Everyone is Trying to Get Their Needs Met

Everyone is Trying to Get Their Needs Met

Tunia via channel A. S.

Posted on March 31, 2024

 

 

Anecdote from the channeler: sometimes I’m anxious about something, even though it’s likely that in five year’s time I won’t even remember whether I failed or succeeded at that thing. So in other words, sometimes I’m anxious about something that in the long run will not really matter. In such a case, if I ask a Pleiadian friend if I’ll succeed, she will often say: “my dear, you are safe whether you succeed or not.”

On to Tunia’s message.

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Tunia speaking. I love you so very much.

The situation on Earth is a bit hard for me to wrap my head around, and pretty horrifying. But to me, what seems to be going on is the following:

Pretty much everyone has several unmet needs.

This can be the physical need of having enough to eat, or the need of being free from physical or psychological pain. Or it can be the need to feel safe and financially secure, or the need to feel connected and heard and seen and understood, or the need of being surrounded by a like-minded and safe community. Or it can be the need to feel that your lives matter and your pain is worth it, or the need to feel that you are a good person and that you are making a difference and contributing enough, et cetera.

Even people who think they don’t have unmet needs, probably have the unmet need of being fully seen and understood on a very deep level. Or they have the unmet need of having a subconscious free of fear and of old pain. Or they have the unmet need of having high-conscious, emotionally safe, spiritually advanced people around them. Or they have the unmet need of having an emotionally safe, deeply satisfying relationship with an amazing partner.

As we sometimes remark to the channeler: if you can’t teleport yet, you’re not fully empty yet. And while that’s more of a quip than a reliable criterion of judging someone’s level of consciousness, there is some truth to it. A person who is actually clear and empty and has their needs met would radiate love and have several so-called supernatural abilities. Such a person would automatically appear to be a spiritual master in the eyes of the average person, even if that person hadn’t consciously practiced spirituality.

So: pretty much everyone has unmet needs. And while people can usually cope with one or two unmet needs, most people have had several deep unmet needs for a long time.

To deal with unmet needs, people may start coping. This can be trying to censor everyone with a different viewpoint, or it can be drugs or alcohol or food, or it can just be distractions such as spending very large amounts of time behind a screen. Or it can be a childless woman calling herself a cat mom.

People who have unmet needs can engage in short-termism. You even see this in corporate culture at the moment, where investors demand short-term profits rather than long-term profits, and companies prioritize short-term profits over long-term health.

Or to meet their needs, people can have the desire to make other people suffer as they have suffered. While that is destructive and while I don’t endorse this, there can be an element there of a connection-starved person trying to make other people understand them and emphasize with them.

Or to meet their needs, people can let their ego or their spiritual ego take over, because it’s quite good at superficially meeting some needs in the short term..

Or to meet their needs, people can dive into self-healing, self-help or spirituality. And of course, this is a productive response. If you are receiving this message, it is quite likely that at some point you made the productive choice to go into self-help or spirituality to meet some unmet need of yours, and I would like to congratulate you on your courageous decision. After all, most people deal with their unmet needs in a less productive way. So, great job. Really. I mean it. You have all my respect.

Or to meet their needs, some people may start being selfish and manipulative. It’s not inherent to people to be selfish or manipulative, but if people feel they can’t meet their needs otherwise, they may become selfish and manipulative and engage in under-handed tactics to meet their needs. Which is part of why everyone seems to think that there’s suddenly narcissists everywhere — part of that is people trying to meet their self-esteem and their feel-loved needs in manipulative ways.

Or to meet their psychological needs, people tell themselves a story that probably isn’t fully true, but that is psychologically pleasing to them. In this story they’re usually either better or harder working or more virtuous than other people, or they’re the social justice hero, or they’re the oppressed victim who did nothing wrong and who isn’t to blame for their current not-so-great-life. There is actually a whole lot of this going on, because people are in so much pain.

The stereotypical right-wing flavor of this is illustrated by the following Trump quote: “My whole life really has been a ‘no’ and I fought through it. It has not been easy for me, it has not been easy for me. And you know I started off in Brooklyn, my father gave me a small loan of a million dollars.”

So here you see someone fulfilling their own psychological needs by telling a story that makes them a hero — they had it so tough, but they overcame it because they’re so virtuous or hard-working or something like that. Even though most people don’t have the luxury of getting a loan of a million dollars. Plus Trump didn’t just get a one million dollar loan, he also inherited lots of money.

