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Wednesday, January 21, 2026

There is Nothing Wrong With You


There is Nothing Wrong With You

By Vidya Frazier

Post on January 21, 2026

 

How often do you find yourself feeling depressed or anxious – and then realize it’s because you’re judging yourself in some way?

Maybe you’re feeling ashamed or guilty about something you’ve done. Or you keep thinking you shouldn’t be so lazy… so selfish… so judgmental… so miserable. You should meditate more… eat less sugar… get more exercise….

In essence, you feel there’s something “wrong” with you that needs to be fixed.

What you may not realize is that an important aspect of spiritual awakening is truly realizing that there is nothing wrong with you, as you are. Sure, there may be things you could be doing differently, or misunderstandings you need to clear up, or other actions you’d best take to set things in a better direction.

But it’s important to understand that there is nothing inherently wrong with you, just because you make mistakes or misjudge people or don’t feel like doing things you know you should. Or even if you somehow say or do things that are hurtful to others. And there is certainly nothing wrong with you for experiencing negative emotions.

Doing all these things is part of how Beings evolve in this universe. They are part of the learning and evolutionary process. There are always constant challenges that motivate us to shift into a higher frequency. And, in the process, making “mistakes” and needing to correct them are naturally involved.

Myths about Humanity

And yet, there is a powerful myth within most cultures and religions across the planet that humans are somehow inherent- ly flawed.

In the West, the notion of original sin is generally accepted in one form or another – sometimes consciously, but often unconsciously.

Eastern religions teach about karma. It is accepted that humans are naturally flawed and therefore need to learn how to become more spiritual and finally achieve a form of perfection: enlightenment.

It’s believed that everyone keeps having to live life after life in pain and suffering because they have committed bad deeds in past lives they need to pay for.

What all these traditions don’t understand is that these teachings about inherent imperfections in humanity were initially brought onto planet Earth thousands of years ago by unfriendly alien beings from another universe, often referred to as the Archons.

And that these powerful, technologically-advanced beings gradually took control of humanity in a variety of ways.

How the Dark Forces Have Managed to Control Us

Religious Teachings: One way, as described above, was to begin inserting the message of humanity’s inherently flawed nature into religious teachings that had already developed on the planet – and to actually create religions of their own, with the same message.

In recent decades, this message has also managed to creep into many New Age spiritual teachings, as well.

There’s often a subtle assumption that something is naturally wrong with us, and so we need to keep fixing and healing and perfecting ourselves in order to eventually become enlightened – or shift into 5D — whatever our belief is.

Karmic Wheel Technology: Another way these ancient beings took control was to create the Karmic Wheel technology that was designed to keep humans reincarnating over and over again, while also causing them to forget what they have done in former lives that might help them to learn from their mistakes.

Ancient Physiological Technology: Yet another way they took control was by inserting ancient technology into the human body.

This technology has been described as implants that were inserted, most importantly in the brain — designed to constantly create messages and sensations of shame, guilt, fear, judgment and self-doubt. This technology has also been described as the “slave self”.

Not understanding the true nature or purpose of this technology, humanity has simply called the one in the brain the “inner critic”, with the assumption it’s just part of humanity’s natural makeup.

Beliefs about Suffering: And still another way in which humanity has been manipulated has been with the encouragement of certain beliefs about suffering — that it is not only necessary for evolution, it’s actually positive.

One belief is that, in order to learn and be motivated to do the “right thing”, we may need to first feel guilt or shame or fear. Therefore, these emotions are actually positive, because they motivate us to move in the right direction.

Another is a belief that we need to suffer if we have caused someone else suffering — as if that will help ease their suffering. This is rarely true. A feeling of revenge on the part of the injured person does not really ease their suffering; it just continues to keep them in a low frequency.

Yet another belief some people have is that, if there are people in the world who are less fortunate than they are, they need to feel guilty and suffer too — as if that would help those less fortunate people to feel better.

In general, the belief is that since we are not as perfect as we “should” be, suffering will help us to better ourselves. It will help build character and make us more spiritual.

