Showing posts with label Joe Martino. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Joe Martino. Show all posts

Thursday, January 30, 2025

The Fastest Way To Calm Down

The Fastest Way To Calm Down

By Joe Martino

Posted on January 29, 2025



You know that feeling when stress creeps up, and suddenly you feel a bit anxious, fidgety, on alert, your heart rate speeding up, and your breath shallow?

It can be hard to focus and be comfortable in this space. That’s the autonomic nervous system kicking into gear, prepping you for fight or flight.

This is typically brought on by stress, deadlines, too much work, traffic, non-grounded news, a tense conversation etc.

Your nervous system is there to help keep you safe. But, the life we are living now doesn’t resemble the world of our past where we had physical dangers, like vicious animals, hunting us.

In those past scenarios, our ‘danger’ system would come on for a short period until the danger is gone, and then shut off. But in modern life, it comes on and often stays on for long periods of time. Becoming an energy drain until we regulate again.

How do we regulate again? Enter the Physiological Sigh.

This was a classic part of my breathwork training from years ago, and it ties deeply into nervous system regulation as well.

Think of the breath for a moment in this scenario. When we are amped up or anxious, our breath becomes shallow and fast… amping us up further.

But what if you could consciously say “Hey, let’s do an intentionally longer exhale to slow our heart and nervous system down?”

That’s what the physiological sigh is all about!

Here’s how to do it:

1. First off, notice your body in the moment for a few seconds. Feel some of the energy in your system. Be with the experience you’re having right now.

2. Next, take two fairly deep inhales through the nose. (2 or 3 seconds total). Comfortably fill the belly first if you can, then the chest.

3. Then slowly exhale all the air out through the mouth, as relaxed as you can. (5 or 6 seconds total)

On the exhale, let your shoulders drop, let your body relax. Breathe eeeaaasssssyyy. And let it all out but don’t force or become tense.

4. Repeat this cycle a few times, and when you’re done, take one final big inhale through the nose, hold it for a second, and let it out with a sigh.

For about a minute or two, notice what changes after the breath. Pay curious attention.

Remember, use this when you feel a bit too amped up, or anxious, or when you are trying to settle your system bit.

Joe Martino


Sunday, October 27, 2024

Gabor Maté Used To Be A Zionist, Here's What Changed His Mind

Gabor Maté Used To Be A Zionist, Here's What Changed His Mind

As a Jew, Gabor Maté explains what he saw in occupied Palestinian territories when visiting.

By Joe Martino

Posted on October 24, 2024




Set Your Pulse: Take a breath. Turn your attention to your body and release any tension. Breathe slowly into the area of your heart for 60 seconds, focusing on feeling a sense of ease. Stay connected to your body as you read. Click here to learn why we suggest this.



Throughout human history, we have always changed our minds about things in the long run. But in the short term, it can be a lot harder. So while we are capable of changing our minds in the short term, what does it take?

I would suggest a willingness to do so, curiosity, a sense of safety in the body, and good faith (being fair as we explore). All key ingredients in my teachings around Embodied Sensemaking.

What does it look like when we don’t employ those qualities?

We call people names when they disagree with us. We refuse to include pertinent facts in our narrative and instead sweep them under the rug as if they don’t exist. We ignore the fact that our body sends a signal of resistance and defence (clenching and twisting), which shapes the cognitive bias we enter into - all while pretending we’re being objective.

These are just a few layers of what occurs. We can also mention ideology, echo chambers, algorithms etc.

With Embodied Sensemaking the invitation is to settle the body, notice it, pay attention to where resistance comes in, and get curious about why it’s there so we can stay at the table and make sense in good faith - with honest true curiosity. This helps us steer clear or be aware of our cognitive bias, and keep going. It helps us stay in a connected and curious mode, vs. a defensive and attacking mode.

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Ya, it takes work, but it’s our birthright to feel and explore this way. Our culture is so divorced from our natural self and we are so cognitively oriented that we’ve lost sight of how to make sense more deeply. It’s probably been like this for thousands of years. We kill each other, burn books, and hide information just to hold onto the old or maintain power.

Book burning during the English Revolution of the mid 1600’s.

