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Thursday, January 9, 2025

What Do You Mean by Ownership?

What Do You Mean by Ownership?

By Sanhia

Channel Michael Hersey

Posted on January 9, 2025



Participant: You have used the term ownership a few times. Can you explain what you mean by that?

There is a quote attributed to Jesus in the New Testament in which he states that it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of heaven. In another situation Jesus is asked by a rich young man what he would have to do to become a follower. He was told to give all of his money to the poor. The young man chose to remain at home. Another significant Jesus quote relative to ownership is where he said that the kingdom of God is within you. Ownership, though, is not limited to money. This should not be interpreted to mean that you must give up all money and live in poverty in order to realize your Divine awakened nature. Ownership is a state of mind. When you say that something is yours you are expressing ownership. This would include your ideas, story, partner, children, friends, health, and career…. We could go on and on. When a possessive pronoun is placed before a noun, ownership is implied. Ownership keeps you stuck in the illusion for a couple of reasons. First of all, none of the things you possess are real. There is no story or career. There is no past or future, no partner, and no money. I guess some of you would readily agree with the last two. (Laughter) These things are all a part of the illusion, of the movie. They have no true existence. Of even greater importance is that the being you call you also has no existence. That is what you consider your greatest possession. To be awakened is to have no sense of self. There is no identification with the body/mind construct, that is – no sense of self, but simply the noticing of the body as you might observe the sky or a building or anything in the manifested world.

Participant: Is ownership the same as control? Is letting go of ownership like letting go of control?

Of course. There is nothing. There is nothing to control. If there is nothing there, how can anything be controlled? So, …. We could stop right here. This is really the message…… but let’s talk about it some more. I encourage you to be aware of where you hold ownership. We have used terms like the Divine or Holy Relationship, the Divine Presence, or the Divine Now. None of these involve any ownership whatsoever. You cannot possess anybody or anything. You can neither control them nor change them. What is there is simply noticed, accepted, and loved. Without ownership there are no loves and hates.

Participant: (laughter) Wow!

This isn’t to say that there might not be the noticing of preferring to or not preferring to be with, say, a certain person. That won’t change; there simply will be nobody there to have those likes and dislikes. There is no ownership of the reaction. This is an impossible concept for the ego mind to wrap itself around. But then, all of being awakened is like that. Without ownership there is no ego mind. It is the ego mind that believes it has things and needs them in order to get where it believes it needs to go, but there is nowhere you need to go. You are where you want to be, though there is no you there. When you hold on to things, your focus is on them and therefore on you, the holder, the human entity who feels separate from the Divine. This does not mean that you do without all these things. There are still going to be homes, vehicles, money, jobs, friends, enemies, partners, children, and relatives, but they will not be owned. They will simply be in your movie.

Participant: So, there are no likes or dislikes for the awakened me?

We have talked about this with emotions. Rather than saying, for example, that you are depressed, you notice that depression seems to be present. The former expresses ownership of a feeling. There is no definition of self as depressed. Again, ownership is not restricted to objects or people. It includes thoughts, feelings, and health. Anything tacked on to the end of the thought or statement “I am” shows ownership. I am happy. I am poor. I am sick. Awareness simply notices the apparent presence of happiness, poverty, or sickness. The ego mind might argue that it can’t see any difference, but you will find that noticing without ownership allows a totally different life experience. There is nobody there in the awakened state to own anything. Therefore, it is as impossible to lose anything as it is to hold on to it.

Participant: Doesn’t saying “I am” still imply that you exist?

That’s a sharp question. Who is? Is there ownership of being? We would suggest that you first practice dropping the words that follow “I am”. When that becomes your default thought in all situations, we’ll have further discussion about your question. There is beingness and it cannot be possessed. It simply is. It is what is aware of the created, the phenomenal world.

Participant: Is surrender to the Divine what you are talking about here. I have been trying to surrender control of my health to Spirit. Are you saying that this is a giving up of the ownership of my body? 

Yes. We can look at it in this way. You have been letting go of control of your personal will and asking to be able to surrender to God’s Will. What is being suggested here is not just letting go of the personal will but letting go of the person. There is nobody there to have a personal will. You can have that awareness. It’s not simply noticing that you have a personal desire which is separate from God’s Will, but that you are believing in a person existing that could have such a will. There is no you who could want something; there is no you who could lack anything. There is no you. There is only Divinity observing the situation. The ultimate step in giving up ownership – beyond letting go of people, things, thoughts, and feelings – is this letting go of ownership of self. There is no person here.

