20 Affirmations for Healing Heartache and Loss

20 Affirmations for Healing Heartache and Loss

by Shannon Kaiser

Posted on April 12, 2023

As human beings, our systems are hardwired for connection, but loving others can sometimes come with loss. Whether you’re experiencing a breakup, a divorce, or the death of a loved one (even a pet), saying goodbye to those we care about can be a traumatic experience.

Without tools to navigate uncomfortable changes, heartache, in all its layered forms, can stop us from healing and finding hope again. The feelings of grief and loss that come with breakups, deaths, and huge life transitions can leave us feeling exposed, vulnerable, hopeless, and ultimately heartbroken.

While it may not always be easy, there is light on the other side of heartache. With a toolbox of healthy coping mechanisms, you can move forward with more ease.

Through any type of loss, finding balance and normalcy can feel far-fetched. When something shifts in your life, especially when the rest of life feels out of your control, your inner world is something you have full autonomy over. One of the best ways to move forward is to take your attention off the outside world and tend to your inner world: your emotions, feelings, desires, and needs.

These tools and self-care rituals will help you cope with grief.

Focus on “Me Matters” time

I often tell my life-coaching clients that after a loss, you should take as much time as you need just for you. I call it “Me Matters” time, where you focus on your own physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual needs. Figure out who you want to be in the next phase of your life and what the universe is asking you to let go of. In times of loss, we are releasing not only people and a life we used to live, but also our own sense of self as it relates to the one we have lost. Take time to be with yourself and nurture your own needs.

Move through grief and anger at your own pace

It’s important to be kind to yourself as you go through tough times. There is no expiration date on when you feel healed. In fact, losing someone is often so hard because we loved them so deeply. And the truth is, no matter how difficult the relationship or the ending may be, love stays with us forever. Love is never wrong, for you gave yourself permission to open up and expand into another connection. The depth of your pain is a testament to how much you loved and gave of yourself. Let yourself heal as time unfolds, but realize there is no need to rush, bypass, or jump over the loss and all the emotions that come with that.

Journal and write it out

Taking time to connect to our inner world each day and writing out how we feel can do wonders in all stages of the healing journey. You can share how you feel in a journal entry or do a free-writing session. Give yourself permission to write for 5–10 minutes (or longer if you feel empowered by the process) and let your mind flow into a stream of consciousness. There is no need to pause, look at spelling or grammar, or even consciously focus on what you are writing. This is a mindfulness activity to help you connect more deeply with the subconscious layers of your heart.

Build up your care team

If you’re really struggling, consider going to therapy or working with a life coach who specializes in grief or trauma. Sometimes these things are too much to deal with without the guidance and support of a professional. As a life coach, I always appreciate when clients tell me they are also in therapy because working through our grief and processing difficult emotions is an ongoing process that requires gentle support and compassionate care from a community of helpers. Building up a care team to be in your corner to assist you during this transition can help a lot. If it feels like it’s too hard to manage on your own, seeing a coach or therapist or attending a support group could definitely be helpful.

Surround yourself with supportive people

The feelings of confusion, overwhelm, sadness, or even dread can take us down daily, but grief in itself can be a sacred human experience, especially when you find a community of people who can also support you.

Our ancestors accepted grief as a normal part of life. They knew that unprocessed grief hurts the mind, the body, and the soul. When a loss happened to one member of the tribe, the entire tribe processed and grieved—together. When grief is fully processed and integrated, it transforms into life force to help revitalize and rejuvenate our connection to ourselves, one another, and our communities. Consider joining a support group in-person or online; getting involved in the community and surrounding yourself with like-minded people can help the healing process.

Use affirmations and speak kindly to yourself

Research has shown that positive affirmations help people cope with difficult emotions, including suicidal thoughts. Affirmations involve repeating a self-selected phrase or series of phrases to help retrain the brain and body to focus on feeling better.