All of this leads to what I want to point to regarding an important and controversial subject - the Israel and Palestine conflict and the Israeli government’s current genocide of the Palestinian people.

Gabor’s Shift

Gabor Maté is a Canadian doctor who has spent several decades focused on nervous system health and trauma. As a result, he sees personal illness, behavior, conditions, syndromes, etc. in a different—more complex way— that looks at what drives these things rather than judging them as bad or wrong.

The complexity of his thinking, willingness to look at deeper layers, and attunement to himself and emotions in the process help him look at tough things in a more meaningful light to make sense of them.

As I have suggested via Embodied Sensemaking, this process of exploring what drives us doesn’t have to stay stuck in clinical settings, it can be applied to how we make sense of our history, society, and future. This is the entire thesis of my work with Collective Evolution. But it takes some skill building to truly do it.

In the clip below, Maté describes his history of being a Jewish Zionist, and how that changed over time and through experience and gaining greater perspective.

This clip is a reminder for us to stay humble and ask: when it comes to any situation we feel so strongly about, what would it take for us to change our mind about it? If we can’t name something, it might mean we hold the idea too tightly. Further, if we want another to be open to changing their mind about it, how might we approach it?

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“I was one of the Zionists. I grew up places a young adolescent and into my late teens early 20s really believing that dream of the Jewish state. And of course, missing from that dream was the nightmare that was being inflicted on our Palestinians to create that Jewish dream.

As somebody already said, there was no way to create an exclusive national state for one people when there was another people already living there. So all the cruelty and all the dispossession, it had to happen and it did happen. And at that time it was justified as “well we were so hurt we were fighting for our survival.” OK if that was ever true, and I no longer agree with that point of view, if it was ever true it's certainly not true now.

After the first Intifada, I visited the Palestinian territories I cried every day for two weeks that I had actually bought into this nightmare because even then it was horrible the cruelties the daily brutalities of the occupation. The injustice of it. The sheer effrontery that I as a Jew born in Hungary could land in Tel Aviv airport tomorrow and claim citizenship where some Palestinian who was born there had ancestors rooted in there and they can't even visit as a refugee. The sheer injustice of it.

I travelled around the Palestinian territories with the medical delegation these days when demonstrators in Hong Kong throw stones at the police or demonstrators in Myanmar use slingshots against the army the New York Times celebrates them. When Palestinians throw stones at the police they're criminals whose army is justified to suppress.

I have something in my hand here I'm gonna knock it on the table. This is one of these so called “rubber bullets” that I picked up in the occupied territories that was shot at the heads of Palestinian kids. Rubber bullet? It’s metal encased in sheer plastic. So this is how fair that fight is.

When something like the current situation happens what people never hear about is the daily background. Daily, Palestinians are marching to the border demanding the right to return.

Now tell me, if I have the right to return having been born in Budapest with my ancestors maybe 2000 years ago having lived in the Middle East, why don't the Palestinians have the right to return? But when Palestinians demonstrate peacefully and they are shot and killed, their deaths are not even recorded in the newspapers here.

So my heart really hurts when I see this happen and people say “You support the Palestinians, you’re a Hamas supporter.” No you're not. But Hamas is nothing compared to the terrorism of the Israeli government. We're talking about a government capable of killing 20,000 civilians in Lebanon in 1982 and then we complain about Palestinian terrorism?

So what's lacking in this conversation is a complete lack of perspective. One does not have to support the policies of Hamas in order to stand up against this injustice. Nor does one have to support the policies of anybody to admire the resilience of the Palestinian people.”

Joe Martino

Sunday, April 9, 2023

8 Useful Tools For Discerning Truth In The Age of Information Warfare

8 Useful Tools For Discerning Truth In The Age of Information Warfare

By Joe Martino

Posted April 5, 2023





Experts often don't agree, we're drowning in information, and censorship is a very real thing - here's how to not get lost and confused navigating information.

Set Your Pulse: Take a breath. Release the tension in your body. Place attention on your physical heart. Breathe slowly into the area for 60 seconds, focusing on feeling a sense of ease. Click here to learn why we suggest this.

I wanted to present a quick collection of ideas, thoughts, and reflections that can act as tools for navigating the information landscape. It can be confusing out there, hopefully these tools make things easier.

