Feel Your Pain

Feel Your Pain

Tunia via channel A. S.

Posted on February 15, 2025

 

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Tunia speaking. I love you so very much.

This channeler is in a long-distance relationship with a Pleiadian woman. They haven’t physically met yet, but they talk a lot and they’re both skilled enough at energy work that their energy bodies can interact with each other just fine. Almost every night this channeler goes to sleep cuddled up with the energy body of that Pleiadian woman.

The reason I’m sharing this is to illustrate that this particular Pleiadian woman is looking through this channeler’s eyes a lot, and is looking through his memories a lot (all with permission). And she’s not just surface-level looking at the facts, but she’s really feeling into everything, because she wants to understand the channeler and life on Earth as best as she can.

And this particular Pleiadian woman also cries about once every week or once every two weeks as she sees the darkness and loneliness on Earth, and as she feels into the pain that this channeler has experienced in the past.

And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this Pleiadian woman. While not all Pleiadians cry when looking at life on Earth, her crying every now and then is still a completely natural and frankly appropriate reaction.

This Pleiadian woman isn’t being traumatized. There’s a spiritual principle that says “be as a child” and indeed she somewhat regularly has a short period of crying when looking at Earth, and then completely gets that out of her system and she suffers from no ill long-term effects. You know, as a child does. And this isn’t bad at all — what children do is often healthy and natural. Meanwhile the shape that Earth adults have been molded into often isn’t psychologically healthy.

Her crying initially made this channeler highly uncomfortable, but he’s since learned that there’s nothing wrong with crying, and that there’s nothing wrong with her, and that her crying doesn’t mean that he failed or did something wrong or that he needs to go fix some problem. In fact, all is as it should be.

As she said: “even if I’m crying, I’m fine. Just because I’m experiencing the emotion of sadness in the moment, doesn’t mean I’m not fine.”

After all, you don’t ask “what’s wrong” if someone went to the bathroom in an ordinary way, right? It’s understood that going to the toilet is just a thing that keeps you healthy. There’s nothing wrong with going to the toilet, in fact not doing so is weird and unhealthy. Similarly, there’s no need to ask “what’s wrong” if someone is crying. There’s nothing wrong with them, they’re just relieving themselves by crying and keeping themselves healthy in the process.

In fact, sometimes she cries about something, and that causes him as well to deeply feel his pain. And he heals and opens up a bit more because of that.

So, if even someone who isn’t living on Earth but is merely observing life on Earth feels the urge to cry pretty frequently about the situation that’s going on — well, then I imagine that most people on Earth are in deep pain themselves. Which, again, is entirely understandable given the state of Earth.

Obviously people and people’s circumstances are different. Yet I believe that most people on Earth simply aren’t feeling their pain and are suppressing it, at least some of the time. Including most spiritual people.

And I think this leads to people being blocked emotionally or spiritually, it leads to people feeling despair, it contributes to physical and mental unwellness, it leads to people engaging in addictions and distractions and it leads to people harshly judging others and demanding that the external world be fixed so that they can finally feel happy.

So… if you do feel despair. If you do feel the urge to engage in addictions or eat unhealthy foods or distract yourself. If you do feel the urge to not just disagree but in fact to harshly judge other people and point the finger outward and demand that other people fix the world for you… then quite possibly there’s pain in you that you are not feeling.

Every time you feel the urge to point the finger outwards, look inwards instead.

Every time you feel so-called negative emotions, look inwards. Fully observe what’s going on inside you, because those negative emotions will pass quite quickly once they have been fully observed and accepted and acknowledged.

If you feel your pain, it doesn’t turn into suffering.

And I get it. There’s so much darkness and pain on your world that subconsciously it might feel easier to just suppress it at least part of the time and get on with your life.

Yet, suppressing your pain is profoundly unhealthy in the long term.

So, feel your pain. You don’t need any special technique for that. Just observe what arises in the moment, and if it’s pain that arises, then allow it in and accept it and feel it. And if you feel the urge to cry or to go move your body or something, do that if you’re in a situation where that’s possible.

And if something in you arises that may be a secondary desire or a secondary urge, try to feel what’s below that. So for example, a desire for more luxury objects can mask a desire to be seen and loved and appreciated.

