mankind, and I salute you.

With love,
R’Kok

A. S. 

For Era of Light

Video

These channelings are exclusively submitted to Eraoflight.com by the channeler. If you wish to share them elsewhere, please include a link back to the original post.

If you are interested in local meetings with other people also seeking first contact with benevolent ETs, then please see https://eraoflight.com/2024/06/19/hakann-local-meetings-for-those-seeking-first-contact-with-benevolent-ets/ . If you search with control-F for @, then you can quickly find email addresses of those who are organizing local groups. It’s also not too late to post a new (secondary) email address yourself to start a new local group, because we plan to keep linking to that post for the foreseeable future.


 

Compiled by http://violetflame.biz.ly from: 

Sunday, September 1, 2024

Another Wave…

Another Wave…

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley

Posted on September 1, 2024





Since your Earth plane is experiencing quite a bit of change, any information relayed to you by The Universe may seem a bit anticlimactic. With that being said, it is time to prepare for yet another wave in this tsunami of growth. 

Those beginning to walk their paths may still be prone to projection and denial because they know nothing else. Be patient, be kind, demonstrate compassion, remember you were once where they are now and, most importantly, send Unconditional Love! 

The journey may not always be easy, but love will always make it better.

The Creator
 
Jennifer Farley  

 Reminder discernment is recommended

 

Saturday, July 13, 2024

Facing Anomalies in Our Consciousness

Facing Anomalies in Our Consciousness

By Kenneth Schmitt

Posted on July 13, 2024 

credits: frasesdelavida.com


Without outside interference, humans are by nature loving, kind and compassionate. Our heart is designed to initiate all conscious activity. Whenever we place our attention in a way that keeps us unaware of our heart energy, we create an anomaly in the field of unconditional love that we inhabit. This anomaly adversely affects all of the life processes in our body, mind and emotions. All negative emotions do this, and they contribute to more negative energy, all arising out of fear. By being against anything we contribute to the negative anomaly. The path of the heart is to recognize the underlying fear and to love it, thank it for appearing for our recognition, and then to withdraw our alignment from it, transforming the energy in the infinite love of the heart.

Much human fear originates deep in the subconscious, carried over from this and previous lifetimes of trauma and torture. If it is brought to our attention, this deep fear can be cleared, usually through situations that are challenging for the ego. Once we recognize that we are in a physical or emotional state that doesn’t feel good, we can calm ourselves, take a few deep breaths, and find our heart center. From that perspective of deepest love and joy, we know how to be. This is the basis for all thought and action, regardless of the circumstances we may face.

Heart energy is the essence of the higher dimensions of life. By being in alignment with our heart energy we become multi-dimensional. Our conscious awareness expands into a higher octave of vibration, awakening our hidden abilities. When we are confident in our creative ability, our level of joy can rise in each moment. In this octave of polarity and frequency, we are invulnerable to lower-vibrational energy, and we have no fear.

During the past era, negative energy has been overwhelming, and it has been nearly impossible to overcome the perspective of separation from the energy of the heart of our Being. Yet we are here to master the human situation and to align with the infinite consciousness of our Creator. In our essence we are beyond the limiting beliefs that we have lived with. By focusing on our heart-consciousness, we can retrain ourselves to transform our fear, anger and dismay into compassion, love and vitality.

There are no threats outside of our consciousness. The negativity that we face is present in our awareness, because we have allowed it to exist in our own subconscious. When we transform the quality of energy in our awareness, we transform it in our experience of all of human consciousness and for everyone who is open to it, because we all share the same consciousness on a subconscious level. Through the transforming consciousness of our heart, we can make this expression part of our conscious awareness.

Here are some thoughts from Ingrid Naiman on 6/18/2020: “We are constructed of elements that each have properties, the proportions of which are always changing. The bonds between the elements are held together by mutual need, respect, appreciation, and love. They separate when there is discord, so discord is always damaging, and it leads to disease and decay. For this reason, it is safer to be for something with merit than against something that is deplorable. We can be dissatisfied, but we have to recognize that dissidence leads to separation and disaster, whereas bonding promotes lasting and trustworthy ties to one another.”
Kenneth Schmitt
Click above for more on Kenneth web page.
 

Tuesday, March 5, 2024

A Vision for Heroes

A Vision for Heroes

The Vision Alignment Project


 


We see a world where our heroes and heroines are everywhere; where they are everyday people who are kind and caring for one another; where they are honored, celebrated, and chosen to positions of leadership because they are gentle, helpful, resourceful, caring, kind, and forgiving.
 
 
We see our heroes and heroines in the movies being the ones who have put away their weapons and set examples for our youth by being compassionate, courageous, and creative; where our inventors and artists are using their talents to help bring humanity into its highest calling; where our spiritual leaders are enlightened, awakened, and truly lined up with the Highest Good.
 
And we envision all people, everywhere, seeing themselves as a hero or heroine to their family and friends because they show up, make themselves available, and help others whenever and wherever they are needed.
 