I want to point out that we have the potential to live in a world where we would not have to have this level of discernment. It would be possible if we were less blinded by political ideologies, emotions, social media algorithms and censorship. But given this is the landscape we find ourselves in today, knowing how to weather the storm is essential.

1. Stay Present

This is first and foremost to me. Navigating our world and information has become purely cognitive. But we are not purely cognitive beings. We have gut and heart intelligence on top of our mental capacity, so why not bring it on board and master it?

Further, how we feel about something can give us insight into the beliefs, resistances, and emotions that may be shaping our perspectives.

How do we become aware of how we feel and activate our other forms of intelligence? By staying present and connected to our body.

Solution: Use the “Set Your Pulse” reminder we have above. It’s a fancy way of saying “take a breath and be human! You may have gotten lost in pure cognition. Come back to your body, to presence, and expand your consciousness a bit.”

It also won’t hurt to have some sort of practice that regularly teaches interoception, the ability to track your internal experience, sensations and emotions. Conscious breathing, somatic movement, yoga, and martial arts all build our interoception muscle. It’s a crucial aspect to exploring our world with clarity.

2. The Streetlight Effect

We can sometimes look for answers where it’s most convenient to, even if it’s a terrible place to look.

This one can be best summed up in a parable featuring the Seljuk Sufi mystic Nasrudin Hodja. The Indologist Wendy Doniger quotes this parable in her book, The Hindus: An Alternative History.

Someone saw Nasrudin searching for something on the ground. “What have you lost, Mulla?” he asked. “My key,” said the Mulla. So they both went down on their knees and looked for it. After a time the other man asked: “Where exactly did you drop it?” “In my own house.” “Then why are you looking here?” “There is more light here than inside my own house.”‘

It’s funny, but what’s even funnier is how true this is today. People tend to search for answers where it is easiest to look. Whether it’s from the 1 or 2 news sources they follow, a 15 second reel, or a 2 minute clip that their friend sends to them that lacks important context.


Whatever is simple and easy can often be how opinion is shaped. Social media trends, best selling books, what the ‘experts’ are saying are a few of many examples. But just because it’s easy and it’s where everyone is looking doesn’t mean it’s the best approach.

Solution: Our world is complex. Be willing to read full articles, even multiple at times. Watch more than just reels, 15 second clips and shorts - you’re likely not going to learn much from these.

3. Epistemic Humility

Instead of trying to be right, try to be less wrong.

As Jose Medina writes,

“When not taken to the extreme, attentiveness to one's cognitive limitations does not undermine one's confidence and erode one's character (that is, when it does not become pathological), epistemic humility can afford great benefits. Having a humble and self-questioning attitude toward one's cognitive repertoire can lead to many epistemic achievements and advantages.”

The key here is, you don’t have to obsess over your own thoughts and cognition. After all, we are beings with gut and heart intelligence as well, but we should not neglect our thinking in favour of other intelligences.

It’s common for people to believe they can derive all they need to know from intuition alone - I don’t align with this idea. Intuition is incredibly important, but we have a brain, cognition, and complex thinking for a reason. We use it everyday, why not master it along with heart and gut intelligence?

Solution: Keep an eye on your desire to become certain about something. Be comfortable with being uncertain. Often times it is hard to know an absolute truth. It is better to understand how to be less wrong than trying to be absolutely right.

4. Be Aware of “Experts”

No, I’m not saying people can’t be experts. In fact, I think we need highly skilled and focused people like experts. But to me there are two reasons to think critically about what experts say:

For every PhD that is out there, there is another PhD that was granted proving the opposite thesis. This simply means experts can present conclusions that are the complete opposite to one another, and it’s not uncommon for experts to completely disagree.

People are people, yet it’s easy to forget that. When certain individuals have some letters after their name and rise up in the ranks of fame, we tend to not think as critically about what they have to say as we can become mesmerized by their ‘social proof.’

These people all poo and wipe their butt. This, of course, is a way of saying, they are human just like you and me. They are fallible and prone to having shortsighted views at times - especially as they get busier and busier in the unrealistic schedule that’s demanded of them in order to keep up with all of their fame. (And this is only one potential source of bias.)