And while it’s not strictly necessary, get emotional support if you can. This can look like having a dog or a cat. It can look like journalling. Or it can look like having one or a few people with whom you share your emotions, including the so-called negative ones.

Asking for a hug can help. Recently this channeler asked for an energetic hug from his Pleiadian girlfriend, and she said “thank you for taking care of yourself. You asking for a hug when you were upset like that was the healthiest thing you could do.” So asking for a hug isn’t weak; it’s healthy.

And try to make your contact with other people as emotionally safe as possible. This doesn’t mean that you never disagree with each other. But it does mean that, for example, if someone is in pain or cries or shares insecurity, that you simply listen and love them, without immediately trying to fix them or fix their problems or suggest solutions.

It means that if someone is venting, that you don’t lecture them that they’re being irrational; they probably know, they’re just working through their emotions. It is because they’re venting now that they’re able to be more rational later on.

Being emotionally safe means only very rarely giving unsolicited advice, and only after you fully understand them (which requires much more listening to them than most people do). Probably you don’t want to get unsolicited advice yourself from someone who doesn’t fully understand you; well most people feel the same way.

People have this idea in their mind that most people are fine, and the people who aren’t fine are the ones who are crying or are experiencing emotional pain.

But in fact, almost no one on Earth is completely fine. Most people on Earth suppress their pain, and the people who do cry or talk about their pain are the people who are most effectively taking care of themselves.

After all, a person who genuinely is completely fine and isn’t in any pain whatsoever and who doesn’t have any old unresolved pain is a person who radiates love and who has significant psychic abilities unlocked. Sure, there are a couple of people like that on Earth, such as accomplished spiritual masters, but it’s a small minority. The average spiritual person isn’t like that yet.

Most people aren’t fine, and they’re just unhealthily suppressing their pain. The people who are crying or working through their pain are at least engaging with it in a healthy way and are taking good care of themselves.

That said, I do acknowledge that some people have serious practical problems, such as financial problems, and for them making sure they can pay rent is a higher priority than feeling their pain. That is true, and I very much empathize.

You’re in my thoughts every day. You will be free. And I love you deeply and endlessly.

Your star sister,

Tunia

For Era of Light

 

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Connection

Connection

Tunia via channel A. S.

Posted on April 16, 2023

My dearest brothers and sisters,

This is Tunia speaking. I love you so very much.

Times are still challenging for many people on your world. I empathize very much with your plight. However, things should slowly start improving relatively soon, although there might be a few scary events before that.

Today I would like to talk about connection. Having a connection with someone else means that you feel seen and understood by them. They feel emotionally safe. Having a connection can also mean that you can do fun activities with them, or that you can ask them for a conversation or a hug or for help if you are in distress.

Feeling connected to other people is absolutely critical for many people. Many people are not able to be fully psychologically healthy without it. In fact, humans are meant to be in constant telepathic and mind-reading contact with each other. We understand that most of you aren’t able to do that yet, but this does illustrate that close connection is important.

In previous generations, a child’s grandparents might be living in the same house as them. Often children would have a community around them, not of an anonymous billion people, but of a relatively small number of people who they can get to know. Children also more often had both parents. One reason why so many people feel lost nowadays is that they often grew up with less connection in their life than their grandparents did.

We expect and hope that in the future, human living will be more community-focused again, and will have fewer people living in a million-people city where no one really knows anyone else. Some people are already designing a new, more community-focused way of structuring society. Michael Tellinger’s One Small Town initiative is one such example.

There are a lot of people out there who are starved for connection. If you feel called, you can help a lot of people if you can work to address that. For example, you can create events where people can get to know each other in an emotionally safe way and perhaps do a fun activity together, or just discuss a certain topic. You could also become a professional cuddler — yes, that is a job that exists.

Many people try to fill the void left by a lack of connection, either through social media or through following internet personalities or by having a lot of casual sex). But those things are like eating junkfood when you have a nutrient deficiency.

Now I love casual sex, but I have sex because I love sex. I don’t use casual sex to meet my need for connection. If I want connection, then I spend more time with family or friends. Or if I want to connect with myself, I spend time feeling my emotions. If I was an Earth human woman and wanted to connect to myself, I also might spend time journalling.

It is also important to be in connection with yourself. If parts of you really don’t want you to do something, then if at all possible, please don’t bulldoze those parts. Listen to them, because they’re you and no one else is going to stand up for them.