Similarly there’s also the stereotypical example of the parent who says that his or her generation had it so tough and that they worked so hard, and the younger generation is lazy. In reality, things are very difficult for the younger generation.

Another example is someone who says or implies that they succeeded through hard work and smart choices, and therefore everyone who fails is either lazy or made stupid choices. The attitude here is sometimes: “I am reasonably comfortable. If you are not reasonably comfortable, screw you, I got mine. Furthermore, my reasonable level of success proves that I am a good, hard-working person, and your lack of success proves that you are lazy or made bad choices, and in both cases you deserve to suffer.”

This is psychologically pleasing because the person who says it feels like a virtuous person, and also it stops them from feeling bad that their sisters and brothers are suffering.

Now, personal responsibility is absolutely very important.

At the same time, often such an “I got mine, screw you” person overlooks advantages that the person may have had over other people. For example, they may simply have been born with a higher IQ than average — which actually is a massive advantage. Now, a smart but not genius type of person might not think of themselves as having the advantage of being born with an above-average IQ. However, such a person does often think of the average person as being quite stupid — and part of that is that they were born with a higher IQ than the average person.

Even if you take a person who is average in all respects, well, this person still had a more advantageous birth and youth than half of all people. That’s what being average means. Even if an average person didn’t have any advantages, they may still not have had to deal with disadvantages that other people may struggle with, such as health conditions, being born into an unstable or poor family, being abused, being born with a below-average IQ, prejudice, et cetera.

So while personal responsibility matters, it’s often too simple to say: “I succeeded because I’m a good and hard-working person, if other people fail they’re just lazy or made bad choices.” Yes, some people are lazy and made bad choices, but not everyone who is struggling was lazy or made bad choices.

Some people on the right adopt this “screw you, I got mine” attitude anyway because it’s psychologically pleasing to them.

On the other hand, this attitude can make unsuccessful people feel unsafe and unseen. And thereby it increases the political divide and radicalizes the other side a bit.

That’s an unfortunate result or what happens when a person doesn’t get their needs met and starts coping or trying to get their needs met in other ways. Often, that makes the people around them feel less safe and less seen.

There are also left-wing versions of a person telling themselves a narrative so that they can meet their psychological needs. One such version is: I am a woman or I am black, therefore I am oppressed by those evil men or white people. It is their fault that my life is tough.

Now yes, there are misogynists and racists out there. That is true, and it’s not a bad thing to acknowledge reality.

At the same time, some people on the left go overboard with this and create a narrative about how they’re oppressed victims and how white people or men are evil. And while that may fulfill short-term psychological needs, this victim mentality isn’t actually beneficial for the person in the longer term. Plus it splits society in two.

Also, this creates blindness to cases where there is prejudice or discrimination against men or white people. Pointing out that there are cases of prejudice or discrimination against men or white people disrupts the “I, as a woman or black person, am oppressed” narrative. Therefore anti-male or anti-white prejudice and discrimination is swept under the rug by some left-wingers who… claim to be against prejudice and discrimination.

A somewhat related example is of a person claiming to have trauma or claiming that they were abused, when in reality they just had an unpleasant experience. Some people make stories up or heavily exaggerate things to get sympathy. Although of course, there are also people out there who genuinely are traumatized and genuinely were abused, and if you have trauma or you were abused then it’s completely fine to say that you went through that. And I’m very sorry if you experienced that.

Or a left-wing person might feel that their life is meaningless and has no purpose and that they are one of billions of interchangeable, unremarkable people who won’t be remembered after death.

I’m not saying that a so-called average life is meaningless, but that is what some people feel, deep down. Hence, some people on the left try to address this anxiety by, for example, inventing a new gender for themselves. Perhaps in their mind this makes them no longer yet another interchangeable, unremarkable person.

Another left-wing version of “fulfil my own needs by creating a narrative for myself” is when a left-wing person stands up for a group that is perceived to be oppressed, such as women or black people or trans people.

This can lead to situations where a white left-wing person claims to be fighting for black people, and in the process this white left-wing person censors a black person who speaks out against a left-wing narrative. This illustrates that sometimes it’s not actually about social justice, it’s just about the left-wing person wanting to be a hero in order to meet their own psychological needs.