Of course, at times, guilt or shame or fear can probably motivate us to do what is right – but it’s not necessary to feel these emotions to do that. We truly can simply:

1. Realize we’ve done something we wish we hadn’t

2. Apologize to someone if they’ve been hurt by what we’ve said or done; and then

3. Correct our action.

There is truly no need for the intermediate step of feeling guilt, shame or fear. You don’t need to suffer in any way in order to be a “good” or “spiritual” person — or to evolve and wake up. You can just conscientiously, with compassion for yourself and others, correct what you’ve done, and then move on.

So, in understanding all of these ways in which the Dark Forces have created guilt, fear and shame in humanity, we can see they have done a phenomenal job in convincing most people – especially Souls on a conscious spiritual path – that there is something inherently wrong with them they need to somehow correct through doing constant work on themselves.

The Good News

The good news is that, with the current rising of the frequency of the planet, you can now wake up to how you have been controlled and manipulated in these ways.

You can step free of any beliefs you’ve had that there is something wrong with you that you constantly need to fix and heal and perfect.

This doesn’t mean you can completely stop doing any healing work on yourself; the traumas you’ve experienced throughout your life do definitely need to be attended to and healed.

But it means you can do this work without the premise that there is something inherently wrong with you, that you need to learn to do better, that you need to somehow become a better human being.

You simply need to do the work in order to clear away the false beliefs about yourself – so you can then begin remembering the true Essence of who you naturally are as a powerful, loving multidimensional Being.

With healing work, this true YOU can become increasingly clear and bright, shining through into your awareness.

And, with the new high frequencies now streaming onto the planet, you can begin doing this much more easily. You can free yourself from feeling guilty or ashamed about anything – and realize that, as an evolving Soul, of course, you’re going to make mistakes you need to correct.

You’re naturally going to go in certain directions you need to backtrack on. You’re sometimes going to say or do hurtful things to others when you’re in pain. Again, this is all part of the constant learning and evolving process that Beings in this universe experience.

It Ain’t Easy

So, as you are likely discovering more and more these days, spiritual awakening is not an easy process.

But hey, you’re doing it! You’re going through all the challenges necessary during these transitional times to bring you to the point where you can finally transition into 5D consciousness.

It’s really hard at times – but just remember: You can make it less so if you keep in mind how you’ve been thoroughly messed with by alien forces over probably thousands of years – and that there’s really nothing inherently wrong with you.

After maybe eons of time of essentially being asleep, you are finally re-awakening to the reality that you are a beautiful, powerful highly-evolved Soul.

And you’re no longer going to allow anyone or anything convince you otherwise.

Vidya Frazier
 

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Saturday, October 28, 2023

10 Things Manipulators Say to Make You Feel Guilty

10 Things Manipulators Say to Make You Feel Guilty

By Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

learning-mind.com

Posted on October 28, 2023
 
 
 
 
The things manipulators say dig deeply into your emotions. These statements cause you to doubt yourself and place more importance than you should on their words.
 
Manipulators are masters of deceit. It’s difficult to notice what they’re doing sometimes, as they’ve wrapped their cape of lies around you. You’re enmeshed, drawn into another reality, and begun to fall victim to their expert gaslighting maneuvers.
 
Now, you feel guilty, and you don’t know why.
 
So, what are the things manipulators say?
 
Manipulators say many things but rarely have healthy conversations with you. According to them, they are superior, victimized, and neglected all at the same time. And when they want something, they will stop at nothing to get it.
 
We can find manipulators in many personality types, so just calling them narcissists wouldn’t quite fit. But to the point, here are a few things manipulators will say to make you feel guilty. Pay close attention to these types of phrases so they cannot take advantage of you.
 
1. “I never said that.”
 
Manipulators use expert control techniques. One of those techniques is gaslighting. This behavior is a little difficult to explain, as it takes many forms and includes factors.
 
But basically, manipulators use gaslighting to make you second-guess things you’ve said or done. When they say things like, “I never said that”, they probably did. If the statement goes against their agenda, they will deny it.
 
2. “It was your idea, not mine.”
 
People who will easily manipulate you will never take responsibility for a bad idea or failure. It’s just not something they do. You see, the whole idea is to manipulate anything and anyone with the goal of always winning.
 
So, if they happen to make a plan to do something, and it turns out to be terrible, they will not take ownership of the idea. And it doesn’t have to be a big plan either, because it makes no difference.
 