Another good practice is occasionally just saying or thinking: “my belly, how are you doing?” Whichever answer immediately arises is the answer from your belly. You can do the same with your heart, with your throat, with your penis or vagina, with your crown chakra, with your inner child or children et cetera. This helps you connect with yourself. That is important — most people are in fact not connected to themselves.

Many people are disconnected from their own inner pain and trauma, and from their own wounded parts. If people are not ready or unwilling to start their healing and integration process, they can sometimes be hostile to or cold towards or angry towards people who subconsciously remind them of their own inner pain. For example, if two people are in a relationship, and if one is actively working on resolving their childhood wounds, but the other person is at that time unwilling or unable to resolve their childhood wounds, then the second person will likely become cold or distant or hostile towards the person who is doing their inner work. This is because the second person experiences subconscious pain or fear, because the first person is bringing up those painful or scary topics. Likely this second person will at some point break up with the first person, and the stated reason will be something completely different from the actual reason, namely that the work that the other person is doing is reminding them of their own pain.

Most people will give lip service to the idea that healing your emotional wounds is valuable, but most people are not willing to actually do that, unless it can be done in say half an hour. Well, most emotional wounds cannot be fully healed in half an hour.

Let’s discuss another kind of disconnection. Most people are also disconnected from whatever political group they dislike. How does that work? Well, they often don’t feel that this group understands them (which is usually true). But they also often don’t actually understand this disliked political group, contrary to what they might think. This is evidenced by the fact that most people are unable to argue for the point of view of their disliked political group, in such a way that people of the disliked political group would agree with.

One way that helps me feel compassion and understanding for other people, even people who I think are wrong and are behaving in a way that is harmful to others, is to realize that these people are often in a lot of psychological pain. This is a safe bet, because most people on Earth are in a lot of psychological pain — so much, in fact, that most are suppressing it. But well, how can you judge or feel resentment against someone who is in a lot of psychological pain? They need love and healing, not people telling them they are wrong.

That said, your own political side probably also is in a lot of psychological pain and could use love and healing. Frankly, if we look at US politics, then neither side is very spiritually advanced. Spiritually advanced people are so few that they are not a big, commonly known mainstream movement.

Most men nowadays also feel disconnected from most women, and this is entirely understandable. Most women have no idea what life is like for an average man (when they picture a man’s life, what they usually picture is the life of an unusually privileged, handsome, rich or successful man; or they picture the life of a man who lives immorally). Not all, but a whole lot of women out there also aren’t willing to lift a finger to help an unknown average man, while they are expecting unknown men to help them and to change their behavior in ways that benefit women overall.

One of the things that still needs to be resolved before Earth humans can enter their love-based society is that women should resolve their pain, anger, fear, hatred, trauma and resistance towards men and masculinity.

And sure, men shouldn’t assault women or be tyrannical, I agree, but well, any reasonable person already accepts those statements as being true. The vast majority of men don’t do those things. And it’s not fair to be hostile towards someone just because they happen to have been born with a penis. There’s even systemic discrimination against men, such as in family court, or in fact in courts in general, or because more women go to university and yet there are still more women-only scholarships than men-only scholarships. There are also plenty of places nowadays that will hire women over men, which is simply discrimination and sexism against men. This is not equality — note that even though less men attend university than women, no one is trying to introduce male quotas or male-only scholarships at university. In 2023 we still have sexism and systemic discrimination, we’re just doing it in the other direction. Which isn’t fair, and which will not lead to healing or justice or to a love-based society.

The road of: “let’s not lift a finger to help men, until there is no man anymore who behaves poorly” doesn’t lead to a happy place. Believe me.

Women quotas should be abolished. If that means that fewer women than men reach top positions, so be it. In fact, an equal and fair society will have more men than women at top positions, because men are just inherently far more likely to dedicate their entire life to their job or to their chosen field. This is true both in your society as well as in ours. Meanwhile women are inherently far more likely to choose to lead more balanced lives, spending more time socializing with others, spending more time exploring different hobbies, spending more time with their children, et cetera. Frankly I think women are making the wiser choice here, but yes, someone who spends their entire life focused on one job will likely be better at that job than someone who chooses a more balanced life. Which means that if you choose people based on competence, then yes, the very top positions will have more men than women. This is how it should be, because men and women simply have a slightly different psychology. It’s not that men and women are the same, only one has a penis and the other has a vagina. Men and women genuinely are different, including psychologically. And no, this isn’t just cultural differences.