It is interesting to note that people in the past were primarily concerned about material well-being, and back then the left was mostly interested in helping working-class people financially. And now a lot of people are more concerned with psychological pain, and now the left is helping them with that, by giving people a ready-made narrative where they can either label themselves as the oppressed victim or as the hero who stands up against racism.

This has led to the observation that “the demand for racism has outstripped its supply.” Hence we see nowadays that even being opposed to illegal immigration is called racist — because left-wing people want there to be evil racists that they can heroically defeat, so that the left-winger meets their own psychological needs.

At the same time, of course anti-women sexists and anti-black-people racists really do exist. The left isn’t just all virtue-signalling, or as I prefer to call it, please-love-me signalling. On the left, there is also genuine compassion and a genuine desire to improve society.

Similarly, there genuinely is a hard-work and personal responsibility and freedom-minded ethos on the right. The right isn’t all just people saying “screw you, I got mine, I’m the virtuous hardworking person who deserves success. And if you’re struggling, then I don’t need to feel sorry for you because you deserve it, you’re lazy or you made bad choices.” Although that is a part of the right.

So as you can see, both the left and the right sometimes try to fulfill their own psychological needs by creating narratives that are pleasing to their ego, but often those narratives aren’t fully true. Furthermore, those narratives often make other people feel unsafe and unseen. And people who fully identify with these narratives might seem narcissistic or self-absorbed or callous to people on the other political side.

So, what’s the solution? Well, the solution is for people to get their needs met without having to engage in coping mechanisms and without having to create these kinds of self-justifying narratives. I know that’s easier said than done. Still, you too can be part of the solution just by being kind to other people and by listening to them. That actually matters a great deal, far more than it might seem.

So, is humanity inherently evil, or selfish? No. It’s just that almost everyone on Earth has several unmet needs. When Earth becomes a place where people get their needs met, Earth humans will also start behaving in dramatically better and more productive ways. Almost no one in our society behaves in a destructive way, and we’re humans just as you are.

This also means that yelling at people to stop virtue signalling, or stop being selfish, or whatever, probably will not work.

I love humans — I love the people of Earth. I feel a deep sense of compassion for the people of Earth, for you, because it must be horrible to live with so many unmet needs for so long. I can’t even imagine what that would be like, and my heart goes out to you.

But, yes, at the same time it is useful to understand that a whole lot of people are currently trying to cope with their unmet needs in unproductive ways — which also contributes to the huge political divide. The channeler has been disappointed and dismayed at just how many people are acting in selfish ways.

Also, it can be pretty disturbing to realize that partly because of unmet needs, most people are acting in a sort of unconscious, robotic, survival mechanism way. For the average person, if tv tells them to believe or do a certain thing, that’s what they do. They’re almost like a robot that receives input and generates predictable output. And it’s sad that many humans have been reduced to this.

At the same time, humanity is waking up. And there are also beautiful, amazing, selfless people out there who are doing their own work and helping others.

Waves of light are happening all the time, where one person is kind to someone else, and then that person is kinder to the people in their surroundings as a result, and so the wave of light just cascades outwards. What starts as one kind action can eventually touch most of humanity. Which is heart-warming and inspiring and beautiful to see.

Or one person heals some deep trauma they have, and in response the entire human collective consciousness is touched. People they’ve never even met, people on the other side of the globe may feel inspiration and relief and a nudge to go and do their own work.

You are rising as one race. You are ascending.

I know it’s hard. I know it’s painful. But Earth humans really are going in a positive direction.

And while not guaranteed, it really is likely that this year or the next we will finally be able to physically meet you. And I can’t wait — that will be a celebration and a sharing that will reverberate across the galaxy and across the ages.

You have all my love and respect. You’re doing amazing and you are in my thoughts every single day.

Your star sister,

Tunia

For Era of Light

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You’re Still Standing

You’re Still Standing

Hakann trough A. S.

Posted on February 4, 2023

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Hakann speaking. I greet you in peace and love.

Today I would like to remind you just how much you have been through already, and to remind you that despite all this, you are still standing. With this, I hope to remind you just how strong and impressive you are.

I hope to remind you that you’re not flawed, you’re not broken, you’re not weak — you’ve just been through a lot and perhaps you’re still carrying a lot of weight. From my perspective, you don’t have weak shoulders, you have strong shoulders — there’s just a lot of weight on them. But you’re handling it impressively well.