Participant: I think that is very hard to understand that there is no person here. What is it then? 

A movie. A hologram. A creation of the Divine Mind.

Participant: Yeah? That is difficult to understand, to grasp in some way what this Divine Mind is.

The Divine Mind has not only created this body you are pretending is a real person with a separate identity, but has created the whole movie, the whole thing …… the whole universe, everyone who seems to be in it, and every aspect of it including the “laws” by which it seems to function. That’s what Divine Mind has created; what you think of as you is not separate from any other part of the physical manifestation, whether animate or inanimate. The perfection of the Divine You has created this and is watching it, but it is not the personal you which pictures self as the creation and not the Creator. This brings on the feelings of separation and all the pain and suffering that goes with it. When the ego self believes it can own anything it is giving both self and the objects a reality they don’t have.

Participant: I can feel how a partner and projections upon him is so connected with ownership. It is another word for the same thing. Just saying “my partner” is expressing ownership. 

You’ve got it! The thought “my partner” implies ownership. Who is owning? The owner is the one you think of as your self, who feels separate from the rest of the universe and certainly from “her” partner. Ownership requires a separation of the owner and the thing owned. With Oneness there is no separation. The saying, “I am you and you are me” expresses no separation. No separate self exists. There is just the One, created by your Divine Self which is watching the movie it created.

Participant: This is scary.

What is scary about it?

Participant: It is like letting go of the only branch connecting to this world of confusion and going into freefall. 

So, who is holding on to this branch?

Participant: It’s this little me, a creature who is so terrified of God.

The Observer is simply observing. It doesn’t have the terror possessed by the little one being observed. The observer is not the person. It is simply watching. When you see only from this Watcher, there is no terror.

Participant: I can feel that this is what you mean when you suggest to fully let go and let God.

Now, as we never grow tired of saying, but you can’t get there from here. (much laughing)

Participant: Now it is a real riddle here. (continued laughing)

The ones who think they exist and possess things and need to possess things in order to survive and protect themselves are not able to choose to let go of that because there is nobody there to choose to let go. The ego mind cannot choose. The best that you can do is to be aware that there are beliefs in ownership and not act from that and to allow the emotions that are triggered to be there until they aren’t. You may find yourself attached to less and less.

Participant: Nothing left to lose.

Yes, without attachment or ownership, when something goes out of the picture there is no sense of loss. The picture is still there. It keeps on running.

Participant: But it really helps when I feel like I have nothing left to lose.

When you say, “I have nothing left to lose”, you still have “I” to lose. And it may come down to that for some. They lose everything until they finally lose themselves.

Participant: It’s a little bit tempting.

You can also do it a piece at a time. you notice that there seems to be ownership present. Whatever it is. Whenever the possessive pronoun enters the mind, you notice that there seems to be ownership here.

Participant: There is a fear here that if I go against the mass consciousness in this way I might be seen as crazy. For me, to be perceived as crazy is the worst thing that could happen. 

At the same time, you recognize that the mass consciousness is crazy. The mass consciousness believes the world is the cause and you are at effect. The mass consciousness believes that it needs to choose and choose well. It believes that you are responsible.

Participant: But what happens if I am ostracized?

The awakened individual is by definition ostracized. It no longer belongs, even though it appears to be fully participating. It is not connected to a body and to the world as others are.

Participant: Can you still use the language of the ego when talking with others, though you have fully let it go inside of you? Otherwise, you run naked in the world.

When you are out and involved with the world, you can play any role. You have no identity as a person, but you certainly have a personality. There is nothing you need to do or be; you simply react in the moment. In fact, there is no you. There are no goals such as presenting an enlightened face to the world, – whatever that might be – healing or awakening others. There is no purpose. There is just life. There is awareness. There is the movie, but there is no “you” in it. The form will still be out there carrying on, having all the experiences you have now, but with no sense of ownership of any part of it. There is no you to own it.

Participant: Sanhia, it is amazing to see that when You are speaking with people You meet them exactly where they are. The language is exactly what that moment calls for, exactly what that person needs to hear. Is that what you are talking about here? Is this “being in the world but not of it”?