I’ll use Hakann as an example here because he has become a personal friend, and hence I know his situation. Hakann is a commander, not because some sexist man at the top chose him over an equally qualified woman. It’s because he simply works harder than just about anything else. Even during non-crisis times he voluntarily works about 40 hours during every Earth day, which he can do because he’s able to be in multiple places at once. If he worked any harder than he currently does, I and a couple of other people would literally hold an intervention and ask him to slow down. There is simply no Pleiadian woman in the military field who has been willing to work 40 hours every day for as long as Hakann has. And partly because of this, there is no Pleiadian woman who could do Hakann’s job better than he can. So yes, I am happy that Hakann is in charge of some portion of our military, and I am not bothered by the fact that there are more men than women in high positions in our military. In fact, I very much benefit from the fact that a bunch of our men are willing to work unbelievably hard in their chosen field. Whenever I meet someone in a high position, I often thank him or her for their service and hard work, because I know that they are working very hard and very competently for the benefit of everyone in our society. If they weren’t, they wouldn’t be in a high position in the first place.

Now I get that not everyone on your world reaches high positions due to merit and hard work. However, the solution to this situation is to try to be as fair as possible. That means: just hire the most qualified and hard-working person, whether that is a man or woman. If that means more men reach high positions, so be it.

Unfortunately, back on Earth, any man who says that society should treat men better is immediately deplatformed. Therefore men can’t really say that. It will have to be women that speak out against society’s, and women’s, coldness and indifference towards average men and their issues and their suffering. Women of course have the right to refuse to do this, but if they do, it will be very hard or impossible to build this new love-based society. Because how can you have a love-based society if one half of the population is fine with systemic discrimination against the other half?

It’s also not nearly as true that men are cold towards women, or aren’t connected to women and their needs. Men are perfectly aware that women feel that they are assaulted too often, that they feel that they are discriminated against in the workplace and in particular in high positions, that they feel that society and often husbands unfairly expects them to work and also care for the kids and do too much of the work at home, that they don’t feel supported enough, that they feel that house prices and study costs and healthcare costs are too high, that women feel that there are few good men available and that women worry about certain social and global issues and about certain political leaders and about perceived unfairness or perceived radical or unsafe people. Of course these are generalizations, but men pretty much know what issues most women feel they have, and lots of men are trying to do their part to help with this. Yes, some men aren’t doing their part, but you can’t punish all men for the actions of a few men..

Conversely, the average woman doesn’t have an accurate idea of what the average man wants. In fact, the average man barely knows how he would like society to change to benefit men, because average men know that no one cares about their opinion and hence they often haven’t even considered how they would like society to change to help them out.

If you want to build a new love-based society, then it will be necessary for women to start caring about what average men want and need, and to spend some energy actually helping out average men and not just giving lip service to that idea, just as women expect men to spend some energy to help out women. It will indirectly help not just men but also women a lot if women re-establish their connection with average men in general, and not just with only a handful of individual men. It’s not healthy for women to walk around with the idea that most men are thrash, except for a few specific individuals.

That said, there’s good news here too. The good news is: the vast majority of men just want to work together with women to build a society that’s good for everyone. The vast majority of men aren’t looking to dominate women, or to get revenge at them, or to fight them, or anything like that. Yes, some men do want to keep women down, but that’s not even close to the majority.

The majority of men think that women are great, as they already are, and they don’t think women are incomplete or insufficient or not good enough or like they need to change. A lot of Earth women don’t actually feel good enough, deep down. My beautiful sisters, I so wish that you could see yourself through the eyes of an average Earth man. You would see that you are good enough, as you are. You are so much more beautiful and courageous and radiant than you may realize. You don’t need to accomplish anything in the outside world to become good enough or to become worthy of love. You already are those things.

So, my wish for today is that you may find connection with other people, that you may find connection with yourself, and that you may heal the things that lead to disconnection between you and certain groups of other people. Realizing that other people are suffering can be a good key to letting go of judgement and disconnection, and to love them instead. Because even if a person is lost and confused, doesn’t a person who is in pain deserve love?

With love,

Channel: A.S.

For Era of Light

Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AqLWCltjz1k

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