Affirmations work primarily at the conscious level, whereas many of our conflicts about our sense of self in the world following the loss of a loved one are within our subconscious or unconscious mind. This is why it is important to pair affirmations with reflective action.

20 Affirmations for Grief and Difficult Loss

1. I am doing the best I can, and for today it is enough.

2. I am hurting, and it is okay.

3. I breathe in peace and acceptance.

4. I am willing to focus on healing and forgiving myself.

5. I am stronger than I give myself credit for.

6. I am healing and allowing things to be as they are instead of what I think they should be.

7. I surrender to what is and let go of what was.

8. What is meant for me will find me, always.

9. Love stays in my heart forever.

10. I am wiser for what I have been through.

11. I am not helpless; I choose to heal.

12. I allow myself to feel what needs to be expressed.

13. I trust the unknown; God has got this.

14. One small step at a time, my peace will be restored.

15. I embrace all layers of the human experience; the depths of my emotions show that I care.

16. I am thankful for what I had and for what I still have.

17. My pain will turn into gain.

18. I accept the things I cannot change.

19. I am not alone; I am surrounded by love.

20. All I need is right here within me.

While it’s not easy to take time out or create space to focus on grief, recognize that it is a process and it calls for ritual and healing ceremony. When we honor the space between our before and after and witness our grief, we become stronger and, soon, more hopeful and healthy.

**By Shannon Kaiser

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This Will Catapult you into the 5th Dimension

This Will Catapult you into the 5th Dimension

The 9D Arcturian Council
Channeled by Daniel Scranton

Tradução a 7 de fevereiro de 2023

Greetings. We are the Arcturian Council. We are pleased to connect with all of you.

We have been watching and waiting for the perfect timing to give you this transmission of energy, and now is that time. You are ready to receive so much more because of the wonderful work you have been doing there on yourselves, and you who are awake know exactly what we mean by ‘work.’ You did not sign up for the easy path because you wanted to experience exponential growth. Therefore, all of you who are spiritual masters decided that you would shroud that truth from yourselves, especially early on in your lives. You chose heartache and heartbreak, and you chose trauma and disappointment and all kinds of things that you knew would catapult you into being awake. 

You wanted to take this part of your journey consciously, and you knew that you needed something to awaken you, to get you to go on a different path than others who would be more interested in the physical trappings of planet Earth. And there’s plenty there that you could be focusing on instead of your spirituality. Perhaps some of you even went down that path initially when you found out that you create your reality with your thoughts, your words, your emotions, and more importantly, your vibration. But everything will eventually lead to you facing all of the challenges head on, because you know those challenges help you to grow. 

Now, getting back to the timing of this transmission. There are energies being presented to Mother Earth in every corner, in every nook and cranny, that will be giving those who connect to her everything that you need. Mother Earth, like your sun, can give you activations, can heal you, can provide for you upgrades, attunements, downloads. They are all available to you all the time, but at certain times, like right now, Earth herself is getting more to balance and align her energy systems, her grids, her poles, her electromagnetic field. There is so much for you to tap into that is right beneath your feet at this time that will assist you, empower you and give you everything that you need to move forward into this next phase of your ascension, this next phase of your evolution.

You are ready to take life on planet Earth further than it is has ever been before, because this is the time of ascension there on Earth, and you are ready as the ground crew, to receive more not only from above, but also from below. And when you mix those energies together within you, that’s when you understand why you incarnated on Earth at this time. You are there to be those who can access energies from both the sky the ground, the physical and the nonphysical, the masculine and the feminine. And you are there to integrate and harmonize those energies within yourselves to know yourselves more completely and fully as you truly are. 

Now is the time for these energies, and now is the time for those of you who are awake and aware to truly benefit from all that is being given to you and to Mother Earth from those of us who care, from those of us who are watching and waiting and calibrating energies that will catapult you into the fifth dimension.

We are the Arcturian Council, and we have enjoyed connecting with you.

Daniel Scranton 

https://danielscranton.com/