All that language does is to point. One looks at what is being pointed to and may find it interesting and wonder what to do with it. There is nothing magical about the words that come through Michael. They are just what is there and are simply shared. Everything that happens can only be perfect. The language is not there to teach what the truth is. The awakened you does not need to walk around telling everybody what the reality is. Then they might lock you up. (laughter) Jesus warns not to cast your pearls before swine – and of course we are not calling the unawakened pigs – but there is no reason to cast them unless that is the guidance in the Now. You might take it as a sign that another is ready to hear something if they come and ask for help. It’s not just a question of intuiting what should be said, but it is responding to questions with what comes to the consciousness in the moment. I am not approaching random people on the street and saying, “give your money to the poor and follow me”, or “divorce the bitch or bastard, quit your job, and follow me.” (much laughter). We are not saying that. All that I do when somebody comes up and asks for directions is to scratch my chin and say (points) “I think you go this way”. Maybe they are more lost after talking to Me than before, but that’s not My problem. (laughter) My job is simply to point.

Participant: I like this pointer I have received from you now, but I am aware there is a fear to be noticing, but there is also a big yes.

When there is ownership there is something to take care of, something to protect and defend and to be afraid of losing. Without ownership, as you pointed out before, there is nothing to lose. There is nothing you have to do, no responsibility. This is a great and tremendous freedom. It points to awakening. You cannot choose to awaken, but you can notice when ownership is present, recalling that possessions just lead to pain and suffering.  So, you don’t follow that train, don’t act on those thoughts. If a thought comes to mind about “your” partner, you recognize that you think you own your partner. What a responsibility that is. Now you have to make that person be who you want them to be. If you notice that there is no control possible, then there is nothing for you to do. Perhaps ultimately it will be noticed that there is no you to even try to be the controller. If there is no you to be hurt or abandoned or upset, there is nothing but freedom. It doesn’t matter what you or others do. Whatever is done is simply done.

Participant: It’s like if the relationship is with the Divine, then it’s just “Let go and let God”.

Yes. Unless your relationship with God or Spirit or the Divine is, “Bring me my perfect relationship. Bring me money. (laughter) If you are trying to control God, then it is your God, it’s your Jesus, and then what happens? ….. You end up pissed. You asked for specific help and adequate delivery was not forthcoming. (laughter). This possession becomes total: your religion, your beliefs, your reality – as if it could possibly make a difference to the truth of the universe what crazy beliefs your ego mind might have. Reality is what it is, not what you think it should be. You cannot see reality before you if you are blinded by your reality.

Participant: I can feel this enormous relief and at the same time I can notice how much fear I have.

Yes. Good! Fear seems to present, but it is not owned. Take a step back and notice the fear. Notice who is noticing the fear.

Good Now
Sanhia/Spirit

Michael Hersey

Sunday, February 11, 2024

Own It!

The Creator Writings

Channel: Jennifer Farley




Posted on February 11, 2024


Take a few moments and look at where you were ten years ago. What were you like, who were your friends/partners/colleagues, where were you on your path? Now, take another moment and take a very deep look at where you are today. Can you see the difference?

As you move forward in this current energy, The Universe has noticed exactly how much work you have put into personal growth, you have done something amazing with your existence and it is possible to keep growing in a positive way! It may not be the smoothest or most direct path but, it is yours… own it and be proud of what you have accomplished!

The Creator
 
 

Saturday, August 12, 2023

7 Phrases Jealous People Use (That Seem Innocent but Are Not)

 7 Phrases Jealous People Use (That Seem Innocent but Are Not)

By Sherrie Hurd, A.A.

learning-mind.com

Posted on August 12, 2023





We’d like to think that people tell the truth about how they feel. But unfortunately, this is not always true. Jealous people commonly say things they do not mean.

There are noticeable envious traits in the people around us, including family, friends, and partners. And all of us have been jealous about something in our lives and acted in ways we now regret.

Feeling jealous and being a jealous person are two different things. Jealous people use phrases with hidden meanings. This is much harder to decipher. And we must keep in mind that human emotions are complex, and jealousy is usually present long before we even notice.