3. “You’re lying.”
 
We all tell little white lies sometimes; you know those convenient fibs. But most of us want to be honest. You may strive to be as genuine as possible and even feel guilty when you’re not. The manipulator knows this too.
 
They know that you will get defensive if you’re called a liar. And when you are defensive, you are vulnerable. And from there, the manipulator can make you do just about anything out of guilt.
 
4. “You’re way too sensitive.”
 
The things manipulators say not only make you feel guilty, but they truly hurt. Saying that you’re too sensitive about a certain topic is saying that everyone should have the same sensitivities. They pick and choose which feelings you should or should not display, sometimes calling it drama.
 
But there is a difference between starting a real dramatic scene and having sensitivities. The manipulator knows this, but they use statements like this to, again, put you in a vulnerable place of guilt.
 
5. “You caused this.”
 
Talking about guilt, the manipulator couldn’t be more obvious when they blame you. Those who often use manipulation will do physically and mentally hurtful things, then turn around and say that you instigated the incident.
 
Yes, there is a cause and effect, but ultimately, you are responsible for your own actions, regardless. So, do not fool yourself by listening to what they say. Don’t let them guilt trip you. They thrive on watching you fall.
 
6. “Do you really want to hurt me?”
 
Did you read that in the pop singer Boy George’s voice? Well, maybe not all of you know who that is, or maybe you’re too young. Honestly, I’m not sure what Boy George meant by his lyrics, but in this case, these words are manipulative.
 
When a toxic person wants something from you and you say no, they will make it seem like your refusal hurts them. And refusals can hurt sometimes, as most of us usually want a “yes” answer. But in this case, the manipulator is causing guilt by playing the victim.
 
7. “I apologized. What else do you want?”
 
Okay, we can only say we’re sorry so many times and it becomes meaningless. However, manipulative people expect you to just take one apology with no effort to fix their mistakes.
 
Smart people see right through the flippant apologies. And when you start trying to communicate and understand why they did something hurtful, this is when they use the “I apologized already” excuse. Most of the time, manipulators just want to walk all over you and then hope you’ll forget about it.
 
8. “You’re causing a scene”
 
Here’s one of the other things manipulators say to make you feel guilty. They will instigate an argument in public, something so infuriating that you lash out. Sometimes they can make you so angry around people that you start shouting at them.
 
Listen, it’s true that people can be verbally abusive. But when someone is manipulating you to the point of making you lose your cool, you’re prone to strike out dramatically. There is a difference between verbal abuse and reaching a breaking point. I think you understand this.
 
9. “If you really loved me, you’d do it”
 
I absolutely hate this. This statement was used on me so many times that I cringe when I think about it. I was so naïve and usually just did what my toxic partner wanted, so he wouldn’t say this.
 
But here’s the truth: just because you care about someone doesn’t mean you must do everything that they ask of you. Sometimes it’s fine to say, “No” with no explanations. And it doesn’t mean you love them any less.
 
10. “You misunderstood what I said.”
 
Here’s another one to get the blood boiling. Have you ever listened to something ludicrous coming out of a friend’s mouth and then you got angry? Well, if that happened and your friend was a manipulative person, they probably backpedaled (said that you misunderstood what they were saying).
 
Manipulative humans will always keep the word “misunderstood” in their back pocket when they need to use it. Here’s what you should do: Call them out on what they said, and do not let them weasel out of it.
 
Why are the things manipulators say so frustrating?
 
It is so frustrating dealing with the things manipulators say because they take control of you. If you fail to be strong and hold tight to your self-worth, a manipulator will steal all your vitality and zest for life.
 
They have similar characteristics to an energy vampire. And you might say,
 
“Well, why not just stop dealing with them at all? Don’t talk to them. Ignore them.”
 
And that is an option. But it can be more complicated than that depending on the role the manipulator plays in a person’s life.
 
When manipulative people start playing their games, it’s distracting. It’s damaging, tiresome, and takes so much focus away from the important things in life.
 
While you’re busy trying to sort out someone’s fake hurt feelings, you could be doing something more productive. And for those who just cannot get away from them, sometimes walking away temporarily helps you stay calm. Just keep that in mind.
 
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Sherrie Hurd

 

 
About the author:
 

Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

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