So, what are a human’s needs? One of them is emotional safety. As Tunia has discussed in her message: “Tunia, romantic relationships”, the vast majority of people around you will probably have been mostly emotionally unsafe. It is entirely possible that you have never had a close connection with an Earth human who was mostly emotionally safe. This includes people just letting you be you, without trying to change you or tell you what you should do or be or believe.

Another need of humans is that they receive unconditional love. The vast majority of Earth humans, including parents unfortunately, do not express nearly enough unconditional love. Very often the love is conditional, what I’ve described in an earlier message as dog-training-love: if the child or dog behaves well, then the adult gives them affection, but if the child or dog behaves in a way that’s inconvenient for the adult, then the adult withdraws affection. To me, it is quite heartbreaking that so many Earth humans have not had this very basic need met, of receiving unconditional love.

So most Earth humans don’t have the very foundational needs met of having mostly emotionally safe people around them and receiving unconditional love. Furthermore, many Earth humans then aren’t allowed to express the so-called negative emotions that inevitably follow with that, and are sometimes gaslighted by their parents into thinking that there is something wrong with them, when in reality the child simply didn’t receive the unconditional love that they needed.

Many Earth humans also aren’t given some very basic tools to deal with their so-called negative emotions, such as what I shared in my message: “Hakann: the observation path.” Some people only discover something like that in their 30s, and have to go out into the world to find something like that — whereas that is something that we teach to our children when they are very young.

So people aren’t given the emotional safety and unconditional love they need, then sometimes they are gaslighted into thinking there is something wrong with them when they inevitably experience emotional pain from the lack of those things, and people also aren’t given even some very basic tools and information on how to deal with their pain.

Psychologists often aren’t available and affordable, plus there is a stigma against admitting that you are in psychological pain, even though nearly everyone on Earth is. Some psychologists and certain mainstream psychology approaches frankly aren’t very good either. In some cases, the symptoms are addressed but the root cause isn’t. We still recommend going to a psychologist if you feel you need it, because there absolutely are good psychologists out there, but it is still sad that some people can try to seek help and then end up with a psychologist who either isn’t very good or isn’t a very good match, and end up not being helped much or even hurt further.

Furthermore, people are forced to sit still as children in a boring room for years on end, studying something that in most cases doesn’t interest them. Most children are offered little choice in what they wish they learn or do once they enter school, being treated almost as slaves.

People are also fed false information constantly and from everywhere. Mainstream media, politicians, teachers and school books, many organized religions, et cetera all constantly tell falsehoods to people. Sure, some of those people just repeat what they’ve been told themselves and don’t realize that they are spreading false information, but the net result is still that nearly everyone is constantly told things that are not true.

Then when people become adults, they’re placed in an often harsh economical situation, where it’s swim-or-sink, in water infested with sharks. Most people are wired to need a loving community around them to feel good psychologically, but most people don’t have such a community and it’s not easy to find one there on Earth.

I could go on. You know all these things — in fact you know them better than I do, because you are living through it.

And yet. Despite the fact that from my point of view, Earth humans are not getting the majority of their needs met — still most people not only manage to create a tolerable life for themselves, but also they manage to maintain a fundamentally good heart.

To me, this is incredibly impressive. Frankly, I am sometimes surprised that there is not more crime and selfishness there on Earth. I genuinely think you are all amazing and doing very well indeed.

I don’t think you are weak. I think you are incredibly strong — you just probably have a lot on your shoulders. That doesn’t make you weak.

I think you’re all amazing. I am very proud of you, and I am glad that I can call you my brothers and my sisters.

I absolutely do not think that I am better than you are, because since my birth nearly all of my needs have been met. I was born in physical and emotional luxury, while you have had to build a life out of nearly nothing.

Please give yourself some credit. The average soul in the universe genuinely couldn’t have done what you have done already — the average soul would just have broken psychologically, and certainly wouldn’t have woken up enough to go and look for these kinds of messages. You’re doing far better than the average soul would have done, had they been in your place.

And if you ever feel like you need to rest and it is possible in the context of your life, please do so. I am hereby giving you permission, although of course you don’t need it. You have all been through an incredible amount of hardship and it is entirely understandable that sometimes you need some rest. No matter how strong the soul may be, the body and the central nervous system and the emotional body and the inner child all need rest from time to time.

I love you so very much and I am very proud of you. You are doing amazingly well.

Your star brother,

Hakann

Channel: A.S.

For Era of Light

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