Phrases jealous people commonly use

Jealousy is definitely a green-eyed monster, no offense to those with green eyes. It can destroy friendships, drive wedges between family members, and badly damage relationships.

And worst of all, the hidden meanings beneath the phrases used by jealous people can be deceptive, making us questions ourselves. Wearing a façade is never healthy. To help identify and confirm our suspicions, here are several phrases used by jealous people.

1. “You’re so lucky”

To some, I guess this sounds like a nice thing to say. But, you see, envious people use this phrase often when you’ve accomplished something substantial in your life.

You are proud of your work and dedication, but they’re not… not really. What the jealous person is really saying, when using this phrase, is that luck is the only way you attain these positive achievements. They’re not giving you any credit for your success.

2. “Oh, that’s too bad. I’m sorry you lost”

They are not sorry, so don’t be deceived. If you’ve lost something, whether it’s in a game or something much more valuable, they are secretly glad that you did.

When you lose, they do not feel so lonely in their failures; you see. Misery really does love company, and jealous people are usually quite miserable most of the time. If you watch closely, you might even catch them smiling about what they just said.

3. “That is such a nice shirt”

Do you believe they think your shirt is all that great? Well, some people actually mean what they say, and they’re just telling you the truth. Other people, those who wish they had one or more of your attributes, say things they do not mean.

They are jealous people who use phrases to cover their negative feelings about your gifts or possessions. This could be your physical beauty, your clothing, or your hair. It’s more noticeable when someone constantly compliments you.

This overkill means they’re trying hard not to be angry at you for simply having nice things.

4. “You know that new watch you bought last week? I just got one today!”

It was kind of difficult to phrase this in the right way, but let me clear it up for you. Jealous people will always try to compete with you. If you buy a new computer, soon afterward, they will purchase one too. The kicker is that they will make sure to buy a more expensive one.

It’s all about “one-upping” the person that intimidates them the most. I’m sure you’ve noticed this with a few people in your life.

5. “That’s a great idea! But what if it doesn’t work?”

Before you can even try something new, a jealous person is already planting seeds of doubt in your mind. They downplay your goals and use passive-aggressive terminology. They make you second-guess things you were previously sure about.

These statements are very convincing, so it looks like they’re concerned about your plans. In reality, they want you to forget about what you’re planning because they know it will probably be a success.

6. “I’m not sure about that color. It makes you look tired.”

Jealous people are overly critical, but they won’t make it obvious. They will talk to you about what you’re wearing or your weight while pretending to be a supportive friend. They will use reasoning as to why you haven’t made the right choices about yourself or your lifestyle.

Genuine people will be kind when offering constructive criticism, and they will also provide solutions. Real criticism and fake criticism are, unfortunately, sometimes hard to differentiate. You have to trust your gut on this one.

7. “I’m so proud you got that job, but remember, I told you about it”

You can never take full credit for your achievements when it comes to a jealous person. If you get a new job, or if you get married, either way, an envious person will insist they played a part in these good things.

Somehow, they introduced you to an important person, told you about a special event, or were the one to place you in a position of success. When you accomplish a goal or realize a dream, to the jealous person, it will be due to them. They are always responsible for the good things that happen to you… or so they want you to believe.

How to deal with jealous people


Some people will always be jealous, and some will go through phases, as many of us do. It’s worth understanding these differences. Living an insecure life is toxic, but going through a season of insecurity is a sign of struggle. And the way you deal with these two will be quite different.

If you think an individual is toxic, you guard yourself, draw boundaries, and fight to retain your self-worth. Sometimes, cutting ties is necessary, as with other chronic relationships.

If an individual is going through something that makes them act jealous, and you know it’s not in their character to behave this way, then patience is key.

But the bottom line is that you must make the final decision about how to deal with jealous people by using your discernment. Nobody knows what you ultimately must do but you.

Hope this helps and I wish you well.

Featured image by Freepik

Sherrie Hurd


About the author:
 

Staff writer at Learning Mind
Sherrie Hurd is a professional writer and artist with over 20 years of experience. As a survivor of childhood trauma and multiple types of abuse, she is an advocate for mental health awareness. Sherrie manages multiple mental illnesses, including anxiety disorder, bipolar disorder, and PTSD. With this background and personal experience, she strives to help others overcome trauma and abuse, cope with mental illness, and heal over time.

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