Friday, September 22, 2023

CHANGING THE VIBRATION

CHANGING THE VIBRATION

By KejRaj (KayRy)

EraOfLight

Posted September 22, 2023





You find yourself in the reality you match with vibrationally. 

Change the vibration of your being, you change your reality, your life. 

No one outside of you is going to do this for you. Only you can do this for yourself. 

Let go of all fear. Be kind, be loving, remain in a state of joy, be of service to others. 

Meditate at least once a day for twenty minutes or more. Deep breathing clears your energy centers in the body, and speeds up the vibration of your light particles in your cells. 

This way you expand your consciousness and capacity to hold more light, gradually uplifting into the higher more positive timelines





Sunday, August 20, 2023

8 Signs of a Sigma Empath: Are You One of These Rare Personalities?

8 Signs of a Sigma Empath: Are You One of These Rare Personalities? 

By Janey Davies, B.A. (Hons)

Posted on August 20, 2023




Sigma empaths are rare and fascinating people. A sigma empath is an empath with sigma personality traits.

We often read about alpha and beta personalities; sigmas are a separate group. Sigmas are self-reliant, confident lone wolf types. They don’t follow the crowd, have no need for external validation or worry about how others view them.

On the other hand, empaths feel others’ emotions as their own. Empaths can put themselves in the other person’s shoes. They are intuitive, sensing the mood of a person or a room immediately.

So, what happens when you cross a sigma with an empath? Before I discuss the unique signs of a sigma empath, I’d like to reveal more about the traits of a sigma personality. Knowing the sigma personality helps to understand a sigma empath.

Sigma Personality Traits

  • Sigma personalities march to the beat of their own drum.
  • They are the archetypal lone wolf who doesn’t follow the rest of the pack.
  • They are supportive, not competitive.
  • Sigmas value quality over quantity and don’t let just anyone into their life.
  • They are powerful influencers but don’t crave power
  • The sigma personality is happy in their own company and likes solitude.
  • Sigmas are introverted and hate small talk, but can socialize with charm and ease.
  • Sigmas don’t care what people think of them.
  • They have an acute sense of self-worth, and don’t need external validation.
  • Sigmas don’t crave the spotlight but are often the focus of attention.
  • Their confidence, integrity and high moral compass are magnetic.
  • Sigmas won’t make excuses or let class, finances, or gender define them or others.
  • They don’t settle for second best in relationships.
  • They follow their heart, not the rules.

What Is a Sigma Empath?

A sigma empath is an empath with the traits of a sigma personality. Think of people like Keanu Reeves. Keanu is a multi-millionaire Hollywood star, yet he lives a modest life. He eschews the trappings of fame and fortune.

Known for his generosity on and off set, Keanu has frequently lowered his fees, freeing up film budgets to hire names like Al Pacino and Jack Nicholson. He bought the stunt crew of the Matrix motorbikes as a thank you. He donates anonymously to charities, chats to homeless people and helps anyone in need.

Money, fame, recognition, awards, glamour or validation mean nothing to him. He’s kind, thinks for himself and is aware of what’s going on around him. I believe he’s a perfect example of a sigma personality with empathic tendencies.

8 Signs of a Sigma Empath


1. They are non-judgmental

Our upbringing and background can leave us with a gamut of unknown biases and triggers. Sigma empaths are aware of the many injustices in the world and are humanitarians.

As a result, they don’t judge a person by their circumstances, wealth, social status, or problems. Sigma empaths don’t associate a person’s worth with their finances or their status. They value kindness, understanding, high morals, and integrity.

“I don’t want to be part of a world where being kind is a weakness.” Keanu Reeves

US actor Octavia Spencer recalls a story that typifies Keanu’s sigma empathic personality. She was an unknown actor rushing to an audition in a posh part of Beverly Hills when her car broke down. She wore grubby sweats and her car was filthy. Cars were honking at her; people were sitting outside cafes, but no one helped her.

Then a guy walked up to her and asked if she needed help. It was Keanu Reeves at the height of The Matrix fame. He helped push her car to the side of the road.

2. They are not afraid to help stigmatized groups

Sigma empaths are nonjudgmental and treat everyone as their equal. Some people raise their self-esteem by putting others down. It’s easy to blame minorities like refugees, the homeless, or addicts for all that is wrong with society.

A sigma empath doesn’t care who you are, where you’re from, or how you got there. If you need help, they’ll stick their neck out and help you, regardless of any flack.


“When people saw it was Keanu Reeves helping me, everybody came down to help.” Octavia Spencer

3. They are highly individualistic, getting validation from within

Sigma empaths are independent people that know their self-worth. The opinions of others don’t matter to them. Social hierarchy is meaningless to them.

“I’m just an individual who doesn’t feel that I need to have somebody qualify my work in any particular way. I’m working for me.” David Bowie

A sigma empath has a strong internal locus of control, which means they attribute both success and failure to their actions. They don’t blame other people or external circumstances for what’s going on in their life. They take responsibility.