In a world driven by trends, constant social media posting to stay relevant, and the need to have ‘a take’ on everything popular, the ecosystem of information incentivizes people to join conversations they know little about - yes, even the ‘experts.’

Solution: Be open to arguments from opposing experts. Don’t pedestal an expert or turn them into a guru. Remember, they may not have looked into something they post as deeply as you think. They are busy. Check out our conversation on what to do when experts don’t agree.

5. Uninformed Opinions

One of the most common things I see today on social media and real life is people taking strong positions on things they haven’t considered deeply.

As someone who loves asking questions and understanding why people feel the way they do, when people claim strong positions on something I often dig deeper to understand how they arrived at their positions and what evidence, feelings, experiences, or intuitions might back it.

Sometimes people will smile and admit they don’t really know the subject too well. Others will repeat talking points they heard from their favourite presenter or someone at work. While others will lay out a really beautiful explanation to which we can discuss and build upon - which is a lot of fun.

Because people often don’t like changing their mind or feel embarrassed if they have to, taking strong positions without true consideration can be problematic.

Solution: Before taking a strong stance on an issue, check whether you have taken the time to inquire deeply on it. Have you listened to multiple sides and perspectives? Do you even need to take a STRONG stance right now?

6. Echo Chambers & Repetition

We’ve all see the mash up videos showing mainstream new sources saying the same key phrases over and over again, smashing home an idea and sentiment with repetition - even when the idea is not true or solid.

The truth is, I could make the same mash up videos with many indie news creators spouting equally incomplete information. Indoctrination occurs through echo chambers and repetition. This is done when creators of this content find news that will continue to fit their view, without honestly bringing up greater context or differing perspectives.

Solution: Regularly explore different news sources. I check out anything from alt sources to the New York Times, to the Atlantic etc. Clashing perspectives is healthy. Sure, you can set aside extreme voices if you like, but there are many grounded people sharing opposing arguments. Seek to understand them and integrate their experience of life. Doing this helps us become more resistant to being fooled.

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7. Noble Cause Corruption

This is often seen in woke ideology, but isn’t uncommon in truth seekers and other circles as well.

Noble cause corruption is when people do bad things in the name of ‘good.’ ‘The ends justifying the means’ so to speak. People are convinced of their self- righteousness and will do anything within their power to get the result they want.

We saw this deeply with censorship during COVID. Good and intelligent people got caught in a place of being certain about what their governments and health authorities were saying. They also deeply believed in government propaganda that stated “those questioning things are bad.”

This led to the acceptance that people should be fined, jailed, censored, smeared, and become financially unstable. All of these means were justified by the end of stopping critical thought about COVID policy so people would ‘shut up and follow the rules.’

To be fair, some people were willing to publish false, sensational, and misleading information about vaccine injuries for ‘the greater good of waking people up’ as well. It’ sounds like a good idea at the time, but truthfully only hurts the cause. The ‘in crowd’ might like it, but everyone else only walks further away.

Generally, there is enough good and grounded information out there to invite people to open their minds.

Solution: Keep and eye on and reflect on self-righteousness and ideas that seek to control other people in the name of ‘the greater good.’ If we have to trick people or force people into accepting ideas, they probably aren’t well thought out and clear enough.

8. Our Preferences & Wishes

Sometimes when navigating information about a subject we might WANT or prefer something to be true. For example, we might prefer that Donald Trump is a bigger criminal than Hillary Clinton, so we might only look at information or evidence that suggests this to be true and ignore the rest or call it “conspiracy.”

Further, our desires make it so only a tiny shred of evidence is needed to prove the thing we want to be true, while mountains are needed to change our mind.

Notice this isn’t confirmation bias here. We’re talking about something deeper. A feeling, a desire, an emotion, something that is pulling at us for a deeper reason.

Solution: Notice your feelings. Notice your emotions. Notice the ways in which you might have resistances to certain outcomes and how quickly you disqualify some evidence while making tiny shreds into gold. See if you can strip your own desires and wishful thoughts out of the equation and explore more holistically.

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Develop skills to stay connected to yourself and body while taking in information and communicating


Joe Martino