Having a solid sense of identity enables them to follow their own path and not worry about the opinions of others. It is this individualistic nature coupled with empathy that allows them to help anyone in need, regardless of other people’s opinions.

4. They can separate themselves from other people’s feelings

This might seem counterintuitive, but one unique trait is how they can compartmentalize what they absorb from others.

Typically, you’ll find that empaths soak up the emotions of other people, feeling their grief or pain as if it were their own. Sigma empaths feel emotions the same way, but they can distance themselves from other’s emotions.

Compartmentalizing gives the sigma empath a clear, unbiased view. This pragmatic approach stops them from drowning in other people’s emotions. Because they are one step removed from the emotional situation, they can help in practical and emotional ways.

5. They are not afraid to set boundaries

Because a sigma empath can separate their feelings from others, they can set boundaries.

Some empaths become overwhelmed by carrying the weight of other people’s grief, anger, or sorrow. What’s different about the sigma empath is they know when to set boundaries and can hold people at a distance. This is especially true if a situation becomes confrontational or unnecessarily dramatic.

They know when to step back, evaluate the situation, and walk away if necessary. They might be empaths, but they’re no pushovers. Sure, they want to help and find a solution to a problem, but they won’t waste time on people with different agendas.

Sigma empaths might be open-minded and compassionate, but that doesn’t mean you can manipulate them.

6. They are brutally honest, but kind

You’ll get no BS from this personality type. If you want their help, friendship, or loyalty, you’ll have to put up with their forthright nature. This doesn’t mean they say things to upset people for no reason.

Sigma empaths believe the truth is the only way we can progress into better human beings. They like to get to the point quickly and won’t ever sugarcoat their words. But the reason for their bluntness is their direct approach to life. You know you can trust sigma empaths because they don’t lie. They tell it as it is.

“If you want the rainbow, you’ve got to put up with the rain.” – Dolly Parton

7. They don’t relish socializing but can read the room

It sounds contradictory, but how can someone who doesn’t like to be around people have good body language skills? Sigma empaths are never the life and soul of the party. This allows them to step back and observe. They have an innate intuition and sensitivity, a bit like a Spidey sense.

One sign is their ability to read people. They have heightened senses and naturally tune into the energy of other people. Sigma empaths can decipher what’s really being said, either by studying body language, reading between the lines, or decoding the words used.

8. Sigma empaths can appear cold and aloof at times


Empaths are warm, open-hearted, sensitive and compassionate. The sigma empath doesn’t always appear like this. They can come across as detached and unapproachable. They don’t act like empaths at all. Some describe them as ‘hard nuts to crack’, which is true, until you get to know them.

They don’t gossip, rarely share intimate details about themselves and are not self-promoting. They’re a bit of an enigma. However, once they trust you and allow you to see their true selves, you’ll find a kind and loving person.

Final Thoughts

The sigma empath is mysterious, unique, doesn’t follow the crowd, nor cares what others think of them. Their non-judgmental nature means they’ll help anyone in need, but they’re no pushover. They don’t burn out like other empaths because they can separate themselves from people’s emotions.

This doesn’t make them any less of an empath. In fact, it’s this pragmatic quality that makes them so unique.

References:

Janey Davies


Sub-editor & staff writer at Learning Mind
Janey Davies has been published online for over 10 years. She has suffered from a panic disorder for over 30 years, which prompted her to study and receive an Honours degree in Psychology with the Open University. Janey uses the experiences of her own anxiety to offer help and advice to others dealing with mental health issues.

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Sunday, July 23, 2023

A Vision for Heroes

A Vision for Heroes

The Vision Alignment Project

We see a world where our heroes and heroines are everywhere; where they are everyday people who are kind and caring for one another; where they are honored, celebrated, and chosen to positions of leadership because they are gentle, helpful, resourceful, caring, kind, and forgiving.
 
We see our heroes and heroines in the movies being the ones who have put away their weapons and set examples for our youth by being compassionate, courageous, and creative; where our inventors and artists are using their talents to help bring humanity into its highest calling; where our spiritual leaders are enlightened, awakened, and truly lined up with the Highest Good.
 
And we envision all people, everywhere, seeing themselves as a hero or heroine to their family and friends because they show up, make themselves available, and help others whenever and wherever they are needed.

Monday, June 26, 2023

Be Kind and Gentle

Be Kind and Gentle

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley

June 25, 2023




Upon introspection, you may feel that your past will hinder your growth during this important time. 

The old stuff coming up is a harsh reminder of all your woulda/coulda/shoulda moments; the times when you had the chance to change and did not, the hurts knowingly inflicted and the bitter, ragged edges of you.

Once again, this is a gentle guiding push to come to terms with, acknowledge, honor and release your transgressions. 

Without them, you would not know what you know now, and you would not have the wisdom or awareness necessary for the growth that is in process. 

Be kind and gentle with yourself; this is the truest first step to learning and forward movement.  

Creator